15 Ridiculously Simple Tips to Get the Guy of Your Dreams to Finally Ask You Out

We’ve all been there. You meet a guy, and you think he’s amazing.

He’s charming, funny, and you can’t help but feel drawn to him. You do everything you can to show him that you’re interested, but he still doesn’t ask you out.

Don’t worry, because I have some ridiculously simple tips that will help get him to finally take the plunge and ask you out.

Trust me. These tips work like a charm.

So read on for 15 easy ways to get the guy of your dreams to ask you out!

1. Get rid of bad habits

People who are constantly flirting with everybody, hanging out in bars alone, and neglecting their physical appearance are not going to be the best girlfriend material. Men look for women who take care of themselves and don’t act like party girls all the time.

2. Look confident in front of him

Men like women who are not afraid to show their feelings, but they don’t want someone who constantly needs reassurance. They want a woman who radiates self-confidence and doesn’t act like she’s constantly seeking approval from others. If you can find that balance, he will be sure to notice you.

3. Know what to do when he asks you out on a date

Men are not mind readers, so they can’t read your thoughts. If you want him to ask you out, make it clear that you’re interested. He doesn’t need to know exactly how you feel or what you think of him, though. A simple smile and a quick question like “do you want to hang out sometime?” is usually enough, so don’t overthink it and start blushing if he asks something like that.

4. Try not to freak out if he doesn’t ask you right away

Make sure you give him enough time to get to know you. There are no guarantees that he’s going to ask you out next week, or tomorrow, or even tonight. You just have to be patient and let nature take its course. Sooner or later, there will come a day when he finally asks you out on a date, so promise yourself it will happen no matter what.

5. Prepare yourself for the worst-case scenario

It’s time to face reality, because there’s a chance that he might not be into you after all. Many girls think they’re on the verge of meeting their soulmate only to end up getting rejected. If this has happened to you before (and it probably did), you know how it feels. But there is no need to get discouraged or give up completely, because you can always try again with someone else.

6. Know what to do on first dates

If you’re just getting to know each other, you should go slow with physical contact. If you’re not sure if he’s into you or not, let him take the lead. When it comes to dating, men are pretty predictable most of the time, so they will most likely act like gentlemen around you. But don’t be surprised if they make the first move once in a while — as long as you don’t mind it.

7. Go on second dates and keep your options open afterwards

Sometimes, the first date is enough for a man to know whether he’s attracted to you or not. But if he wants to spend more time with you after that, then chances are good that he really likes you. You don’t have to worry about making it awkward if he’s still hanging out with you after the first date. Just go with the flow and always be friendly.

8. Make sure he’s not already involved with someone else

If this has happened before, then next time try not to develop feelings for him so quickly. Don’t always assume he’s interested just because you’re the one pursuing him. Sometimes, guys need a little nudge in that direction before they can open up to someone new. If you have feelings for him but want to keep your options open, then it’s probably best if you don’t talk about it and let things take their course.

9. Don’t be afraid to make the first move

Passive hold-outs won’t get you what you want. The idea of making the first move might be intimidating, but there’s no reason to wait around for him to do it. If you’re interested, make it clear.

A man isn’t going to make the first move if he doesn’t feel like it — and if he doesn’t feel like it, you’re not going to get what you want.

That’s why you need to monitor his behavior and make the first move yourself: If he’s flirting with you, flirt back. If he seems interested in dating but is waiting for an invitation from you… give him one. Give him a reason to ask you out.

You can try subtle (flirty text messages) or bold (asking him to drinks) approaches, but whatever you take, don’t let yourself fall into a passive hold-out. Studies show that women who wait for men to ask them out are more likely to end up single than those who approach guys themselves.

So don’t be afraid to make the first move, and you’ll have a much better chance of pleasing your crush.

10. Be a girl who guys want to date

Put yourself out there and live your life like an attractive girl. Even if you don’t want to date anyone at the moment, it’s still important that guys see you as a potential dating partner.

If you’re confident and happy with yourself, other people will be drawn to that positive energy. So even if nothing comes of your crush on this guy, another guy will be attracted to you for all the right reasons. So make sure that you always have a positive attitude and a smile on your face, and guys will wonder why you’re so happy without them.

11. Eliminate any obstacles in the way of him asking you out

If your man isn’t asking you out, it might be because there are obstacles in his way. He might not feel confident enough to ask someone out, or he may have a fear of rejection.

