Why You Should Unfriend Your Closest Friend

Taking control of your life

Do you remember the last problem you had? And do you remember the problem you had before that one? Correct me if I am wrong, but it seems we live with constant problems.

When one situation is resolved, another one comes up.

How can we live happily, if we cannot stop having problems? That is the topic of this article.

Guideline

• Identify the part of you that has so many problems
• Realize you are not it
• Kick it out of your life

Identifying

This is probably the most important part of all, identifying this unstoppable voice inside of you that seems to have a problem with anything and everything at the same time.

I dare you to take 10 seconds to sit in silence and find it.

You might have started thinking this is stupid, what is this girl trying to say, she’s wasting my time.

Well, there you have it. That is the part of you that cannot seem to settle not even for 10 seconds.

Now it’s about the article, but take inventory of random things you experienced. I assure you, this voice had a comment for each and every situation you lived during your whole life.

And if it’s not about what is happening now, it’s about what happened in the past or what may happen in the future, but it is constantly talking.

This constant speech is overwhelming, and it’s always been there.

Realizing

Name it and treat it as if this voice was a friend, for now. Let’s call him Tom.

Let me explain it with another example, so I can make myself clear.

If Tom was your therapist and was giving you this horrific advice, I bet you would have stopped going to therapy with him.

So why do you keep listening to Tom? And most importantly, why do you keep asking neurotic Tom for advice?

Unfriending

You must free yourself from this part of you who seems to have problems with everything. And how do we do that?

First of all, you must realize Tom is not your friend. If a friend told you all the things Tom tells you, would you still be friends with him?

Secondly, remember you don’t owe him an answer to every question he asks. Likewise, you cannot try to solve every problem he comes up with. If you try to solve them, you are accepting you have a problem and you don’t, he does.

Lastly, understand that your will to let go of Tom is stronger than the habit of listening to him.

To remember

• Self-improvement comes when you stop looking for an external solution to an internal problem
• You must see the problems and realize you are neither them nor are they yours
• Take back the control of your life just by being conscious of this neurotic headmate

How are you going to call your headmate?

This is a follow-up article, to one I previously posted about this voice. If you found this article interesting, I strongly recommend you read the first one for a better understanding!

But if you want to whole story, check out the book The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this article! I am grateful that I could share my knowledge with you and truly hope it somehow helped you. If you have something you would like to add or another insight on the matter, don’t hesitate to share it with me.

Have a lovely day!