You’ve Hard Wired Your Problems, Here’s How to Change Them

3 common problems you accidentally created for yourself

There’s a lot of content out there about creating powerful morning routines, and other healthy habits. These healthy rituals can absolutely propel you into a happier and healthier life.

Here we’re going to talk about the flip side, and how consciously or subconsciously, rituals and habit have hardwired in some of your problems.

Feeling frequent pain in your body

You strained your back once doing a specific movement or activity, so you avoid that thing. Or you carry around a special pillow or support of some sort. Or you become accustomed to getting a massage or adjustments to the spine on a regular basis.

You become dependent on the rituals and routines so you won’t suffer a consequence. You mind creates the links: If I do this I won’t have pain, and if I don’t do this, I will have pain.

How to unwire the belief. Your body is resilient. It heals and regulates itself. Learn to trust its abilities. Listen to your body and let it tell you what it can and can not do at the moment rather than assuming you can’t do something. Don’t believe you’ll have to pay a price for using your body as it was designed.

Feeling ignored

Maybe it started early in childhood. I can relate, I was the third child and very small in stature.

You raise your opinion and someone laughed at you. Or they shrugged off your views.

Your brain begins to notice every time you don’t get the reaction you expect, so you change your approach. You develop habits that make the problem worse.

Maybe you withdraw and don’t bother sharing your views. Maybe you become loud and aggressive in an attempt to be heard. Either way, it’s a turnoff and people still ignore you.

How to unwire the belief. Recognize that you do have an equal voice. Your voice isn’t less than or greater than other voices. Your authentic voice shouldn’t be withheld, nor does it need to dominate others.

Associate with people who are willing to give space for your thoughts and opinions.

Not all our opinions are accepted by others all the time. Some times they will be rejected or ignored, but that’s not a rejection of you.

Feeling like you don’t fit in

Frequently feeling ignored or like you don’t fit in with people you want to be part of can leave you feeling like something is missing. Or it can feel like something is either wrong with you or wrong with all those other people.

You may become fiercely independent and believe you can’t count on anyone else. You can become aloof.

Or, you can become clingy and try too hard. Either way, people will see these behaviors as unapproachable.

How to unwire the belief. You’re not meant to be a replicate of anyone else. We’re all like puzzle pieces. On part of you will fit with another person or group, and other parts will fit with other people or groups.

Give people space and freedom to be themselves, including yourself.

Take inventory

Whatever it is that’s nagging at you, take a step back from the problem. Examine your beliefs and behaviors and see how you’ve unintentionally contributed to the pattern.

If you get stuck in your head thinking about it, or if your ego starts feeling hostile or defensive, get out a piece of paper and write it out instead.

These are areas of your life where small shifts in mindset and behavior will make a big impact.

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