If you want to eliminate any obstacles that are keeping your man from asking you out, try being direct with him about what you want… and give him the opportunity to overcome his fear.

For example, if he asks you to do something with him at the weekend, say, “I want to make sure that when you ask me out again, I’m free. Tell me what day is good for you.” If he’s nervous about asking you out because of the “no” response in the past, make it easy for him: “So when will I know when you want to see me again?”

If he’s got the confidence but still hasn’t asked you out, try complimenting his appearance and saying that your crush is obvious. If there isn’t any obstacle in your way, then perhaps the problem is that he just doesn’t like you in that way.

12. Remain patient and don’t be too pushy

If you want to know if he likes you, the answer isn’t so simple. So don’t push him into asking you out before he’s ready.

One of the most important pieces of advice for getting your crush to ask you out is to not rush him. If he’s interested in you, he will let you know in his own time — so don’t put stress on yourself by wondering if he likes you or trying to hurry the process along.

If your crush hasn’t asked you out but still wants to do things together, make sure that there aren’t any “obstacles” in the way. He may be interested in you, but there could be a problem that he has to overcome before asking you out.

For example, he might not have enough time or money… so if either of those things are going to be a problem for him, try doing things together when he’s free and try doing free things instead of expensive ones.

13. Don’t wait around for Mr. Right if you have Mr. Right now

It’s easy to get caught up in fairy tales and crush on the guy who is completely out of your league. It just seems like he fell right out of the sky, so no one could blame you for wanting him even if it doesn’t seem likely that he’ll be interested in you — but you have to keep things in perspective.

The truth is that perfect guys don’t exist, and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment by looking beyond your reach. Besides, if he has those amazing qualities you’ve been looking for then there’s no reason to wait around for him when you actually have a decent guy who likes you right now.

The key to making guys come around and ask you out is to make yourself seem like a better prospect. If you sit back and wait for Mr. Perfect, then you’re never going to get the attention of any guy, much less the one who really wants you.

Keep an open mind about finding the perfect guy — but don’t hold out for him if you already have a good one.

14. Don’t get distracted by other guys

It’s easy to get distracted when you’re trying to ask out Mr. Right because of all the other guys that are showering you with attention. You might find it hard to ignore other men who are showing an interest in you, but keep your eye on the prize.

The guy who you really want is the one that’s going to appreciate your feelings and reciprocate them. He might not be as available as some of the others, but he’ll make a much better fit for you in the long run.

Don’t make the mistake of giving up on him in order to go after the guy who is most immediately available. Like I said, there’s always tomorrow, and you never know what will happen between now and then.

Remember, perfect guys don’t exist — but if you look hard enough, you’ll find someone that has all of your best interests at heart.

15. Don’t give up

Never doubt yourself or your potential. There’s a great guy out there for you. It might take a little bit of time to find him, but he’s out there somewhere, and you have the chance to meet him.

So don’t let yourself be discouraged if someone doesn’t ask you out right away. Just keep your chin up and try again with another guy who catches your eye! You’ll have much better luck if you just relax and let your life take its natural course.

Then one day, you’ll get that text message asking you out for coffee, and you’ll know it’s finally time to start dating. So, ignore your fears and take a chance. And remember: if it doesn’t work out this time, someone better is coming along very soon.

The bottom line

There’s no need to overcomplicate things when it comes to getting the guy of your dreams to ask you out. Sometimes all it takes is a bit of charm and persuasion.

If your man isn’t asking you out, try these tips to find out if he likes you… and make sure that when he does ask you out, it’s on your terms. The best way to know if he likes me is by spending time with him and observing.

If you want to know if he likes you, it’s essential that you spend time with him and observe the way he behaves around you — as well as the way he treats you. And don’t forget: If your man will make a move on its own, all the better! Otherwise, you’ll need to step in and show him the way.

It’s possible that he doesn’t feel sure about asking you out, so watch for small signs — like how often he asks to see you or what activities he suggests. He could be shy or need a little push to know if you’re feeling the same way about him!

Once you’ve observed the way he interacts with you, consider these tips to help you figure out if he likes you in a romantic way or not. If there isn’t any obstacle in your way, then perhaps the problem is that he just doesn’t like you in that way.

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