You Get What You Tolerate
Stop tolerating the behavior you don’t expect
Do you feel you don’t get the respect you deserve?
It’s not the question of deserving respect. Respect has to be earned. But you also have to show people how they should treat you.
People won’t give you respect if you tolerate any less. They’ll get by with any behavior you put up with.
If you tolerate disrespect from them, you’ll get so. But if you don’t tolerate unacceptable behaviors from people, then no one will dare to treat you with such behavior.
You won’t get respect if you tolerate any less
You set the example of the behavior you expect from the people by the behavior you tolerate. People won’t just treat you better than what you tolerate.
If they see you tolerate shitty behavior, they’ll treat you like shit. No better. But if you refuse to tolerate shitty behavior from them, they’ll treat you with respect.
You set the standard behavior you expect from people. Don’t tolerate the behavior you don’t want people to treat you with. You might not get any better behavior from them if you let them.
Don’t become a patsy so people can behave any way they want
Once a patsy is not always a patsy. Just because you’ve been a patsy all your life doesn’t mean you have to be a patsy going forward.
Even if you were a patsy — people treated you the way they wanted — you can do better now. You can change. People should change their behaviors toward you too.
Show people how to treat you. Don’t tolerate disrespect from anyone anymore. You don’t get to live your life twice.
You can’t do anything about what happened in the past. But what will happen in the future is in your hands. You have a choice.
Everyone wants others to treat them with respect. You wouldn’t be the first person to expect respect from others. Even if you never expected people to treat you with respect, now’s the time to change that.
Stop tolerating any behavior you can't stand. You don’t have to anymore. It’s your life. People should treat you how you want them to treat you.
If you don’t respect yourself, people won’t either
Treat yourself with respect. Because if you don’t, no one will.
Why would they? If they see you even don’t respect yourself, why would they bother?
Hold yourself to a high standard. Don’t treat yourself with any less than what you expect from people. When people see they can get by behaving anyway they want, they’ll do so.
People always treat you the way you show them. They won’t give you any better treatment than how you treat yourself. It’s not about the respect you deserve. It’s about the respect you earn by treating yourself with respect first.
Show people how they should treat you
Show people the behavior you expect from them. Make it clear you won’t accept any less.
When you show people how to treat you, you as well give the signal that you won’t tolerate otherwise. They’d better treat you with respect.
Never let anyone think it’s okay to treat you with any less respect than you deserve. If they don’t show the respect you deserve, don’t tolerate such behavior. It’s not okay. They’d have to change the way they behave with you.
The only way to treat you is to show you the behavior you treat yourself with. There’s no other way. You will not tolerate any demeaning behavior from them anymore.
Final thought
You get what you tolerate. No more.
People would never treat you better than the behavior you tolerate from them.
The best way to show people how to treat you is to treat yourself like that. And the second-best way is to stop tolerating any behavior you can’t accept from people.
Hold yourself to high regard. Treat yourself as you want people to treat you. Don’t tolerate any behavior you don’t want to be treated with.