What We See Before We Die:
Exploring the Common Experiences of the Dying
Death is a natural and inevitable part of life, and one that has fascinated people for centuries. Many people wonder what happens in the final moments before death and what they might see or experience. While everyone’s experience of death is unique, there are some commonalities in the experiences of people who are approaching death.
Detachment from the World
One of the most common experiences is a sense of detachment from the world around them. Many people report feeling like they are outside of their body, or watching the world from a distance. This can be accompanied by feelings of peace and calm, or a sense of acceptance. As hospice nurse Maggie Callanan wrote in her book “Final Gifts,” “The dying may have a feeling of being in two worlds at once, in which the real world is gradually slipping away.”
Seeing Deceased Loved Ones
Another common experience is the appearance of loved ones who have already passed away. Many people report seeing deceased family members or friends, or even pets, in the days or hours leading up to their death. This can be comforting for some, and can help to ease fears about what comes next. As one person shared on Reddit, “My mom saw my dad, who had passed a few years before, in the corner of the room. She said he was smiling and reaching out his hand to her.”
Vivid Dreams and Visions
Some people also report having vivid and meaningful dreams or visions in the days or hours before they die. These may be related to their personal beliefs or religious background, and can be comforting for some people. Others may experience more unsettling or frightening visions, and it’s important for caregivers and loved ones to be aware of this and offer support and comfort. As hospice chaplain Kerry Egan wrote in her book “On Living,” “I’ve sat with many dying patients who have vivid dreams or visions, often of people who have already died. These experiences can be very comforting to the dying person, and can give them a sense of peace and closure.”
It’s worth noting that not everyone will have these experiences, and that some people may not be conscious or aware of what is happening in the moments before their death. However, for those who do have these experiences, they can be a source of comfort and meaning in a difficult and challenging time.
What we see before we die is a complex and multifaceted topic. While there are some commonalities in the experiences of people who are approaching death, each person’s experience is unique. As we approach the end of our lives, it’s important to approach this subject with sensitivity and compassion, and to provide support and comfort to those who are facing the end of their lives. As Kerry Egan wrote, “It’s not about fixing anything, but about being present, holding space, and offering compassion and kindness.”