Why So Many Men Today Are Weak?

And is there a way to fix them?

The other day as I was doing grocery shopping, I witnessed a shocking scene.

There was a guy, around 20–25 years old.

He was doing shopping as well. While he was walking and looking around, he just bumped into a young lady. Their heads collided, but nobody was severely hurt.

I didn’t think much of it because let’s be honest, shit like this happens sometimes.

But what happened after that left me staying there shocked.

The young lad apologized for the incident. Politely, like a well-raised boy should do.

But the lady was furious. She shouted and talked trash about the young man.

She made him an idiot, stupid, imbecile piece of shit…

These were her exact words.

And the guy just stayed there, with his head down, almost crying.

Not a single word left his mouth. He didn’t stand up for himself.

I was speechless.

There is a young man. He gets humiliated by a woman. And his reaction is like that of a beaten-up and humiliated dog.

And I don’t say that he should’ve attacked the woman or anything like that. I am far even from the idea.

What I am saying is that he didn’t defend himself. He just stood there.

I mean, accidents like this happen. It was no one’s fault. Why did he let himself be humiliated in front of everybody in the store?

The answer is crystal clear.

He is a weak man.

He didn’t stand up for himself because he was afraid.

And this trend is more and more visible in our society.

Young men are weak. They are the weakest of all the generations until now.

And that raises a question.

Why so many men today are weak?

The answer is complex and at the same time simple.

Our society makes young boys become weak men.

“Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.” — Michael Hopf’s post-apocalyptic novel “Those Who Remain”:

We are in an era when we live in good times.

Our fathers and grandfathers created good times. They’ve built modern buildings and cities, they’ve built cars, they’ve invented the internet, they made everything accessible. And the list goes on.

Baby Boomers and Generation X suffered the consequences of two World Wars.

They felt the hardships of life after the devastating war, which made them strong.

They’ve rebuilt our world, which was taken on by the Millennials.

Since they had strong man figures, they built the world forward and created modern technologies.

This modernization means that today’s boys are being raised in a fluffy puff.

They get whatever they want.

They are being mothered way too long and they are being given everything.

Food is accessible, there is no obligation of military service, phones, laptops, video games, free porn are available…and the list goes on.

Everything they want they receive without hard work.

They are sitting all day in front of their computers playing video games. Or they are sitting on their phones surfing the internet.

They don’t get out in the real world.

They don’t feel the suffering and pain that comes with achieving something.

They don’t get used to real-world social interactions.

For the love of God, they don’t even get rejected by a girl face to face.

They just swipe right if they like someone. If that particular girl is not liking them, they are going to the next one.

No direct rejection, no pain.

This comfortable Western lifestyle with the total absence of rejection, pain, and suffering to achieve something makes young boys weak.

Is there a way back? Can this be repaired?

Well, this is a good question.

If we continue like this, things will get worse, for sure.

To raise strong and independent men, we should create hard times for them.

And I don’t mean not giving them food or making them do hard labor.

Not at all.

What I mean is that we should teach them the value of things.

We should show them that achieving or getting something means that you have to work for it. You have to feel the pain and you have to suffer.

We should make them go out in the real world and experience things.

Let them fight with their pals. Let them fall and get up.

Let them flirt with girls, get rejected, and feel the pain of rejection.

Let them engage in face-to-face social interactions, so they don’t get scared from their own shadow.

Let their teachers give them bad grades so they learn that they should work for good results. It’s not given to them because their parents took care of it.

Let them experience life as it is in the real world.

What is your opinion on this?

Are men weak nowadays?

Is there a way to raise strong and independent men?

Let me know what you think in the comments!

Best wishes, Zoltan.

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