When Someone Else Succeeds, It Does Not Mean You Failed

Summary

The author acknowledges the natural feeling of envy upon learning of a peer's significant success but quickly reframes this into a positive perspective, recognizing that such achievements affirm the possibility of success for all who persevere in their endeavors.

Abstract

Upon hearing about a friend's lucrative book deal, the author initially experiences a pang of envy, questioning why they haven't achieved similar success despite decades of writing. However, this moment of jealousy is fleeting as the author realizes that their friend's triumph is proof that hard work and persistence can lead to substantial book deals. The author concludes that another's success does not diminish personal prospects but rather enhances them, as it demonstrates that opportunities are available to those who continue to strive for their goals. The article ends on an encouraging note, urging readers not to abandon their dreams and to view others' achievements as inspiration rather than competition.

Opinions

The author admits to feeling envious of a friend's book deal, which is presented as a normal, albeit brief, emotional response.
There is an underlying belief that success is achievable and that perseverance is a key factor, as evidenced by the friend's success.
The author emphasizes that success in the writing industry is not a zero-sum game; one person's success does not hinder another's chances.
The article suggests that success stories, like that of the author's friend, serve as motivation and validation for one's own efforts and dreams.
The author advocates for a positive outlook, recommending that envy be transformed into inspiration and determination to succeed.

But feeling a bit envious is normal

I woke up a few weeks ago to the news that a Facebook friend’s book sold for six figures.

OMG! How wonderful, right?

That should have been my first reaction, but if I’m honest and I need to be, my joy was tinged with a bit of that green monster: envy.

Why not me?

I’ve been writing for six decades, possibly seven, if you count the time in utero when my mom says I beat out poetic rhythms against her belly.

It’s not to say I haven’t been successful. In fact, I sold my first picture book, coming out this fall. But I’ve yet to hit the big time. I’m still waiting for Meryl Streep to read my novel and beg to play the leading role in the film.

So, I let myself have that moment of “Why not me?” But it didn’t last long.

I realized her success was a good thing. Her triumph meant it was possible to get a great book deal. That hard work and perseverance does pay off. That the opportunities are out there, ready for anyone who puts in the time and energy. And never, ever gives up.

The next big deal, could be me.

It could be you.

Someone else’s success does not take away from ours. It actually increases our chances.

If deals weren’t being made, books sold, movies optioned, then I would be justified in saying, why even try.

But they are being made. My friend serves as an example. She deserves every bit of her success.

Just as we all do.

So, I spun that little green thread into a ball and tossed it into the wind. It blends in better with the grassy area around my house than with the creativity within my mind.

Thanks for reading. Don’t ever give up your dream!

When Someone Else Succeeds, It Does Not Mean You Failed

But feeling a bit envious is normal

Perseverance Pays Off

I’ve been writing for over six decades.

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