An Open Letter to Aggressive Women Married to Cheating Husbands

Stop blaming the other woman for your husband’s weakness.

I’m not much of a speech person, so I’ll just get right into it. You say we wreck your home, but instead, we fix what’s already broken. You say we fall in love with your husbands; rather, we teach your husbands how to love.

You say we eat up your husbands income. But, we are getting paid for the time we put into making your husbands happy.

We don’t go running after your husbands; they come running after us.

I bet you think we are the bad guys, the sluts, the home wreckers, the gold diggers, etc.

Yes, we can be.

We start out as fixers because that’s all women know how to do well. We like to fix what’s broken. When your husbands come to us whining like babies about how terrible they feel in their marriages, our mama bear mode gets activated. We bear all their burdens like a mother hen.

Along the way, your husbands become comfortable releasing their burden on us. We clean up your men. We give them love, attention, and respect they aren’t getting at home.

When was the last time you took your man on a date? When was the last time you rubbed his back, smoothed his hair, whispered “I love you” in his ear first thing in the morning?

When was the last time you two shared a bath together and massaged each other erotically and spent the day just listening to each other’s breathing?

When was the last time you gave him a lap dance or stripe danced for him before sex? That is if you still give him sex at all. Let’s not mention bj because most of you (wives) think it is an abomination.

How many times have you laughed at his fantasies and said it is what hookers, and irresponsible men do?

You bring your religion into the bedroom. And you deprive him of exploring his sexuality.

Sex is to be enjoyed. It relaxes the brain, body, and mind for those of you who think sex is just for baby-making.

The other woman does these things to keep your home together. The other woman is the reason you actually have a marriage.

As horrible as you make the other woman, you should be giving us credit for relieving you of your wifely duties.

We make your husbands feel wanted. We give them a sense of belonging. We take off their pain so they can be the proud men you see every day.

You attack the other woman because you are too weak to admit you married a scum. You love him so much that it hurts when you have been betrayed; instead, you throw shades at the other woman.

Do you feel better hurting someone who is just a victim as you? We didn’t choose to love your husband. They fell in love with us. They bugged us and sneaked their way into our hearts. We are humans too, and we feel.

You can trash the other woman all you want, but bear in mind, darling, that cheating is never going away.

So what are you going to do when you divorce your husband only to find out that the second, third, fourth, and fifth man you married all cheated on you?

Cheating has existed since the 1920s. Relationships are evolving, so monogamy is no longer the fame.

We have been brainwashed that monogamy in relationships equals love and loyalty. But honey, loyalty is in-born. It is not learned or bought at a price.

If your husband cheats, you should decide how you want your happiness to be.

Instead of attacking and slut-shaming every pussy your husband fucks, ask yourself, “Is he deserving of me?” If you want to be in an open marriage deep down, go ahead and table your terms to him.

Instead of crying your heart out, use his infidelity as an opportunity to set your life on the path that ensures your peace of mind and freedom.

If he started the cheating, your job is to make sure you continue his game. If you cannot stomach a polyamorous relationship, then give him the middle finger and divorce him.

If you decide to stay in the marriage and forgive him, that’s great. But don’t go attacking the other woman.

Most of us are not interested in marrying husbands. Some of us just want to have a good time while being vulnerable. Some of us are after their connection — politically, financially, and socially.

Some of us like dating married men because we do not like commitments in relationships. We enjoy their company, but we don’t attach an emotion to our pleasure.

Before you come attacking me, I would like to remind you that I’m one of the 10 percent who doesn’t give a crap about hypocritical social judgments.

I want your marriage to be happy. I believe in marriages where there is absolute trust, loyal, and understanding. But relationships these days are different. Humans are fickle. That’s why you wake up in twenty years to realize the man you see is not who you fell in love with.

So the next time you want to bash the women your husband sleeps with, be sure to remember he isn’t worth losing your dignity.

Yours truly,

Jessey.

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