Women/Sexuality

Women Fake Orgasms — Here’s Why

Insight into faking it.

It would be nice if every sexual liaison ended with a satisfying, toe-tingling orgasm.

Alas, this doesn’t always happen. Especially for women.

However, sometimes women end up making it appear as though they’ve had the physical release of an orgasm when they haven’t by using a touch of theatrics.

Why?

There are plenty of reasons why women fake orgasms.

Timing

If a woman is in a time crunch or caught at an inopportune time for sex with her partner, she may have trouble focusing her mind on getting to orgasm.

Timing is everything for so many women. In addition, the environment, how she feels in that moment, hormones — ALL of these things contribute to the culmination of the female orgasm besides actual sexual intercourse.

Put plainly — if she’s not in the mood, then she’s NOT in the mood.

If the desire to satisfy her partner is still there despite her lack of orgasm, a woman may just decide to fake it to make the sexual encounter more enjoyable for her partner.

Women tend to be more in their heads when it comes to sex, so, quite often, being in the right headspace to engage in sexual activity matters.

Faking an orgasm because of trashy timing is common. It happens.

However, for many women, faking an orgasm is done as a way to both reassure a partner sexually and to get things moving along if an orgasm appears inevitably unreachable.

Sometimes you just want to get your partner satisfied and move on to the next thing as quickly as possible. Sorry — not sorry.

Wanting sex during a time when a woman has other plans, doesn’t have much time available, or has her attention centered somewhere else can impact her orgasm success.

Ability

There are a good number of women who can’t have an orgasm even if they want to. According to recent research, a whopping 10–40% of women report having difficulty or an inability to reach orgasm.

For those who can reach orgasm relatively easily, this may come as a shock.

But it’s a fact.

Unfortunately, there are many reasons besides physical problems that can prevent a woman from reaching orgasm. Sometimes it’s psychological.

A woman could have been raised in a culture of sexual shame or have a history of sexual abuse that she has endured which can impact her ability to enjoy sex — even with a gentle and loving partner.

Serious problems within a relationship can also prevent a woman from having an orgasm because she’s not comfortable or secure in the partnership.

Other women can’t reach orgasm due to medical conditions or even depression. Not being sufficiently stimulated by a partner can also be a factor.

If a woman has not been able to tell her partner that she’s been physically unable to achieve an orgasm her whole life, she may fake it to make her partner feel better or to avoid discussing something embarrassing or painful.

Energy

It’s no surprise here that energy affects sex immensely. For many women, being able to achieve an orgasm depends a lot on energy levels.

Being tired, drained, or exhausted can lead to total non-inspiration regarding sex. Faking an orgasm may simply be easier at the moment to get things moving along — so to speak.

Faking an orgasm because you’re dead tired and simply can’t get there on any given day is not unusual — especially in long-term relationships where you factor in jobs, kids, or overall fatigue.

Life can be exhausting and sex — at least satisfying sex — requires a significant amount of effort and energy for both parties involved.

If a woman is so tired she already knows she won’t reach orgasm, faking it can get her partner more relaxed and allow them to achieve orgasm faster without worrying about you getting there.

Faking it so you can get to sleep sooner isn’t a crime — it happens.

Ego

I know some people who say they would feel personally offended if they found out their partner fakes orgasms with them. I can’t say I completely disagree with them, either.

As a sexual partner, you want to perform well and the hope is that your mate will feel sexually satisfied with you.

However, for many of the reasons listed above, sometimes it just doesn’t happen for women. A little moaning and groaning can get the fire going even if you can’t get yours going.

Faking an orgasm isn’t necessarily a symbol of disrespect toward a partner. A lot of the time women just want their partners to feel good — an ego stroke, if you will — when it’s clear an orgasm just isn’t happening.

I don’t think women who fake orgasms to boost their partner’s ego or to provide encouragement when they simply can’t get there are secretly laughing at their partner’s behind their backs. Not at all.

Having an orgasm is fantastic and I don’t know any woman who doesn’t want to have orgasms or who doesn’t wish she could have them if she’s never experienced them.

Whether it’s bad timing affecting the mood, a physical inability for whatever reason, or energy levels affecting sexual desire, most women still want their partners to experience pleasure and feel okay about the whole experience — even if they can’t feel that kind of pleasure too.

When orgasms happen, it’s wonderful. But sometimes, whether we like it or not, ‘faking it’ happens too.

Have you ever faked an orgasm? If so, why?

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