5 Lies You Tell Your Long-distance Friends to Make Yourself Feel Tremendously Better
Your friends know that you’re lying.
We’ve all lied for the sake of other’s feelings, but was it really for them?
So far, I’ve had three farewells with three different groups of friends in a span of five years. Naturally, I drifted apart from many and only stayed in contact with the closest ones in those groups.
Those who drifted apart are usually the friends who you’re quite close, only because you’re in the same group of friends. They are who lie to you most, and so, you do too.
“I miss you.”
No, no, you don’t miss me. Stop saying you are, we all know you don’t.
You’re completely fine without me, and you probably don’t even think about me that often. Maybe once a year or five times a year, thanks to my posts on Instagram. Or maybe not at all.
Let’s face it. You just think that it’s right to tell me you miss me, so that’s what you do.
Well, stop it.
You’re guilt-tripping me into saying something that I don’t mean either. You say you miss me and turns me into a bad person when I don’t say it back. But who’s the actual villain here?
I get it. You might think that I would want to be missed. That’s probably true if I had impacted your life greatly, but I’m pretty sure I didn’t, so it’s cool.
Drop the I miss you’s, the feeling’s mutual anyway.
“Let’s meet up when you’re in town.”
My favorite lie because it used to be the lie that hurt me the most.
“Hey, I’m in town now, wanna meet up?” I texted some and posted it on my social media.
Silence.
Or even better, “Hey, I can’t. Sorry.” Which was fine as we all have our own busyness, I get it.
But I was in town for a month, what got you so busy for 30 days straight that you can’t even spare an hour or two to meet up? I mean, I see you there going out and meeting others who are always in town.
Don’t say we’ll meet up next time and get my hopes up when we both know that we won’t meet.
Really, you can save yourself from typing seven extra words and hurting someone’s feelings, it isn’t that hard.
“I love you.”
You don’t even miss me, let alone love me. *Sigh* I don’t think I’ll ever understand people who can say these three words without care.
A few of you probably do mean it, but most of you are just throwing it in the air like the I miss you.
Love is too strong of a word for our radio silence friendship, don’t you think? I mean, you never even said it when it wasn’t a long-distance relationship. So, why do you feel like you have to say it now that we are?
It’s okay that you don’t love me, but you probably still care about me even just for a little, and that’s why you said so.
But maybe say the words only on special occasions so that your lie won’t be too obvious.
Again, the feeling’s mutual anyway.
“I’ll visit you next time.”
I appreciate the intention. But what makes you think that you’re gonna be willing to spend your time and money to visit me when we don’t even make time to text each other now and then, or meet when I’m in your town?
Enough with the flattery. It’s not flattering me in any way, but rather, I feel pathetic somehow, and I don’t even know why.
What’s worse is that I keep on holding onto the sliver of hope that it might actually happen.
“We should text or call more often.”
I’m guilty of saying this too. To be honest, I didn’t mean to lie about it. But when I remember that I should text him or her, my brain went blank.
Well, maybe it’s for the best.
I probably said it only to make me feel better for not reaching out more often.
Final Thoughts
I don’t know about you, but I still get and sometimes tell those lies.
But just like how readers know when an article is written with passion or not, the receiving end of those lies will know too.
The intentions when telling those lies may be good, but nothing good will come out when the actions don’t match with the words.
So, it’s better to stay silent.
But if you do mean those words, you do you.
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