Is She Secretly Flirting With You? — 8 Signs She Likes You
She seems into you. Now, you want to be sure?
I’m one of those women who, when I desire a man, I get experimental and enjoy watching him trying to work me out.
I’ll use subtle methods to let him know I’m interested and I wait for him to make the first step.
Some men get it and others not at all. But I’m not surprised. According to a study conducted by the University of Kansas, only 36% of men know when a woman is flirting with them.
Maybe you’re in a position where you’re wondering if she’s secretly flirting with you. If that’s the case, check the following 8 signs and maybe you’ll figure it out.
#1: Something about the eyes contact
Notice how her eyes often flick in your direction? Or perhaps she hardly glances your way? Surprisingly, both could mean the same thing — she likes you.
Perhaps she likes you so much that looking at your eyes stirs feelings she can’t control.
I suggest you experiment. Without overdoing it, make casual eye contact with her. Only a little at first. No more than two seconds. Watch how she reacts.
For those who are super intuitive, notice her pupils. Are they larger, dreamier?
Our pupils dilate when the levels of the love hormones, oxytocin and dopamine, rise. Magazines and advertisements often enlarge models’ pupils. And before photoshop technology, they would put drops of belladonna into their eyes to give this effect.
#2: She regularly adjusts her hair or clothes when she sees you
If you notice she has this habit, she may have one thing on her mind — you.
It’s a common sign indicating a woman likes you, if she is constantly flicking or touching up her hair. She could be doing it unconsciously, wanting it to look good for you. Or, she could be doing it tactfully, drawing attention to how captivating those bouncing locks can be.
#3: She stands very close to you
Does she usually stand so close to people? If she steps into your space, don’t step away.
Even if you like her proximity where you are mere inches away from her lips and breasts, you might feel an urge to step back. It might be because you are nervous or because you respect her space.
So, don’t step back, stay relaxed — don’t freeze!
If you show you are nervous, she may like that, but it’s more likely to put her off.
#4: Listen closely to her
Does she like to argue with you? Does she make fun of you? Don’t be put off — go with it.
One of the most effective flirting methods is to tease, according to relationship expert Matthew Hussey.
Smile. Laugh along with her. It’s good to be submissive sometimes.
This might be an opportunity to break some barriers between you. She might tug your shirt sleeve. You could gently push her shoulder.
#5: She mentions something about sex or relationships
She’s thinking about sex or relationships if she talks about it. So what’s making her think about it? Maybe it’s you.
Has she said something about her underwear? Has she drawn your attention to a cute couple across the street? Don’t shy from the conversation. She might want to know more about you so keep it going and see where it takes you.
#6: Compliments go a long way
Has she complimented you? She wants to make you feel good, or maybe she wants to make a conversation.
Take her compliment — she wants to see you pleased about it.
Compliment her back but not immediately. Make it genuine, not only a quick countermove. It’s best to go for something conventional — she might be a bit confused if you give her a compliment about her fingers.
Be bold and tell her how pretty she is. Or maybe there is something more sensual that you notice. For example, “I like your perfume.”
A big no is saying something on the lines of “your legs look good in that dress.” Make it either about her legs or the dress. If you mix the two, you may be suggesting that it’s only the dress that makes her legs look good.
#7: She asks you personal questions
If she asks about your family, friends, pets, or your history, she most likely cares and wants to know you on a deeper level.
Notice if she asks about your relationships — that’s a great signal she’s interested in you. Be careful, however, with what you tell her. Although she asks, she probably doesn’t want to know about all those dates you’ve been on.
And more importantly, if she asks whether you have a crush on someone, don’t tell her about another girl you like. Creating jealousy doesn’t work in the long term. You want things to be genuine and pure between you.
#8: Monitor her voice
Compare how she speaks to you with how she speaks to others. Is her voice higher pitched when she’s chatting with her friends? When she’s with you, does she talk in a deeper tone?
You might have mistaken her deeper tone as her being less friendly, and this probably isn’t the case. Women often speak in a lower voice when they are with someone they are attracted to.
Does she make pauses in your conversation? In this case, match her style. Savor the fact that she feels relaxed in your company.
Or perhaps she laughs and giggles at the smallest things around you. In this case, tease her a little — she might like it. Let her know you find her cute.
Just as foreplay before sex is important, these mixed signals she is giving you are too.
Enjoy them, play with them, and give her something back. You never know where this flirtation will take you.
If you are sure she is flirting with you, don’t be 100% sure she is head over heels for you. She may be experimenting or trying to boost her self-esteem by succeeding.
And remember, all women are different. That’s what makes dating interesting.
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