What’s The Price You’re Willing To Pay To Reach Your Goals?
How not to get lost on the way
“Any lifestyle comes with a price. Are you willing to pay it?”
Depression rates of the global population are sky-high because people don’t achieve their goals. Under the hood, there lays another huge secret hurdle called: “Jealousy.”
Jealousy is the dirt of society and the internet doesn’t help one bit.
Ages ago, deep inside, I was too a jealous type. To be frank, just like many others most probably this epigenetic programming began while growing up. It’s a program I deleted a long time ago, and so should you.
Getting rid of jealousy will open the gates to mental freedom and goal achievement!
Don’t envy people in the position you would like to be in. Instead, ask yourself: “Am I willing to go through what it took for them to reach that place you admire?”
Thinking about someone’s process is more useful than just wishing you were there.
Why people don’t commit to their goals?
Fear is a nasty trigger but that’s not the only thing.
Some (The majority according to Google) say that fear of missing out is a huge commitment inhibitor, although hunting for huge end goals, arousal, and distraction play a huge role too. Let me ask you:
“How much free day space do you schedule for yourself to be alone and work focused on only one thing?”
Indeed.
Call me an exaggerator, but fear of missing out seems to be an easy excuse to say it inhibits your commitment. The real problem lies in the scheduling, planning, and undertaking of the action consistently.
Creating a physical plan of what you want to do, or what your desired path might look like might be what you need to make it real. There’s a huge difference between creating a mental plan and seeing a plan in front of you on paper.
Commitment, what does it really mean?
Why do you want to commit to that goal?
Committing to your goals has much to do with your determination to achieve an accepted goal.
Three important factors that determine that are:
- Art of the goal path (Will I be able to always deliver and love the process?)
- Intensity of desire
- Planning
Sometimes expecting certain outcomes, comprise intense desire.
If your will is strong, you’ll commit!
When feeling bad becomes a huge weapon.
You have the power within you to convert negativity into positivity. Similar to you turn a bad habit into a good habit. It requires a bit of effort for you to use that mental switch.
Instead of searching for desired goals, look at something you don’t want anymore. Let’s say you’re sick of drinking daily, you really don’t like this feeling anymore, but you’re addicted as fuck.
Look at people who don’t drink, What are they doing throughout their day?
This is just one very simple example to present you the idea, but for instance, the exact opposite would be athletes… What are they doing?
Instead of waking up and grabbing a cigarette, they start their day with some situps, or they immediately step out of bed and prepare themselves to go for a run.
Now the thing is different habits will make your mind render information differently and will distract you from that previous addiction. That “new” great endorphin feeling will be your new addiction. You’ve just converted your bad feeling into a positive runners’ high.
Great!
See, you need a great reason to transform your life and your outcomes.
Lining out a path
The example given might lead you to one day running a marathon, without paying too much attention to running a marathon in the first place.
Because you’ve replaced a bad feeling with something positive, a chain reaction of other habits will arise, building epigenetic layer on epigenetic layer.
This will automatically set new lines, in this way, you are creating a new path. A path that you find more enjoyable that the initial thing you were busy with.
Doing it even when you don’t feel like
That said, You’ll experience downfalls.
What’s mentioned are rather easy steps. Now you will want to make sure you’ll bite through while you don’t feel like it. Everyone has bad days. Still, you need to show up.
As a motivator, know that the more you show up on bad days, the easier it will become to push through and be consistent. Eventually, know that you’ll fall in love with the bad days too.
What price are you willing to pay?
That lifestyle, that dream future, Is it truly worth it?
It doesn’t make sense to continue wanting something if you’re not willing to do what it takes to get it.
-James Clear-
You don’t want to jump on every hot trend straight away. And know this:
“The grass always seems greener on the opposite side, but in 99% of the situations that’s an illusion.”
Matter of fact, in most cases, missing a hype or someone else’s dream perspective will deliver greater benefits. Here on Medium, for instance, you notice how certain people are/or how they’ve become very successful creators. I think it’s wise that on a platform like this, a certain jealousy exists too.
However, most are ignoring the price you need to pay to get there.
Desire
Desire comes from the mind and guarantees suffering. Is that the price you are willing to pay?
All end goals seem nice, but do you like to struggle, do you like to put in the work and use your “now-time” to get there?
To know whether you want to pay a high price to reach a certain goal, you want to learn about what the trajectory looks like, and then see if you’re willing to fall in love with that trajectory.
Lifestyle
The trajectory will become your new lifestyle.
When you want a different outcome from where you are now, You’ll need to be willing to live a different lifestyle. Perhaps knowing which goals you want could be easier by back-engineering a lifestyle. Because goals are an illusion, they are merely screenshots of life.
“If you don’t want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment.”
-James Clear-
Money versus Time
When “the price to pay” means more than money.
Objective: You want to become a well-performing writer.
For most people, their goal-reaching will make a huge impact on their present lives. This involves volume, and work volume is the chewing gum of time. Putting in the work, I don’t care what your dream is, will require you to sacrifice a huge amount of your precious time.
As for becoming a well-performing writer, there are many aspects that require time besides the actual writing. Quality and time spent on reading contribute to that writing together with revising, rethinking, editing, and more,… All of that aside from real life which you want to keep in check.
Make sure it’s possible for you to create the time needed without being obstructive to someone else’s time. When a certain amount of time has been sacrificed throughout the struggle, eventually financial possibilities will arise.
Remember, it’s the intensity of your desire that will feed the life you want, achieve the goals you’re hunting for and attract everything that’s needed along your path.
How To Achieve your goals?
Trigger the electromagnetic force of your heart.
Detect
Redraw your attention from a goal and search for the life you want. You don’t want to point all your energy on the finish line. When you’ve found the particular trajectory that you (and your family) want to live in, you’ll set yourself up for a sustainable route toward your goal(s).
Live
Falling in love with your present moment will magnetize your heart. Feel your outcome, fantasize about it, envision it.
Make sure your path of choice doesn’t make you don’t do anything against your belief or will. To be frank, this is what life is about, screw all the financial crap. Love what you do on a daily basis and enjoy living that life.
Achieve
The achievement will be the accumulated aftermath of your journey, make it worth the while!
Take this
- Jealousy is the dirt of society and the internet doesn’t help one bit to learn to know which goals you want to achieve and to achieve them
- Show up even when you don’t like, and become comfortable with the uncomfortable
- Search for the path you really want don’t overfocus on the end goal
- Make sure its fun to undertake the required daily action
- Make a physical plan, something that you can see
- Make yourself accountable to push through
- Track your measurable progress
Fall in love with your present moment. Feel your outcome, fantasize about it, envision it.
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