The Healing Butterfly

When We Part Ways

Endings do NOT mean failures.

I will love you forever and always, my Soul is connected to your Soul and no matter where you are-I’m there too.

We have this way of looking at relationships — if it ends — it failed — WE FAILED.

That’s just not true. Not every relationship is meant to last indefinitely or be continuous.

Imagine that every single friend you ever had was still an active participant in your life and vice versa. Imagine that the first love was your last. Imagine that.

I know that’s a beautiful reality for some people, but for most of us it is not, and was never meant to be. Think of all you would have missed out on if your first best friend was your last, the person you were in love with when you were 16, or 22 or 33 was the last person you felt like that for.

Well, that’s ridiculous right? We’re not meant to have each relationship, even our closest ones-even the best friend ones that went on for 2 or 3 decades, even the ones that include our parents, siblings, and other family members — even as painful as that is because we all want that to be good and healthy and to last forever and to be like some family fantasy that at least so far in our society and reality; it’s just not like that for many of us.

For many of us we grow up in dysfunctional homes with dysfunctional and abusive parents who weren’t raised with the tools to be better for their kids.

We had to deal with and escape that while having our own families and navigating all of it without a whole lot of direction.

Our world is more about throwing it together and dealing with the issues after they are issues and then putting band-aid type fixes on things that never resolve the issues and the chaos. Then we get distracted until we have to deal with another situation or we finally break the chain and do things differently.

Family Issues

Sometimes we need to take care of ourselves regardless of the title of any person in our life. As we know-anyone can be an unhealthy person for us, abusive to us — even the ones who “should” not be.

So, some people are not meant to be in our lives forever. Some are meant to come and go and come back again and again.

Some people are meant to come in and to go out forever, whether that’s someone we just met last month or someone we have known for twenty years and even someone who we gave birth to or gave birth to us.

I’m speaking from experience here. Unfortunately.

I know all of the piles of dirty energy those types of situations can create, as well as understanding forgiveness, love and what it means to give space to people so they can evolve without the influence of you around.

Just because we love & miss people doesn’t mean we should fight to have them around us, and it doesn’t mean we failed because they aren’t around us.

Humans feel pain and we hurt emotionally. Just like our physical body gets injured, our emotional body gets injured — but you can’t see it so it’s easier to ignore it, deny the injury.

Pain-it’s part of the deal.

If we don’t embrace our humanity and our emotions they will control us in the nastiest of ways — ways that hurt us, others and makes us sick. Literally.

Everyone is in our lives for the amount of time that is appropriate. Just as they came in for a reason, they need to go for a reason. The space between us was necessary.

Space.

For whatever the infinite reasons are for why and when things end; if we see any and all endings as failures then we miss the meaning, the wisdom and the opportunity to learn from ourselves in those relationships and to look at why we were in them — the nature and status of the relationships is besides the point. Why they existed and why the ended, it’s all meaningful and purposeful.

We NEED to see ourselves connected energetically.

We need to see ourselves as Souls in bodies living out these human lives doing the best we can to make sense of this existence. It isn’t easy. For many of us we have always felt out of place, alone and confused about how this world works.

So many people feeling lonely and alone.

Being seemingly separate all of the time, when the fact is that we’re always extremely connected. If only we could SEE how connected we really are.

Humanity is waking up to this fact through the COVID-19 pandemic. At least in the physical, if not energetically. Still, it is planting seeds as to how one person can connect to so many others.

Most of the time for most of us we cannot see how we are connected — how there’s that matrix of energy all around everything, in us and we are connected to all and all is connected to us through The Web of Life.

Whether we remember ourselves, our Souls, our Soul Group members, our past lives, our many incarnations here and elsewhere — all that we have ever been connected to knows and remembers us. Our vibration, our Soul Song Frequency is recognized by those who know it, and vice versa.

This is why you’ll meet someone and it will feel as though you’ve always known them — the truth is that you have on a Soul based level. Sometimes these connections are so extreme and intense that it shakes up our entire worlds. It’s because we recognize in our physical bodies that we have lined up with another being that knows us deeply. It’s a beautiful thing. But it can mess us up too.

It can make us think that this is the end-all-be-all for us, when that’s not true. The fact is that we all have many Soulmates, not just one. Twin Souls (aka Twin Flames) is another thing entirely, the entire reason for being is to experience separation and the mirrored aspect of being in different bodies. They are most difficult relationships to even begin — but the most powerful connections there is. Talk about magic AND alchemy!

There’s a lot of misconceptions about Twin Flames. The first being that everyone has one incarnate but that is NOT true and causing a lot of speed-bumps with people.

