Why You Might Be Hurting Yourself Working Out Too Much
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I can’t imagine my life without exercise. Whether it is jogging, stretching or weight lifting, every day I do one form of exercise for relaxation.
Any time I don’t exercise I get edgy and irritated. Last week was one of those days. I fell ill after the two-week convention I attended. I couldn’t lift a muscle. I couldn’t sleep.
I had eaten too many calories and processed food during my trip. I needed to get home and begin my workout routine, but instead, I got sick. I tried doing a simple seated stretch but I collapsed in my bed.
Call it an obsession. I’m crazy about my weight. If I don’t exercise a day, it feels like I have added 10 pounds overnight. Exercising became my hobby so it doesn’t feel like I’m forcing myself to do it. I also prefer workout to starving or restricting myself to certain foods.
I know I can be stubborn when I don’t get what I want and my boyfriend, Chris has been understanding. While I was sick, he helped massage my body since I didn’t have the strength to exercise.
We have been going out for two months now, yet we haven’t had sex. I thought it was Chris since he had not made any moves about sex. I have been so busy preparing for the convention that I didn’t notice I was losing my sexual drive.
Over dinner, I felt tingly between my legs. I looked at Chris thinking he got wind of the feeling from the sudden jolt in my body. But he was too focused on his food. Chewing in the most erotic way I have never seen him chew before.
This was when it occurred to me that I had missed having sex. It has been a while since my last relationship. I’m sure Chris thought I was intentionally holding back sex as some women do to string men along.
But in reality, I had lost the desire. That night I took the lead and ate Chris out. He was surprised at my sudden expression and hunger. However, he went along with the flow. Giving me the pleasure to dismantle every ounce of guilt and reservations he had.
While Chris was deeply sleeping beside me, I couldn’t help but admire his cute baby face. Something wasn’t adding up. My mind kept wondering why I waited so long to have sex with Chris.
I knew I found him attractive from day one, but my body wasn’t picking up the electricity in my eyes.
So what changed in my body and why? These were questions I needed answers to. I needed to know what happened so I could prevent it from happening again.
From my research, I discovered too much exercise can kill your sex drive. I have been training consistently with my dumbbells and would tire out and fall asleep.
High-intensity training helps with sleep problems and since I wasn’t actively dating I didn’t know my sex drive had plummeted until I met Chris.
Probably I wouldn’t have known if I had not fallen sick and stopped high-intensity workouts for a few days when I was in recovery.
Exercise affects various hormones in our body, such as cortisol, estrogen, prolactin, and testosterone, increasing blood flow to the reproductive organs and inflaming libido.
Testosterone is a key player in sexual desire in both men and women, while oxytocin gives the feel-good sensation when we orgasm.
Exercise also increases the serotonin levels in the body. This hormone can minimize feelings of tension and promote relaxation, improving your mood and making you feel happier.
By decreasing the tension in the body, serotonin also increases the feeling of desire and general well-being, which gives a great boost to your libido.
The best part is that you only need to do 30 minutes of exercise three times a week to feel the effects.
I’m sure you’re thinking, “Oh great! Let me fire up and have more sex.” While that might be a great idea, but hold that thought for a moment.
You’ve heard that too much of anything hurt you, right? Well, this also applies to exercises.
What happens to your body when you exercise too much
It is no secret that exercise increases our sexual desire. However, high-intensity trainers have testified that too much exercise kills their sex drive.
If your libido is dropping, you may need to look into the level of exercise you do regularly.
High-volume endurance exercise lowers testosterone levels in both men and women by 20–40%.
Athletes who run a marathon, half-marathon, and triathlon in a single year, complained that their sex drive tanked after hours combining strength, bodyweight resistance, and cardio five days a week.
In men, the pituitary hormones FSH and LH produced in the brain are reduced, reducing the stimulation of the testes to produce testosterone.
Female athletes may experience irregular menstrual cycles and a high amount of toned pelvic floor known as the hypertonic, which tends to cause pain during penetration.
To protect your libido, limit intense exercise to 40–45 minutes, two or three times a week.
This level of exercise is good for your heart and lungs and will make you feel better, and help control your blood pressure.
It will lower your cholesterol levels, invariably lower the need for insulin, reduce the risk of diabetes, and improve your general mood.
If you find that your libido is low and you train more than 10 hours a week, you may want to reconsider your priorities.
However, if you need a reason to step up your fitness game, see my article on what to do for better sex!
The most common sign of excessive workouts in women is irregular menstrual cycles. Women need a certain level of body fat for the reproductive system.
So if excessive exercise leads to low body fat, your body is essentially disrupting its ability to conceive.
In men, exercising too much can cause low libido. Men who exercise heavily may have physical fatigue and lower testosterone than those whose workouts are moderate.
That’s not all. Other obvious signs that you are overworking your body include an increased heart rate, decreased appetite, or mood swings.
You may also notice that you have insomnia. While moderate exercise can help you relax and sleep better at night, too much of it can leave you fidgeting and spinning all night due to restlessness and disturbed sleep.
If you notice your body showing any of the following symptoms, it may be time to take things slow and give it the rest it deserves by doing something that’s not that strenuous.
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