Why Did Doggy Hurt So Badly?
First time I got scared of sex.
If you have experienced vaginal or pelvic pain during sex, you will understand the emotional stress it causes.
The pain will greatly affect your sexual function, which is disconcerting. Not only does it disrupt one of life’s pleasures, but it can also be disruptive to a relationship.
Your head will be spinning from one ‘what if’ to another. Your first thought will be that you have an infection.
I’ve recently started dating some guy I’ve been flirting with for a while now.
We were taking things slowly until a few nights ago. We couldn’t stop touching each other.
Our sex is amazing. I normally don’t orgasm the first few times I have sex with a new guy because I have this reservation that they may not hit my honey spot.
My only issue is that we tried doggy style last night, and it really hurt. It’s not like he’s got a large dick, and he’s definitely not short, but it did hurt so badly.
I was uncomfortable. I worried that the pain could be a symptom of something. When we tried missionary and reverse cowgirl, I didn’t feel that sharp pain I felt before.
I was relieved but still checked in with my doctor to be sure I was safe.
Many women have experienced painful sex at some point. It occurs to approximately 15 percent of women of reproductive age.
The pain may feel sharp, burning, or like menstrual cramps. Pain during sex may feel like it is coming from deep inside the pelvis.
Women often report feeling like something is bumping into them. For many women, the pain is rare or only occurs once, but for others, it is persistent.
When we speak of painful sex, most people assume it’s just for the vagina. Men also experience pain during intercourse.
Some men when they have an orgasm, it’s either very painful or they don’t feel any sensation. In penetrative sex, some men can take 30 seconds before ejaculating.
It can feel like the head of their penis is being pushed through broken glass. They may feel a strong tingling sensation between the legs.
Just because painful sex is very common, that doesn’t mean you have to accept it as normal.
Pain during sex can have a significant negative effect on your health, self-esteem, relationships, quality of life, and work productivity.
Sex should be a pleasurable experience, and if not, talk to your partner and your doctor about it.
Why do we feel pain during intercourse?
Most times, the cause of pelvic pain in both men and women are similar. The most likely cause of painful sex includes;
- Sexual abuse
- Sex position
- Stress
- Urine condition
- Menopause
- Vulvodynia
- Infections
- Vaginismus
Besides the biological triggers mentioned above, painful sex can be caused by a lack of emotional connection.
When you are not enjoying sex with your partner, sex can be painful. For many women, an emotional connection with their partner helps them enjoy sex.
If you don’t feel like it and are doing it because it feels like a chore, it can quickly become uncomfortable and cause pain.
What you can do if you are having pain during sex
Since most people don’t discuss their sex life — good or bad — with their doctor, it’s common for people to suffer in silence.
Whether you suffer from muscle pain due to a position that is not suitable for your body, irritation or burning sensation on the skin, or a gynecological condition such as vaginismus or vulvodynia, there are certainly ways to relieve your pain so you can enjoy the happy, pain-free sex you deserve.
Switch sex positions
Doggy style is one of the sexiest positions because it allows your man to thrust deep to get that jaw-dropping orgasm you crave. But sometimes, that deep punch hits your most sensitive spots in a not-so-pleasant way.
Instead of doggy, try other positions that allow the woman more control over the pace like, ‘woman on top,’ missionary, or side-to-side spooning, which are often useful if you are experiencing painful intercourse.
Apply more lubricant
Deep thrusting can be part of the problem, especially if you’re not wet enough or if your partner has a large penis or sex toy.
Your vagina has an amazing ability to expand when you’re aroused, giving you more room for his penis. The key is to make sure you have plenty of foreplay before doing a doggy, so your body is ready. And also, apply plenty of lube.
Take things slow
Set the tone for an enjoyable experience. Take a hot bath, light candles, read an erotic novel. Do things that make you feel good and put you in a sensual mood.
Sex shouldn’t hurt no matter what position you choose. Make sure your action between the sheets includes plenty of foreplay and communication so you can get all the amazing benefits painlessly.
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