Here’s a story all about Soulmates and Twin Flames:

For Soulmates though, which we all have — coming together and being together is much easier. Our friends, family members and even people we know for just a day can be Soulmates and in our Soul Groups.

People we have known again and again in other lives, meant to always come in and serve a purpose for us and us for them.

We humans forget our infinite and divine spirit nature, forget that we’ve been around and around living these lives here and there — together.

When we’re in bodies we feel separate and alone when we’re really not.

Who We Connect To Is Greatly Dictated By Our Energy & Our Souls

I am acutely aware of our Soul’s, energy in general and our constant connection because I’m a Psychic Physical Empath, Medical Medium, Natural Born Energy Healer, Distance Quantum Healer, Astral Guide, Channel, Medium, Spiritual Liaison & Soul Code Ascension Coach and Divinely Guided Artist — trust me, I know it’s a mouthful.

I deal with a lot of prejudice for being who I am. I wrote this article so people can see it from the other side.

I live my life ultra aware of our energetic connections, it’s just how I’m designed and my entire life has been this way. I was chronically super sick my entire life and finally diagnosed with Fibromyalgia when I was 25. I was truly energetically sick, which translates to how we feel physically but the actually problem is energy.

Most people who are Empaths do not feel in their bodies the way I do. Literally feeling in my body exactly how others feel; your knee pain is my knee pain.

Psychic Physical Empaths are pretty rare, Empaths are much more common although they only make up about 11% of the total global population; Physical Empaths are 2% of the 11%.

This is why most people aren’t aware they are one or that they exist. The remaining 9% are Empaths who are energetically sensitive, and can have a wide range of healing and psychic abilities.

Which means that if they don’t know what they are-they are always dealing with shifting emotions of the people around them-especially the people closest to them.

A lot of stress, anxiety, fear, anger and the like, they experience a lot of mental issues and the “need” for prescriptions to help them-which really doesn’t and it doesn’t have to be like that. Just like I didn’t have to be in constant pain, neither do they. It’s about energy identification & management but first knowing what you are and it’s so important for your relationships.

They just don’t know what’s going on. Imagine other peoples emotions plugging into you and you feeling that way.

For Empath’s that is a reality.

Once we know the difference and can navigate our energetic sensitivities-life is truly magical. Not perfect. Magical — because we can work with the things in nature that cannot be seen with our 2 eyes, only felt through our 3rd eye; how it was meant to be.

You can read about my journey of discovery, and how I evolved from being someone who was on disability and chronically sick with Fibromyalgia to someone who heals others here:

Love Relationships: Getting Over It & Moving On

When it comes to separating and ending any relationship — it is hard — but the romantic, sexual ones are on another level. Those cords are even stronger.

Not just connected to us in general, but literally connected by the naughty bits, and the Chakras associated with them-The Root & The Sacral, of course those connect to the other naughty bits-our hearts/emotions and our mind/communication/logic-The Heart, Throat & Third Eye Chakras.

It can make it really hard to move on from relationships-especially sexual ones, as there’s nothing like sharing sexual energy.

For that very reason, everyone should practice something called “Cord Cutting” (I like the term Relationship Detachment but it’s not well known yet) when a relationship of any kind ends, or even when you jUST NEED to “reset” energies between you and someone else; these clearing, healing and energy meditation practices are even more critical for Empaths to do. There’s information on my website about cutting cords and I have uploaded the practice for doing this on my podcast:

Together — For Now

The best advice I can give for moving on — besides cord cutting — is to leave the notion behind that we are supposed to be together forever. From friendships to romantic relationships and yeah — even marriages.

Maybe instead of the goal being to be together forever, it should be to be together happily loving each other — for as long as that’s meant to be. It should be the substance of a relationship, not the length of it that matters.

The concepts of “will it work out” and “will it last” and if people get married, “will they make it”. As if when things do conclude at some point-that it voids out the entire relationship! Not true.

Just like anything in life-it’s a choice to see things that way. So a successful romantic relationship is when one of you dies? That can’t be right. And it’s not.

We need to understand that everything changes, nothing lasts forever in any one state because that’s a Universal Law. Evolution, and transmutation.

When we die-we don’t end, we change from aging in a solid body to being our pure Soul Energy only — transmuted and in another dimension. Never ending. Infinite. That’s why the energy of the Soul can be contacted after they transition-they haven’t ended — they changed form.

We as individual humans must evolve and we do- and in relationships we must do this too. Sometimes those individual evolutions don’t transfer to both persons pages to continue the story together.

Like the image at the top of this story states; our endings give us space to grow, to evolve and that should always be our priority. In or out of any relationship.

Stasis doesn’t get us anywhere — thinking that a relationship should be something it’s not is just living in denial, and living in the idea that it should be this when it’s that, only puts you in the mode to repeat instead of evolve.

