Your Victories Today Don’t Count Tomorrow.
There is no room for smugness when you have had a successful day or have won a great victory.
Have you finally written your book, have you run your first Marathon, or have you led your dream partner to the altar? Then I say congratulations. But I also say, “Look out!”
From now on, you have something to lose. All these events seem to be endings of a long journey. Your book is finished after months, maybe years of work. The finish line of the Marathon is the end of countless hours of training. The wedding is your reward for carrying your partner on your hands and making him or her happy and in love with you again and again.
At the end of such days, we feel invincible, and we are incredibly proud of ourselves. After so much effort, dedication, and after such a long time, we have finally achieved what we wanted.
And precisely at this moment we often make a crucial mistake. We really believe that we have reached a final state. We believe that this feeling of happiness will continue just because we have achieved this victory once.
But life and time do not freeze once we believe we have reached an end state.
Your book may be written, but no one has read it yet. The feeling of triumph will not last because you have to do marketing or find a publisher from now on. Suddenly you realize that you have not really reached an end goal. If anything, you have only taken the first step of a long journey.
You have managed the Marathon, but already from the next day on, you gradually lose the endurance you have trained so hard. What you have achieved will not last, unless you continue to train precisely as before.
Your partner is now wearing your ring, but the rest of your shared life begins the day after the wedding. Once you take your partner for granted, you will start to lose him or her.
Goals are deceptive because we believe that we are satisfied when we have achieved them. We consider achieved goals to be the end of the process and thus misunderstand the nature of life.
Our life is itself a process, and everything we do is also a process. No means that we initiate in our life ends in our lifetime.
When we invest work to create a state, we create artificial order in a system. If we leave a system unattended, the disorder within the system increases over time.
This is a complicated way of saying: If you don’t take care of it, it will go down the drain.
Your book will be forgotten if you do not care to market it, your body will lose the stamina it has gained if you stop exercising, and your marriage will fail if you stop treating your partner as attentively as you used to.
When this happens, there can be two reasons. Either it happens because the goal was not as relevant to you as you initially thought. Maybe you didn’t want to become a writer and only finished the book because you hate not finishing things you started. Perhaps you realized that running does not mean as much to you as you initially thought. It is also possible that you married your partner out of a sense of duty.
If that is the case, then it is okay. You have developed in one direction and now realize that you want to go in a different direction in the future.
But the second possibility is much more likely. You really wanted what you had achieved and would be devastated to lose it again. But, you lose it anyway because you have not understood the principle that today’s successes are worthless tomorrow.
Being a writer is not a goal but a process.
Being a marathon runner is not a goal but a process.
Being married is not a goal but a process.
The moment you think you’ve achieved a goal, you begin to lose it again. Only if you continue to do everything you have done to obtain it, you have a chance to reach further goals within this process.
If you do not write any more books, you are no longer a writer.
If you stop training for a marathon, you are no longer a marathon runner.
If you stop honoring and loving your partner, you will soon no longer be married.
So choose your goals wisely, because they’re not really goals. Goals determine the way you will live long after you have reached your goal.
René Junge a published author writing on ILLUMINATION.
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