23 Dating Tips for the Clueless Man
Every woman deserves to be treated well by the man in her life, whether he is her boyfriend, husband, or just a friend with benefits.
Sadly, not all men know how to act around women and many wind up spoiling their chances with the opposite sex through their own ineptitude.
If you are one of these clueless men, don’t worry — you’re not alone. We’ve put together some tips that will help you out when it comes to dating women. Check them out below.
#1 — Don’t Talk Too Much
It’s okay to have a conversation but, if you spend too much time talking about yourself and not asking the woman you are with any questions, it is going to be pretty obvious that you’re not interested in her.
You should ask about her interests and what she does for fun; this way, you will learn what kinds of things she likes and can plan dates and activities around those things.
#2 — Don’t Brag About Your Exes
Don’t talk about your ex-girlfriends or how you used to treat them. This is a surefire way to make your date feel like crap about herself.
If you have to bring up your past, talk about how much you learned from those relationships and why they didn’t work out.
#3 — Be Open to New Things
You may want to stick with what you know but this doesn’t do anything for your date. She wants somebody who is open to exploring different things together.
If she is a super-adventurous type, take her bungee jumping or skydiving — if she’s more of a small talk person, plan a night at the theater.
#4 — Don’t Be Too Possessive
If you want the woman in your life to love and respect you, you can’t be too possessive. If she has a job, don’t ask her if she’s going to leave it as soon as she gets married or complain about how late she stays out because of work.
You should be happy that she has something that makes her happy and confident in herself.
#5 — Be Open with Your Feelings
It can be scary to tell somebody you’re interested in them but, if you are too afraid of rejection or being humiliated, she is going to pick up on it pretty quick.
There’s nothing wrong with being honest, so if you find somebody who makes your heart race and your palms sweaty, let her know.
#6 — Be Yourself
Even if it’s a first date, you should still be yourself instead of trying to pretend to be somebody else. If she doesn’t like you for who you are now, chances are she certainly won’t like you in the future.
#7 — Don’t Overload on the Gifts
It is nice to give gifts but you don’t want to look like you’re buying your date’s affection by giving her something every time you see her. If she’s the type who gets a little uncomfortable with a lot of gifts, giving too much will make her feel bad.
#8 — Give a Woman Some Space
If you give your date a little space, she’ll feel more comfortable with you and it will be easier to get closer. If she’s looking for space from you, this is a huge red flag.
You don’t want to come on too strong and scare your date away but neither do you want to be so distant that they lose interest.
You should have some personal space but you shouldn’t be giving off “I’m not interested” signals. You want to find that middle ground where you are open and friendly without coming on too strong.
#9 — Don’t Rush Things
Doing things too quickly is a mistake that can cost you, so don’t rush into sex or ask your date to move in with you just because you’re having fun.
If you are rushing things, it will become apparent pretty soon and the woman will lose interest.
If you’re sleeping with your date on the first night, it’s not going to go over very well. And don’t try to move in for a kiss on the first date. Women like a man who knows what he wants and will wait for it.
#10 — Respect Her Opinions
You don’t want her to think that her opinion is the only one that matters but you should also show her that you respect her beliefs and care about what she thinks.
Remember; even if you don’t agree with your date, try not to act like it’s the end of the world.
You want your date to like you for who you are, not somebody who tells them everything they want to hear.
#11 — Shut Down the Negativity
If you can’t find something nice to say about your date or your surroundings, don’t say anything at all. Nobody wants to hear how much of a struggle it is for you to get ready and nobody wants their date to talk about their previous relationships either.
#12 — Have A Sense of Humor
You don’t want to use it as a way to cover up your feelings or make fun of your date but you should be able to laugh at yourself and not take things too seriously.
It will show her that you have confidence in yourself, so if she walks into a door or trips, you should be able to laugh about it.
#13 — Listen Carefully to What She Says
If you listen carefully and hear what she’s saying, it will become easier to figure out if you have things in common. If your date says that they like spaghetti and you don’t even know what that is, you should ask yourself if you’ve got enough in common to make the date worthwhile.
#14 — Don’t Try Too Hard to Impress Her
If you’re too desperate to impress her, she’ll see right through it and your act will be up. You don’t want to lay it on so thick that she’s bored or unimpressed.
#15 — Don’t Pout
While you don’t want to seem uninterested, you should avoid looking too excited because nobody wants to date somebody who is overly eager.
If she suggests splitting the bill or says “we can just be friends”, don’t pout at her and try not to act like you’re too psyched.
#16 — Don’t Make Her Feel Uncomfortable
If you make her feel like she’s doing something wrong or that you are judging her, she’ll lose interest and it will be hard for her to enjoy the date.
Don’t tell your date how much money you make or harp on about your job because it will just come off as arrogant.
#17 — Let Her Talk
If your date is talking, that means she wants to be heard so just listen to her attentions and show that you’re listening by reacting accordingly.
Don’t be the first one to speak, let her talk. Even if you disagree with what she’s saying, show her that you’re interested in what she has to say.
#18 — Don’t Talk About Her Exes
Don’t bring up old flames or ask how many other guys she’s gone out with because it will just cause unnecessary drama. You want to avoid talking about anything that could be perceived as negative so stick with the topic of her work or interests and talk about something else when she’s finished.
#19 — Pay Attention to Her Body Language
If you take note of her body language, you will be able to pick up on what she’s saying so you should try to notice when she’s crossed her arms or if she looks bored.
#20 — Be Honest with Her
Even if it means admitting that something isn’t going your way, tell her the truth. Don’t say that you love an activity if you don’t because it will make the date go poorly.
If she’s done something that makes you feel uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to tell her instead of keeping your feelings bottled up.
Being honest with your date is always best in the long run so don’t do anything else just to impress her.
#21 — Don’t Act Like a Know It All
Nobody likes a know-it-all so if you know something, keep it to yourself instead of making her feel stupid. If she asks for your opinion, give it but don’t be condescending about it.
#22 — Play Nice with the Wait Staff
You should never forget that the wait staff is there to help you and serve you so don’t be rude. If you’re in a restaurant, tip well and offer to pay for dinner.
#23 — Dress Nicely
You should always dress nicely when going out with somebody because it shows respect. Make an effort to dress the part and not look like you’ve been dragged out from under a rock.
A suit is always a safe bet for a first date but if it’s summertime, avoid wearing heavy clothing.
The bottom line
There’s no doubt that men can be clueless when it comes to dating. If you’re one of those guys who could use a little help, don’t worry — you’re not alone. In this post, we have given you some tips that will make your dating life easier. So read and learn what you need to do to become a better dater.
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