Why Is It So Hard to Trust Ourselves on a Twin Flame Journey?

Trusting ourselves and trusting the twin flame journey are the same thing

When we look at romantic relationships in general, we have some classical beliefs in mind. For example, some say that couples get to know each other over time and strengthen their relationship. Some people don’t need time to mingle with their lovers, just enjoy the moment. I am in the first group. I need more recognition to trust someone and be sincere. But I am on a journey beyond my character. The twin flame journey completely changed my view of love.

Although I am quite a romantic person, I have never allowed myself to fly when it comes to love. I was always on land. My feet were firmly on the ground. I thought I was protecting my heart from disappointment by acting like this. But the rules of the universe were different. Universe pulled me out of my hiding place and put me in a situation I couldn’t fathom.

If you’re on the side that needs more recognition to love and trust someone, the twin flame journey has shocked you. How can someone I’ve only known for a few weeks know me so well? Or how do I know everything about him so well? All these questions are confusing when we do not understand the essence of the twin flame journey. Because we think our twin flame is not really a part of us.

In this article, we will talk about the reasons that break our trust in the twin flame journey.

Why does our twin flame make us feel insecure?

There are so many ups and downs as you discover yourself on the twin flame journey. Disappointment, restlessness, crying first, and then laughing out loud are the normal processes of this journey. This is putting yourself in therapy for a lifetime. And of course, without distrust, our confidence will not grow.

The reasons why we don’t trust the twin flame journey or our twin flame are varied, but they all come to the same conclusion. First, our bond with ourselves is weak or undeveloped. We never trust ourselves in the decisions we make or in our feelings this causes us to approach everything in life with suspicion. The twin flame is a great light that causes us to see ourselves in all its transparency. And this light can disturb our eyes. Because everything is better in the dark, right? We like to spend time with superficial things whose details are not visible.

While our lack of self-confidence is the main reason, there are many other side reasons that make it difficult for us to trust our twin flame and connection.

Fears

Much of our life, including the twin flame journey, is shaped by the pressure of our fears. When our choices and actions are influenced by our fears, they become lifeless and lose their significance. Many of our fears come to the surface on the twin flame journey. But fears are so burning that we may be unable to overcome them easily. Squeezing lemon on our wounds is not something we can do with courage.

Fear of loss, disappointment, doubts, and denials cause us to fear the twin flame journey. In the twin flame journey, we often question why we are so attached to a situation that frightens us and even hurts us (!). Our minds set traps that make us think this is bullshit. Whether or not we fall into these mental traps each time depends on the decisions we make. The more we protect our own souls, the more our thoughts are restructured. Fear is not something we can bend. It’s a healthy feeling to have. When twin flames find out what they’re afraid of, it will determine what they want to do or try to avoid.

What to do: I have too many fears. Although they seem different from each other, the roots of all of them converge at the same point. I write down all the ego-based thoughts that come out of my consciousness and suffocate me. And I include the reasons why these thoughts grow inside me. Where was I first triggered? Why couldn’t I let this thought flow through my body and then turned into trauma? We need to find these

Intense love

Although love may sound like a peaceful word, love has dimensions and types. And loving transparently is not something everyone can do. Have you heard the phrase “Love is fragility”? When we have very intense feelings for someone, it triggers our vulnerable spots. It is such a delicate and uncontrollable situation that we avoid it. Because to allow to love is to take a risk in a way. Although we want good things to happen here, every situation is twofold. Love can affect us well, but it can also break our hearts and cause us to lose our faith in love.

Intense love scares us when we don’t accept ourselves as we are and don’t look closely at our vulnerabilities. When I see anything related to my twin flame, a lot of fireworks start to go off both in my brain and in my heart. I can’t control this. When love enters our hearts, it has the ability to use everything as it wishes, including our brain. Fearing emotions on a twin flame journey can undermine our self-confidence. Our intense love has a lot to tell us. It will cease to be a weakness when we accept the areas where we are vulnerable.

What to do: I often confuse my anxious feelings with the bright fire of love. I’ve made a lot of observations about where I got the knowledge that I’m anxious when I’m in love. This led me to my unrequited love. I found the root that made me panic about falling in love. That meant suffering for me. No wonder my brain equates falling in love with fear and anxiety. This is how you can find out where your intense love feeling explodes in your body and how it makes you feel.

Listening to our minds

Our mind is like a public trash can where anyone can drop their trash. Here, there are so many irrelevant thoughts that slip through our minds every second… The mind processes all the information it collects from social media, the environment, and collective energy like an open source and sends it back to us as if it belongs to us.

The mind actually knows nothing. It’s just a public resource. Forums, where everyone can write whatever they want, are also never an accurate source of information. This is how the mind works. It combines our beliefs, and our fears, and looks outside for something to prove it to us.

Listening to our minds means freezing our twin flame journey to minus degrees. The twin flame journey is the journey of the soul. The mind can only chatter here. If we listen to our minds instead of our hearts, our minds will probably be filled with a lot of doubt and fear. Because this journey is not something we can think of.

What to do: Our mind fills us with many fears to distract us from the twin flame journey. It throws all our fears into our minds in a small bottle. Here, don’t open that bottle. Once your fears are dispersed, you will not like the stench they create and you will never forget them. To avoid doing this, write down and acknowledge all the weaknesses your mind is using against you. If you know what is fear and what is reality. With each passing day, your soul will get stronger and will cleanse itself of these thoughts.

Victim consciousness

Victim consciousness is one of the most powerful states in the twin flame journey. We think that we are alone in everything we experience. We feel sorry for ourselves, thinking that we are struggling alone, that no one loves us, and that our twin flame does not care about us. But the main thing is to look for reasons to remind ourselves that we have no value.

Victim consciousness is thinking that we have no say in our lives. But how true is that? Circumstances may shape our lives, but we are the ones who make the choices within those conditions. We feel as if every situation we do not accept is forcing us to do something. It is our choice to make our twin flame our priority. Every time we do not prioritize our own happiness, we live and feel what this choice brings us.

What to do: That’s why it’s always more helpful to always persuade ourselves to think and act differently than to change our twin flame. The only thing we can change is ourselves, a very cliché, but very true. Your twin flame doesn’t care about you because you do everything you do because you think of others first. Everything we prioritize determines our living conditions.

In summary, trusting ourselves and trusting the twin flame journey are the same thing. This is shattered by the revelation of everything we know inside but cannot accept. If you run from your fears, your fears will find you. If you have a fear of losing something, it means taking a closer look at your insecurities. Twin flame journey means “you”. This has nothing to do with trusting your twin flame. The biggest thing that burns me is that everything in life is always about me. But the truth is something too big to ignore.

Hi, I’m Bensu. I write about mind, hard feelings and self-love. If you enjoyed my articles about surpassing yourself and achieving your dreams, you can start your medium subscription from this link: