You Won’t Meet Your Full Potential If You Never Live Alone

Your parents are holding you back.

I don’t like living with my parents.

Don’t get me wrong, living with them is comfortable in a way that I feel loved, chores are almost non-existent, and my meals are always delicious and nutritious. My mom even makes me fresh mango, guava, or orange juice every morning.

Compared to living alone, my quality of life’s great. But the comfort is at the expense of finding my true self.

Your Parents Demand A Lot of Your Time

What I mean by a lot is a tremendous amount. I would be writing, reading, or studying, and my mom would ask me to taste her cooking, help her with the bread she’s making, or ask me about why an app on her phone is not working.

While my dad would silently scrutinize me for not sweeping the floor that day or for not helping mom, the list goes on.

The problem is you can’t even say no because you’re living under them.

If you say you’re busy, they would most likely say, “It’s not going to take a lot of your time anyway.” But before you know it, two hours have passed, and you’re still there trying to figure out whatever problems your parents have.

See, when you’re living alone, there’s no such thing.

Of course, there are chores, you have to do your own cooking, and other trivial daily things that you have to complete, but you can always mold them into your schedule.

With no external demands, you can focus solely on enriching yourself and following through with your plan to achieve your goals.

You Turn into A Child with Your Parents Around

One of the reasons why I used to like coming back to my parents’ during breaks is because I can let go of all my responsibilities and be a child again, and no one would mind.

When I live alone, I’m a perfectly fine cook. I add whatever seasoning my heart desires, and I’m sure that my cooking will turn out great. Or at least edible.

But when I’m with my parents, I find myself asking my mom about whether I should add more salt or tomato sauce. Is water enough? Should I add more herbs to this?

You’ll find yourself depending on your parents more.

By continuously living with them, you’ll never learn to be fully independent.

Your Parents is A Lullaby to Your Personal Desires

Before moving out of my parents for university abroad, I was completely fine with being financially dependent on them. I couldn’t buy what I wanted, but it wasn’t the end of the world.

But when I was abroad, I was given a lot of opportunities to earn myself an extra allowance. My lecturer would offer me to be a server for canape events many times, and I even got myself a part-time job for a while.

I was able to save and buy gifts for my family, friends, and myself. It was exhilarating.

Now that I’m back with my parents because of the pandemic with no earnings, I find myself searching for ways to make money online. There’s an itch to earn money.

And it’s not just about money.

Having people around, especially someone you know like your parents, when you want to try something new is not an easy thing to do. People are watching you, and that puts you under pressure.

By living alone, you can try as many new things as you want. No one will be there to judge your decisions or if you fail at something.

Living without your parents gives you the freedom to explore, and exploring is the key to eventually finding what you want, like, and dislike to do.

Final Thoughts

Living with your parents is great. But most of the time, living with them puts you into the role of their child. Your time will be used more on trying to provide whatever you can to the family instead of for yourself.

If you’ve never lived alone, try it at least once. You’ll find yourself molding into an individual instead of staying in one box.

With that said, I’m guilty of not doing this but if you do move out, call your parents now and then. They would want to know how you’re doing.

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