Why Women Always Fall for the Bad Boys?
But first, what defines a bad boy?
There are two things the bad boys all have in common: popularity and charm.
These traits lure the ‘‘good’’ and the ‘‘hot’’ girls like bees attracted to flowers. Except these flowers are twisted and dark — bad boys are risky.
I personally have been caught in the trap of the bad boy before. I remember John, a womanizer surrounded by girls wherever he was.
Like everybody else, I was attracted too.
He had that flirty look and dashing personality. I had wild fantasies about him and would dream of being near him. He exuded confidence which I lacked, and I wanted him to fill in that emptiness.
His mysterious background that no one apparently knew was something I wanted to find out, which lured me even more.
I was tired of living a monotonous life, so I needed a breath of fresh air, and he was exactly that. I tried several methods to be visible to him and changed myself, which is something that I regret. Ultimately, I talked to him a few times and he made me feel really special. It is every girls’ dream to be acknowledged by their partner, right?
Although my fantasy of dating him did not turn to reality, that personality is something I look for in everyone.
Here are a few reasons why women always fall for the bad boys.
#1: Attractive personality
Dominance, assertive behavior, and confidence are just a few qualities of a bad boy. You see these boys hanging around other people, and they can divert all attention towards themselves.
We love to see a guy who is able to show dominance, also known as ‘‘Alpha males.’’ They brighten the room with their presence. The amount of energy you spend on them is never returned equally. They do not even have to try hard to be liked — people seem to love them anyway.
Note: If a guy shows overbearing and toxic masculinity, it is a sign that they consider their partners not equal but inferior. It may result in emotional insensitivity and aggression.
#2: Attractive appearance
When we think about bad boys, a specific image pops up in our minds:
- sharp jawline,
- intense eye contact,
- muscular body,
- messy hairstyles, and
- all-black dressing.
Commonly, we think of Johnny Depp and Brad Pitt — these men were a dream of every girl.
These looks appeal to women and have that aura and perfection that women crave.
We don’t like to stick around nerds and nice boys even if they are much more caring and nurturing. It is because they do not have that attractive charm and inviting energy.
#3: Role of hormones
Hormones play a vital role in choosing a particular type of boys, especially ‘‘bad boys.’’
Dr. Martie Hazelton explains the good genes selection theory:
"A woman will look for males with traits associated with healthy genes to pass on to their offspring."
Women have motherly instincts and gravitate towards attractive qualities, especially during ovulation.
Bad boys have that sultry, inviting looks that attract women — it is a biological factor.
#4: Mystery
We all know that those mysterious eyes have a lot of hidden stories and personal traumas. We want to learn about the complex tattoos that conceal their body parts. We also want to learn about their insecurities.
We are genuinely curious as to pull out the truth. But once it is disclosed — which is seldom — it is difficult to take in.
We would rather believe that ‘‘inside every bad boy, there is a good guy waiting for the right person.’’
We want to be the woman who changes the man into a loving guy.
#5: Influence of movies
How many movies and series have you seen where a girl falls head over heel with a bad boy?
I can name a few:
We have developed an image of predicted bad-boy behavior and would like to imitate those girls in the movies.
How can they easily attract popular guys and make other girls feel jealous? We women crave that spotlight.
We also want to experience those butterfly moments and spicy dramas.
#6: Manipulative behavior
It is safe to say, bad boys will never take you seriously. They seem like they are listening to you but are they listening actively?
Their manipulative behavior is why the bad boys always attract women. Their sly, flirty remarks warm up any girl.
It is easy for them to hide behind their good looks, but their controlling behavior is a big NO.
#7: Good in bed
How often do you have a good time in bed with a bad boy? The answer is probably most of the time.
Bad boys use tricks and techniques that may give you the utmost pleasure and incite women to return to them.
Sex is never boring with them, and this is one of the reasons we fall so hard for them.
#8: The thrill of challenges
Sometimes daily routine can be boring, so women like to spice things up.
Solving bad boy mysteries and turning their dark nature into some nurturing seems like a difficult task. But most women would like to try. It might be because of:
- low self-esteem,
- even some deep-rooted issues since childhood or,
- a need for thrill and excitement.
The bad boy’s wild spirit is inviting and gives a sense of freedom. Who does not like to feel alive?
#9: Feeling special
When some girl dates a bad boy, we like to think a great deal about her. It looks like she is under the spotlight.
Bad boys do just that — they make you feel really like their queen.
They are protective of their partners, and you generally feel safer with them. They are more manly than most men.
Their built body assures that no one can harm you.
Note: Too much overprotectiveness might be a sign of a toxic trait and end up in a hurtful relationship.
We know those bad boys are ‘‘bad for us, and we may also know that this relationship may be short-lived, but this does not stop us. Bad guys entice our sense of rebellion, and they have qualities that we wish we had.
Once the time comes to settle down, we often find nice guys who are caring and homey.
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