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The website content discusses personal growth, emphasizing the importance of forgiveness, self-love, and understanding one's own emotions for a healthy and happy life.

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The article "What’s Healthy For Me And You, Too" delves into the author's introspective journey through their orange journal, which serves as a repository for their deepest thoughts and feelings. It offers insights on the significance of forgiving others without compromising personal boundaries, the necessity of self-forgiveness, and the acceptance of one's emotions. The author stresses the importance of setting boundaries lovingly, practicing non-judgment, and understanding that forgiveness is a personal choice, not an obligation. The piece also touches on the concept of self-worth, the power of positive thinking, and the law of attraction as tools for personal development. Additionally, it explores the complex nature of love, advocating for self-soothing and vulnerability to experience love fully. The author encourages readers to tap into positivity and offers engagement opportunities through their new blog and membership tiers for personal access.

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Forgiveness is a personal choice and does not necessitate reconciliation or a return to previous patterns of communication.
Establishing boundaries is crucial and should be done with love, not anger.
Holding a grudge is different from accepting a situation and moving forward without the need for closure.
People should be accepted as they are, and judgment should be replaced with patience.
Self-forgiveness is essential, and all feelings are valid; one should not feel the need to justify their emotions.
Embracing and working through darkness and challenges is part of personal growth.
It is important to let go of past events and recognize their impact on our character and responses to the world.
Self-worth and confidence are key to living the life one desires.
The law of attraction suggests that our thoughts and words can shape our reality.
Love is unique to each individual, and understanding how one gives and receives love is important for healthy relationships.
Recognizing and taking responsibility for one's projections and negative attitudes is necessary for personal growth.
Following one's heart and self-soothing are important for experiencing love fully and maintaining mental well-being.

What’s Healthy For Me And You, Too

Speculation of thoughts on forgiveness and love…

During moments of boredom, I tend to re-read old entries in my beloved orange journal. This little book holds my deepest and most disturbing thoughts and exhibits a perfect reflection of my present moment feelings. I will never let it go.

When feeling uninspired, it is what I seek. It provides uplifting mantras and realistic expectations for how I can improve now and also paves the way for future versions of me. I hope you will find value in notes I jotted down during a community circle gathering among enlightened and intellectual college girlfriends.

On Forgiving Others

I’m doing what’s healthy for me, and that is what’s important. Forgiveness does not equal going back to old ways of communicating. Forgiving others is your choice.

There’s a difference between forgiving people for yourself and/or for them. Find boundaries and establish them. When you set boundaries, do it lovingly. There is no need for anger when you do this. If not upheld, be confident in walking away without regret or fear of the future.

You are not required to forgive everyone who wrongs you.

Yet this should not be mistaken for grudge-holding. Accept what is and move past this situation(s) and person or people. Work through it. You don’t need closure and should expect to not always receive it. That’s okay — you are strong.

Learn to accept people for who they are because you cannot change them, nor should you try. Take every person you meet at face value. Listen to them and do what’s best. Make it a habit to reduce judgment and increase patience. This may not come easy — it certainly doesn’t for me.

Remind yourself with mantras or sticky notes, or whatever it takes. When conflict arises practice non-judgment. Practice living in peace. This will help you to forgive others because you will gain empathy and insight into the reasoning behind their actions.

I Realize I’ve Been Happy Only When I’m Sad

So I sulk with heavy eyes and sit with my sadness for a little while.

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On Forgiving Yourself

You have the right to all of your feelings. They are valid. You needn’t explain why you feel a certain way. You are not overreacting. You are not overly sensitive.

Honor your feelings and accept yourself for feeling feelings. It’s important to accept the darkness and rough times. All of us have our own shadow work to do. It may not even be resolved during this lifetime.

Transmute and release the bad shit — feel it. Spill it. Let go of it. Recognize that even insignificant events are impactful and shaping in our lives. It is even likely that small occurrences may contribute to our overall character and how we carry ourselves and respond to the world.

And we must be okay if things don’t go as planned, even when very well planned. Learn to adapt.

Have a high level of self-worth and be confident in everything that makes you amazing. Know that you are deserving of the life you crave. Never lose determination. Trust your gut when it’s gnawing at you — for good or bad.

You can break out of old patterns. You can reprogram your thoughts. You have a birthright to live as a divine being of the Universe. In every moment of every day, you are speaking and thinking things into existence, whether you believe it or not. It is the law of attraction.

You must act now as the person you long to be. For this is the only way to bring it into existence — the money, the job, the house, the lover, the intentional way of living with joy that you crave and are deserving of. It is within you. Be authentic and honor you and the rest will follow.

Manipulate Energy To Achieve Your Desires

You are the creator of your reality and the decider of your life’s purpose.

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On Love

Love is not the same for everyone. Many people see love as a trade assuming that you and the receiver of love expect love in the same way. Knowing how you express and receive your love is important to establish between the people in your life.

When people mirror their attitudes toward others, it is slightly subconscious and manipulative. Understand that people don’t do this to be malicious — they may not realize they are projecting their flaws onto you.

It is important to recognize when we project negative attitudes onto others due to our faults. Take responsibility for your actions and treat others the way you wish to be treated.

Be sure to always follow your heart in whatever you do and wherever life takes you. There are no mistakes. It’s growth. It’s your beautiful journey and you get to choose the life you want.

Learn to self-soothe. Know how to take care of yourself at any given moment. Don’t let that stop you from being real and vulnerable so you may experience all types of love to its fullest. It will always be worth the payout.

And in my journey of life, I learn a little bit more each day on the best ways to take care of my mind, body, and soul. I hope this serves as a reminder of how to live happy and healthy for you, too.

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