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Summary

The article discusses the author's perspective on the positive aspects of breakups, emphasizing personal growth, self-awareness, and the appreciation of past relationships.

Abstract

The author reflects on the concept of breakups as opportunities for self-discovery and alignment with one's true self. They express gratitude for past relationships, acknowledging the growth and learning that came from sharing life experiences with others. The article suggests that relationships serve as tools for consciousness rather than just sources of happiness, and that embracing change and the unknown in relationships can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and others. The author values freedom and encourages emotional growth in partners, recognizing that love is not contingent on permanence but on the ability to share experiences and grow together, even if temporarily.

Opinions

  • Breakups are seen as a chance to realign with one's higher purpose and personal growth.
  • The author is thankful for past lovers, viewing them as catalysts for self-mastery and emotional development.
  • There is an emphasis on the importance of speaking one's truth and supporting partners' growth, even if it leads to separation.
  • The author believes that love should not be bound by the expectation of forever but should be appreciated for its presence in one's life at any given moment.
  • The article conveys a sense of optimism about future relationships, trusting that new connections will emerge after the end of a chapter.
  • The author has a profound appreciation for the depth of experiences gained through past relationships, which they believe have enriched their life.
  • Freedom in relationships is highly valued, both in terms of personal autonomy and in providing space for a partner's freedom.
  • The author encourages readers to let go of expectations and trivial thinking to receive their dreams, suggesting a philosophy of openness to life's unfolding.
  • Gratitude is presented as a key element in reconciling with the transient nature of relationships and in healing and moving forward.

Why Breakups Give Me Peace

A new take on breaking up

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

“If I accept the fact that my relationships are here to make me conscious, instead of happy, then my relationships become a wonderful self mastery tool that keeps realigning me with my higher purpose of living” -Eckhart Tolle

There is beauty in the end

I’m grateful for the people I’ve parted ways with. We’ve given each other a beautiful gift — space to grow into alignment with who we are and where we are going. I had amazing opportunities to discover and rediscover what I wanted out of this experience. I shared periods of my life with epic humans who taught me how to receive love and the differences between cardinal desires and transcendental intimacy.

I don’t expect my lovers to love me forever — I don’t think they should try to either. I ask that they speak their truth and understand that I support and encourage their emotional growth; that implies the inevitable change and whatever that may bring. Gratitude is the catalyst to reconcile with the fact that my love for my partner is not dependent on their “stay” or what they can provide in my life. I am thankful that I had the opportunity to meet another like myself. If I’m not like this, I steal the both of us the opportunity to experience the deeper layers of feeling.

I don’t regret a moment of my romantic life. I realized the possibilities and the wisdom in knowing that there will be a chance to feel the warmth of another once again after the ending of a chapter. The depths of my experiences would have been irrevocably altered had I not felt the profundity of the universes that had lovingly opened up to me. I believe that all of my direct experiences are potent and rich, it’s a trip unlike anything in the known.

I’ve surrendered to the unknown in relationships. All I want is the light of the sun, the sight of the moon, grass to plant my feet, company that I love, and someone who wants to freely enjoy this wonder with me for however long they may. Freedom is something I truly cherish, freedom is something I love to give to my partner. I continue to receive my dreams after I let go of my expectations and trivial thinking.

Gratitude for all the love that has found me and all that will. So it is.

Gratitude

I am excited to share the tools that helped me build stronger relationships with myself and others. I welcome your thoughts. Let me know which articles helped you see a new perspective. May we heal ourselves and our world. Thank you for your love and support!

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