Why Scars Don’t Heal
Scars have a lot of meanings. They can be explained as a body scar, a mental scar and physical destruction in a place. Scars are different for everyone from every situation in different ways.
Everybody has scars. Scars you got from bullying, from being abused, from a bad relationship, from friends who pretended to be your friends but are not. From someone who said ugly things to you over and over again. From people who are devaluating you over and over again. People who are devaluating groups over and over again, groups you belong to. It hurts that much. This is kind of a pain too.
Let me explain what scars really mean according to the Cambridge Dictionary:
a mark left on part of the body after an injury, such as a cut, has healed: a prominent/a noticeable/an ugly scar — That burn will leave a bad scar
a sign of damage to a person’s mental state: His early years in the refugee camp left a deep psychological scar.
a sign of physical destruction in a place: Every village bears the scars of war.
Body scars
I was cycling as a little child, I think I was about 8 years old, and I fell on the floor with my bike. There was a car coming from around the corner. I panicked and my friend’s mother came towards me and helped me get up. I got so much blood on my sides hip, that I needed a band-aid for protecting the blood of the wound. But in the end, I didn’t need a band-aid because when I pulled it off my skin, a lot of blood came again. When I dried the wound in the air, it was healed better, but I saw a scar afterwards. I still have the scar, but I don’t mind that (I don’t bother for having a scar as a mental scar).
When you got a car accident you probably have scars from the wounds on your skin. This hurts as long as the healing process needs.
Mental scars
Mental scars are scars that you got from events happening in your life. When you have been a survivor of the Second World War, you have left a scar on your soul. You have seen things you didn’t want to see, you have been through things you didn’t want to go through but went through it as you had to because you were put in that concentration camp, or you were a soldier and killing innocent people.
Three years ago you were abused by your teacher when he touched you on your but after you walked out of your class. This has a scar on your soul as you trusted this man for teaching and that he is an adult who knows better than doing this to your soul. He betrayed you. You thought he was a good man by teaching you about what he knows, but you don’t know if you should trust him with what he knows. Now you don’t trust other men by their actions meaning towards you. Even other people you don’t trust.
As you got that car accident, you have got wounds on your soul from that car accident. You are afraid to drive your car again. You are afraid you get a car accident again. This is ascar on your soul. Your mental health is damaged in this way.
Physical destruction scars
When the Second World War is over, you come back to your home. Your home is damaged, broke, your personal stuff is gone, your photo’s from your parents and from your youth. Everything is gone, even your beloved neighbour, your neighbour you drank tea with every Saturday morning.
Not only your house is damaged, but also your neighbour’s house, your parent’s house five streets away, the most important church everyone was going to. Nothing has left in one whole piece. You see people walking over the streets with nothing left in their hands, everything has been stolen or has been broken.
Last two weeks were the storms, Ciara and Dennis, in the United Kingdom were streets underwater. Probably houses were too wet to live in. This damages the physical destruction scars as the streets will be broke and the houses are damaged by the fallen trees.
Sometimes you will see this years later, but sometimes it can be made again soon.
Why don’t scars heal
Scars don’t heal as you have been through an event in your mental state and perhaps you still see it physically. It leaves scars on your soul, that hurts a lot.
It has something to do with your brain. Yur brian will save everything you have done and have been through.
This post has been published earlier on Quora.
Agnes Laurens is a writer. She writes for the local newspaper. Agnes lives in Bunnik, The Netherlands, with her husband and three daughters. Writing is — aside from playing the violin — one of her passions since childhood. She is on Twitter and Instagram.
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