Why I Detest Bachelorette Parties But Will Not Miss Having One Before My Wedding
It’s officially wedding season, the cheeses are out of the box.

It’s past midnight. I’m sitting here, on my bed, counting the bach party invitation cards I got this month. I have thirteen bachelorette party invitations for August to December.
The good news is I will be doing a lot of traveling, eating, and mingling with strangers and friends. But the bad news is I will be spending hundreds of dollars on these occasions.
Let me tell you something. When a single lady gets invited to a bachelorette party, she is expected to show up. She has no commitments taking her time, after all (so they believe). And she expected to bring gifts.
So if I show up at any of these bach parties, I will not only be looking exquisite but also go bearing gifts.
According to event planners, each bachelorette party cost $650 dollars for mainly customs you may never wear again, and booze that you end up throwing up before the party is over.
For me, most bachelorette parties I attended cost twice as much, excluding plane tickets, if the venue is outside my location. Also, you get to buy some crappy stuff at the party to raise money for the celebrant and drag queens.
I try my best to make my presence unforgettable for the bride, so if I have to spend a little extra, I don’t mind. It’s a way to celebrate friendship, love, and growing up together.
As much as I enjoy attending bach parties, I don’t feel comfortable with some of the entertainments.
Some of the worst were the ones with strippers, penis themes, and drunk girls wooing at everything.
At my cousin’s bachelorette party, there was a guy who quietly watched everything on the sideline. He didn’t seem much interested to join the fun until one drunk girl approached him.
She teased him and invited him for a dance, to which he declined. She didn’t give up. She proceed to tell the guy she was already turned on by him and she wasn’t going to stop bothering him until she got her dance.
The guy felt she was joking and asked her to prove it. She slid her fingers between her thighs, pulled out her cum, and smacks the guy’s face with it.
He immediately runs to the bathroom and left the party shortly after without the girl.
Why I hate bachelorette parties
The idea of making the most of your “last night of freedom” begs a lot of questions on my mind.
Before bachelorette parties used to be confession night. A time the bride fess up to all the evil she’s done to men in her past relationship. Some share resentments they have with their partner or their greatest fear about marriage.
But now, bachelorette parties have gone wild and dirty.
I find it disturbing when couples who spent over five years living together as illegal husbands and wives choose one day before they say their wedding vows to cheat and commit some offensive acts in the name “last hurrah!”
If you have been in a committed relationship before the wedding then you have been bound to your partner for a while. If dancing and f**king stripers are what you want, then you can still do that now before the wedding.
Whatever sexual pleasure people get from bachelorette parties they can have it before and after the wedding. If your last act as a single is to cheat on your partner, then what’s stopping you from doing it again after the wedding?
It’s disturbing seeing brides have sex with stripers and do cumshots with their friends at bach parties. Some of the make-out sessions I watched looked like they could degenerate into a competitive head-butting fight, they were so violent.
I’ve also heard how people get herpes from sucking cums at bachelorette parties. Then there are those that break a bone or rib from erotic games and stripe pole dances. One lady actually tore her ACL doing stripers pole dance.
Another thing I observed is drinking until you pass out is no longer as attractive as it used to be.
Watching all those drunken maniacs lick faces like they’re trying to find a contact lens in someone else’s mouth just highlights the fact that most people who don’t have to hunt for food spend most of their time free to mate.
Although I have my reservations for bach parties, I will definitely have one as a pre-wedding party. I have spent so much money on my friend's bach parties, having one isn’t a bad idea for cash back.
But that is not why I want a bachelorette party. Sometimes we never know who are friends are until we need them. This is a way of knowing who my real friends are, at least the ones I intend to keep after my wedding.
You may not know this, but girls tend to show their true colors during wedding preparation. I noticed some women cut ties with their female friends when they get married. For some reason, married women think their single friends are a bad influence.
Maybe it’s because of the confession that happens during bach party nights. Girls spill their beans and betray each other when they are overwhelmed or drunk. And since the bachelorette party gives the opportunity to have all your friends in one place, I intend to leverage that.
However, I intend to spend that day with my friend's hiking, bowling, or gaming. Then at night, a pool party with no stripers.
My bachelorette party will be a time to know what my friends really think of me and who to keep in my life after my wedding.
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