This is also Universal Law.

What we do not learn from — we are given again and again to try in different ways, different looks at the same problem, just like we are fractals, we have these boxes that have a set of people and experiences we need to figure out.

Both parties coming into the situation for specific roles to play and lessons to learn. Just so we can process the lessons and experiences to gain wisdom on our journey — together for a time like study partners.

Not all classes are meant to be indefinite, most of them aren’t.

So if you have experienced repeat situations, and notice the similarities and wonder why it seems like a theme-there is. It’s a maze to get out of. So pack a bag and get to work.

I call it a Pandora’s box. A maze that has the same attributes, there’s a reason we find ourselves in those boxes.

We’ve all been in “repeat” modes in different ways in our lives…Mine was Men.

I basically dated the same man in 5 relationships before I figured out I was attracted to people who needed to be lifted up and healed.

It’s my nature to be a healer — to see perfection in the broken and to try to fix it and make those two energies match.

Finding and picking people who should be taking care of their own stuff before involving themselves in another relationship isn’t a good plan — that’s for sure. But I had to live it over and over again to figure it out.

Never would those relationships work because they weren’t fair or balanced from the start. I was the nursing broken hearts and egos of brilliant men who could never love me the way I loved them or the way I imagine what being truly loved would be and feel like from them. The nature in the duality of this is very stark indeed.

I needed to experience that, those circumstances, and so did they. We (hopefully) all truly learned things.

Married People & Families

Like it or not, we are where we are for a reason.

If you don’t like where you are— maybe that’s because you’re stuck connected to past experiences and relationships, energy that tells you that things didn’t go right, that you were wrong or they were and the reality you’re in should be different.

Especially when we are married and have families. The stakes are so high. Little lives we are in charge of and we find ourselves in those dysfunctional relationships once again-needing it to end. FAIL. We failed.

A lot of people see endings as failures, especially if they are marriages with children.

We should be in our family unit forever.

I was there once — married with a child thinking that there was no way I could continue, but felt like I seriously messed up — it wasn’t going to be what I wanted it so desperately to be — FOREVER & PERFECT(ISH), a fairytale happily ever after and blah, blah, blah…

But I had to do what was right for myself and my son, and that meant to separate so we could all grow unimpeded.

No, it’s not what I had planned. But truth be told, as I walked down the aisle I knew it was not going to be forever. But I was all dressed up and there were a lot of people there and the bun was already in the oven so...

Sometimes we need to go through hell to recognize heaven.

It’s not until you pull it apart and see it for what it is that you will be free of it.

Let go.

Let go of the idea that you failed. You didn’t. You are you and they are them and that’s it. Remember-we’re not all supposed to be together forever.

We must crawl before we can run. No one makes all of the right moves all of the time. That would make this existence pointless.

Know that it’s NOT a failure when relationships end. If and when they end gives us the opportunity to learn and gain wisdom for ourselves and grow in a different direction in a way we couldn’t otherwise.

If we’re in the mode of victimhood or fighting reality, or damning circumstances and angry at and for things that have happened then we’re energetically living in that timeline and this one, and nothing feels right. Ever.

Acceptance is key. To accept the situation and decide to learn from it, to allow for the process to unfold, and to see where you are now, in a brand new way-without being attached to some idea that it should be something else.

Sending Love helps. Both of you.

If you think and feel that the person or people who are no longer in your life should be, that creates a dissonance within you. You’re telling your Energy Body that it is in lack, and needs an outside source to be OK, and that is just not true.

Aside from that, it voids all of the lessons, experience, wisdom and learning you should be taking inventory of.

Don’t miss this opportunity to evolve.

If it’s a new separation, give yourself a little bit of time to get used to your new reality without that person around, but also make sure you go back and take the time to sort out the happenings, feel around for the big bumps in the road and what happened there.

Be honest about it — lying to yourself won’t help anyone — especially you. Then cut cords ASAP.

No need to stay energetically connected any longer than you were in the physical and know that reconnecting cords is as easy as picking up the phone and calling someone. So there’s no need to hold off. Cutting cords is about not constantly feeding energy to a relationship that is no longer viable, and bringing that energy back to you. It’s your Life Force, you need it.

If it’s an old separation that still hurts, then you know you need to heal from it, you’re emotional body is attached and it’s time to free yourself. Please consider cutting cords.

Be real about the reasons for the beginnings and the “endings” and realize that it’s all fluid, everything and everyone is evolving and impermanent.

Creation is constant — so create a beautiful life for yourself without the burden of feeling you failed at anything-much less relationships.

“Nothing truly ends, it just changes form.” ~GAIA, Mother of Us All-Earth

Be guided today, and always Live In Love.

About Infiniti

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