You Can’t Be an Attractive Women If You Are Stuck in Your Head
Stop fooling yourself.
“Dan said we should take a break. I thought he was joking. It’s been three days now, and he hasn’t called or returned my calls or text. What should I do?”
I get this type of message from women all time. They can’t seem to take a hint when their relationship goes sideways.
And they never stop to think why the same event repeatedly plays in their lives over and over.
In my dating years, I had the “Let’s not call this a relationship” conversation not just once, but twice. The first time I was depressed, but I continued with the undefined relationship.
Eventually, we became a disastrous couple living together.
After the inevitable heartbreak wavered, all I could think of was, “He warned me that he had commitment issues. I should have listed to him.”
Many times women’s self-esteem takes a spike. They wonder, “Why wasn’t I good enough for him?”
But men don’t think that way. Timing plays more of a role than not being ‘good enough’ for a guy.
He may still want to see what his options are or focus on his career. May also wants to have life experiences or work on himself before getting into a serious relationship.
Giving up some bad habits helped me to be happier in life and in love.
The second time a guy told me he couldn’t be my boyfriend, I was relieved.
Burned by my last experience, I saw it as a warning and promptly cut off the flirtation with no wounded pride. And we ended up as friends, with no benefits.
If you find yourself or a friend in this confusing state of a dating situation, take the three steps below to prepare yourself or them for a healthier relationship.
By looking out for yourself now, you might avoid a lot of heartbreak.
Stop doubting your gut instinct
Your gut instinct is the feeling you get when you do the right or wrong thing. For instance, if you have a gut instinct that your partner is the one, you may decide to make the relationship more serious.
But if your guts have resentments over who you are dating, you should trust it and define your relationship with that person, either as friends or something else.
Your gut feeling is the first thing you will think and feel in a situation. You should pay attention to this because it might be your mind’s way of protecting you from getting hurt.
Get used to the “yin and yang” of your body
Some women have very low self-esteem. They believe they are not worthy of receiving love and affection from a man, so they settle for anything in trousers, even when their guts are saying the opposite.
How you define yourself will attract how people treat you. If you are in the habit of bullying or saying negative things about yourself, the people you meet will treat you like trash because they see you do not value yourself.
You have to start treating yourself with more love if you want to attract people who will love you.
Try to be kind to yourself and question negative thoughts when you make a mistake. A good rule of thumb is to talk to yourself as you would to your friends.
Let your intellect and heart be your guides. If you are being intentional about dating, you can be confident that you will make prudent decisions.
Secure your boundaries by defining what you can and will not tolerate
By now, you know a thing or two about the kinds of dating traps you tend to fall into.
Maybe you are often attracted to unavailable men, or maybe you rush into relationships too early.
Whatever your poison, it’s time you keep a sharp eye out so that you don’t repeat those same mistakes.
Setting boundaries can help you retain a sense of identity and personal space.
Yourself, your partner, and the relationship itself are three entities that need to be sustained, nourished, and feel respected.
Make a list of what you need in a man and what you can compromise to have a fulfilled and healthy relationship.
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