Why I Created Queerly Trans
The publication that recognizes the trans doesn’t equal straight
This story was part of the Write For Us post, but it got a little too busy so I’ve separated it here for you. Read the story of WHY I made this publication. If you want to write for us, CLICK HERE.
My egg finally cracked at 45 and now, here I am, having just started T, embracing my gay trans-masc enby ass…
When I was 13, I heard the news of a 16-year-old who was leaving school to medical transition and become herself.
Good on her! I mean, this was the 90’s, so REALLY, good on her! It was my first introduction to what transgender meant although, at the time, I wasn’t offered the language. What I heard, was this:
Friend of trans woman: “{deadname} is going to have a sex change and become a girl.”
Mother of friend: “Oh, that makes sense. I always thought he was gay.”
Insert dumbfounded face HERE!
Let’s just overlook all the misgendering for a moment even though it makes me cringe. Yeah, so that happened. But at 13, with no idea and no language, what I learned was that gay people transitioned to become, normal — ie/ straight. Ugh!
And that lesson stuck with me for much longer than I’d like to admit. Imagine me, not even able to consider I could be like her because, well, I was already straight.
What I learned was that gay people transitioned to become, ‘normal’ (straight)
Now, I know better, thank goodness.
But that damage lasted another 30 years! My egg finally cracked at 45 and now, here I am, having just started T, embracing my gay trans-masc enby ass, and wanting to make sure that THAT stupid rhetoric doesn’t stop anyone else from finding their happiness.
I want to write and gather the kind of stories I wish I’d had available to me when I was younger. Words that would have allowed me to feel less… alone.
I want to write and gather the kind of stories I wish I’d had available to me.
