3 Hardest Lessons I Learned In The Year 2022

I’m alive, I’m here, I’m present, and I’m grateful.

I always have this dream of changing the world, but growing up, I had no idea how — let alone what I wanted to do with my life.

So I tried many different things. I studied hard, worked at MNCs in different countries, backpacked, and solo traveled a lot.

I started my blog, and newsletter in 2021, and thought maybe this is the way to make an impact.

I kept on looking outward, never truly feeling any sense of contentment or peace until I recognized that everything lies with us. And all the change that you’re seeking in your life first begins with you.

Change the inside, and the outside falls into place.

Below are the lessons that helped me transform my thinking and how I look at things in 2022.

#1 Your life is yours to live. Take accountability for your own choices.

Learn from it and move on.

This is the year I fully recognized and accepted the choices that I have made throughout life.

Instead of blaming people, situations, or external factors- I accepted it was all me and made peace with whatever outcome I get in the end.

And the truth is, you are capable of creating your truth whatever you please, but what’s standing in the way between where you are and where you want to be is you.

Not time, not money, not circumstances — you. And do you know why? It’s because you are your greatest enemy.

I know it’s not easy especially when you go through mental trauma, and emotional challenges when you still think that people have wronged you all the time.

But the truth is that as a human we all have self-destructive patterns, and it’s easy to blame other people, and situations and very hard to own it up.

It took me many therapy sessions, internal work, and self-awareness to accept my shortcomings.

Instead of feeling like a victim of life, take the charge and own it up.

If you are still living in anger, or resentment about something that has happened way back in time, seek a different perspective through therapy, consulting, or talking to your trusted friends and family.

It’s hard to acknowledge your own weakness and fault. Though the truth is this anger never served you right, so why not try to let go of old emotions, and beliefs and own it up and start with an upgraded mindset?

Sometimes your mind is your own worst enemy.

Recently a close friend told me — we react toward our own biases and fears and it’s nothing to do with anything else. So wise.

In 2023, look inwards and see what you find.

Sometimes the world is trying to tell you who you are, but if you don’t stop to reflect and listen, you’ll never be able to hear.

#2 Change is not easy. Change is very hard.

It’s okay to feel lost sometimes; the truth is that you owe nothing to your younger self, but you owe everything to your present self.

When I was in my 20s, I used to think that feeling lost was something to be ashamed of. Now I realize it’s the normal because life is not a straight line.

It’s a journey of self-discovery and creation. Whether it’s physical change or mental change, both are difficult to achieve.

So instead to try to change everything, take smaller steps and check how to feel and why you feel it.

This year I tried to change many things at the same time, and it left me tired, exhausted, and uninspired.

I took a rest, break but my mind was constantly running.

And instead of changing, I embraced the present and slowly crafted ways to shift a few aspects of my life.

The person you are today is not responsible for being the person you once thought you would want to become.

So if you feeling overwhelmed, and thinking about why things are like this, take a step back, reassess, reexamine, and see what is most important for you to change right now.

And it’s okay to feel lost or feel like you don’t know what you’re doing with your life — you’re not expected to have it all figured out because it’s a process.

Whether it’s your fitness, career, relationships, current habits- anything, pick one and give your best.

Embrace the fact that even though change isn’t easy but it’s always worth it. And you are capable of it. Learned the lessons, drop the excuses and get going.

#3 Wherever you go you will follow yourself.

This is one of the hardest lessons I learned this year: You think after changing your surroundings, moving between places can make a greater impact, sometimes yes, but if your habits and mindset are still the same, it’s not going to do anything well.

Because ultimately it’s you and your core nature/instincts are still the same. And it can lead you to behave and do things in similar ways if not the same.

So if you want to upgrade your life, the first and foremost thing I upgrade is my mindset, and how I think.

It can truly make an impact in a long run.

So what if you couldn’t get your dream job, or brought a new car, or couldn’t close the most important deal of your life? It’s okay, in between you may have accomplished a lot of things. Like while preparing for interviews, your communication and knowledge may have improved.

Nothing in your life will change if you don’t take action toward creating the change that you want to see.

How do you find out what you want in life?

You lean into what you think you want and take action toward it. That’s the best answer I can give you because here’s what I’ve learned: Action generates more clarity than thought.

All you have is “the now” and what you do with it.

The past is done and dusted, all you can do is reflect on it to learn from it. And the future does not yet exist, but it is defined by what you decide to do at this very next moment.

All we have is the present.

“Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise so I am changing myself.”

Lastly,

With this new perspective, you will realize that you have power and influence and you have more control on your life than you think.

You will realize complaining, postponing, procrastinating, and excuses will render your time obsolete.

Stop dwelling in an abyss of excuses. Instead, start respecting your time because it’s yours to live.

I’ve chosen a simple life, and that is what I’m making it to be.

I’m alive, I’m here, I’m present, and I’m grateful.

I hope you are too.

What is your lessons this year, share in comments.

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