Woman’s Life: My Journey to Self-Acceptance
Stories teach us empathy. They reveal to us ourselves in the skins of others. — Justin Simien
It’s not easy to love and accept yourself, no matter how good you’re and how many times you hear that you are good enough.
Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much you try, how much you try to improve to fit into other people’s expectations, do and try things only to think that no one shouldn’t feel offended or feel less loved and un-welcomed.
And between all those things, you forget to care for yourself.
You push your feelings deep down, don’t utter a single word because you always want to be nice, and do the right things, always, no matter how it’s affecting your mental and emotional health.
I often hear from different people around me all the time about difficult relationships they’re confronting, especially with themselves.
I also had my fair share of bitter experiences.
“At the end of the day, it would be wise to learn how to cooperate with others; so as not to put yourself first most of the time.”― Mwanandeke Kindembo
We’ve all been there, with someone who rubs us the wrong way, constantly misunderstands our intentions, or simply does inexplicable and annoying things.
It could be a coworker, business partner, friend, relative, or spouse.
Even if it’s just one person in your life, a difficult relationship can cast a shadow over everything and make it harder to enjoy your other aspects of life.
I have been there where I constantly overanalyzed things or just ran different scenarios in my head like why I said that I could have said something else, what will they think just to mention a few. Ultimately exhausting myself physically and mentally.
To advance — personally and professionally — it’s essential to figure out how to deal with the challenge, and hopefully improve your connection.
If Loving Was Easy, Everyone Would Be Loving It ― Syed Sharukh
Let’s reset our attitude first
As per Bob Burg- “If you can’t control your emotions, you’re not in a position to be part of the solution. You’re part of the problem.”
It’s not easy to admit that wasn’t always easy. But keep in mind that no one can make you feel a certain way. They can’t make you angry or sad, but they can push buttons which you then make yourself feel that way.
Only when we’re aware of it are we in a position to do something about it.
“Life shouldn’t be about survival alone but about living” ― Sunday Adelaja
Beliefs are subjective truths
Our belief systems, the lens through which we see the world, are not something we chose, but are handed to us from the time we were born. They’re a combination of our upbringing, popular culture, the news media, and popular people.
We’re run by an operating system that we don’t even know we’re run by.
“The point is always to heal and encourage as many people as we can.”― Mitta Xinindlu
Communicating with tact and empathy
In a challenging encounter, it’s easy for others to misinterpret your intentions. Even the slightest whiff of criticism can turn someone hostile.
But learning to speak tactfully means you can give feedback honestly and truly engage.
We need to communicate in a way so that the person won’t be defensive and resistant, but will be open to and accepting of us.
When we communicate in this way, we help them feel genuinely good about themselves and us.
Meanwhile, when you utilize these principles, your life will be a lot more fun and a lot less stressful, and more profitable, both personally and in business.
You know you can have people work with you and not against you…expecting another person to be helpful, friendly, and benevolent changes you — and that changes them.
I hope these might help you change the dynamic to ensure you’re able to feel comfortable, valued, and respected — and to do the same for others.
Let’s be kind to each other, listen more and give more joy to the world and the people around us.
Be Bold
Be Courageous
Be Your Best
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