Summary

The article discusses the emotional challenges of being single on Valentine's Day and suggests ways to embrace self-love and potentially find a partner.

Abstract

The author of the article reflects on the discomfort experienced by single individuals during Valentine's Day, emphasizing the societal pressure to be in a relationship. With statistics showing a significant number of single households in the U.S., the author humorously suggests self-dating activities as a means to cope with the holiday. The piece acknowledges that the bitterness of being single can lead to a self-centered perspective, but encourages readers to remain open to love, both for others and oneself, while rejecting the idea of a perfect love. The article concludes with practical advice for single people to engage in recreational activities and be patient in their search for a partner, advocating for self-improvement and self-love as key components of the journey towards finding a meaningful relationship.

Opinions

The author admits to a personal dislike for Valentine's Day due to feelings of loneliness and exclusion.
There is a perception that Valentine's Day highlights the solitude of single individuals, making them feel overlooked.
The article suggests that single people can become bitter and self-centered, focusing too much on their single status.
Self-love and treating oneself are presented as positive ways to spend Valentine's Day, rather than dwelling on being single.
The author encourages single individuals to be proactive in meeting new people through shared interests and activities.
Patience in love is emphasized, with the belief that love will come in time and that one should focus on personal growth in the meantime.
The article challenges the notion of perfect love, suggesting that seeking perfection can lead to dissatisfaction.
The author ultimately promotes a perspective shift from resentment towards Valentine's Day to embracing it as a day of universal love, including self-love.

You Hate Valentine’s Day Because You’re Lonely

A lot of people hate the things that they don’t have

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner but this time I won’t crash other people’s dates. Did I tell you what happened last Valentine’s? I ended up third-wheeling on my friend’s date, it was quite awkward. A lot of “kiss me” and “feed me pasta in my mouth.” I wish I had not gone, it just made me feel worse. In a full sentence: I hated Valentine’s Day.

According to Statista, there are 34.75 million households that are labeled as single in the United States. You ask, what does that mean? More than 34 million people are single at this current moment.

In shorter words, there is a lot of fish in the market and as anyone would — I became a fisherman.

If that was my job, I would have been fired. I did not catch a single fish, heck, not even some seed weed. So I am going to date my pet hamster, I will serve us vegetables and treats on small plates. Maybe, I will light some candles from Bath & Body Works and throw some rose petals. Quite romantic, right?

Enough about me, back to you.

If you weren’t single, you would love Valentine’s Day right? You would be excited to wake up and get dressed for that date that you have been planning, just maybe, have some sparkles in the bed (you know what I mean).

You dream of opening that door and receiving a box of chocolate (expensive ones, please) or a tulip (a dozen). But that was not for you, it was for your neighbor.

Fuck this shit, you thought.

On top of all, you receive that text: Sorry Raff, I have to cancel the dinner tonight. I have a date with my boyfriend.

Yes, single people do hate it.

We do not hate Valentine’s because people are having fun loving each other, we hate it because we feel left out. It’s that day out of the 365 that nobody thinks about us; unless you make a scene (don’t do that).

Instead of feeling bitter, why not treat yourself for Valentine’s?

Watch a movie
Go to eat at your favorite restaurant
Buy yourself something special

If you stop hating on Valentine’s day and switch your perspective, wouldn’t it be lovely? You will have a day for yourself, treat yo’ self.

Don’t let that text from your aunt discourage you:

Raff, where is your boyfriend? We have never seen you date someone, please don’t stay single forever.

The Reality of Single People

Once, I wrote an entire article on why you should be single. It flopped for two reasons: I lied to myself and I lied to everyone else. We all seek love, don’t we?

Why I’m 20 and Single and You Should Be Too

Being single is the next big thing in your self-improvement journey

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At the end of the day, being single for a long time makes us bitter. We look at the world from a perspective of a single person, a single heart. We think about ourselves and become selfish. And of course, we think we are so great that we hate Valentine’s Day.

I mean, a little time for ourselves is great but also harmful.

Give yourself a chance to love, whether it’s someone or yourself. But don’t go down into loneliness because you can’t find a perfect love.

There is no perfection.

What Can We Do About This

Just because you are single this Valentine’s does not mean that you will be next year; because you won’t. There are things that we can do to find that special one without risking it by winking at our Uber drivers.

Go to recreational events

Do you know how in the movies, people go to the art class that they signed up for and meet the love of their lives? That happens in real life too. Go and do the things you love, want to learn how to cook? Go to a cooking class, expose yourself just a bit and you can meet people at the same stage of life as you.

It is always lovely when two people that share similar interests mean, I think that makes love a lot better.

2. Be Patient

Live your life as normal, love will come at the perfect time. Do not rush it, otherwise, you will find a couple of lessons along the way.

It takes time for god to craft things that are perfect for you, take the time to learn about yourself. Learn about who you are and who you want to become, love yourself this Valentine’s.

You must treat yourself how you want to be treated.

Final Notes

Everyone is different and some single people that love Valentine’s Day. Let your ego aside for a second and join them, it’s a day of love. What does that mean?

It’s the perfect day to remind yourself about self-love.