What The Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Relationship Says About Men and Women
You know, there is a lot of talk on social media about so-called high value men, high status men, and all of that junk. And there is the perpetuated idea that those men are the men who are either at a certain level of attractiveness, make a certain amount of money, have a certain height, or a combination of such things. A lot of those things are superficial and I’m sure that those things may help, no doubt.
However, partly thanks to a man on YouTube known as Casey Zander, I have the idea that being a so-called high value or high status man has more to do with how a man carries himself and his mentality when dealing with women, with people, and with life, then it does the amount of money, height, good looks, etc. he has. Again, those latter qualities may help, but if the internal qualities are missing, even they can only do so much.
And so this goes into what I think the Jada Pinkett and Will Smith dynamic exposes. Look at Will Smith. By a lot of accounts, Will Smith would be considered one of the top-notch men! He’s tall and rich, obviously. He probably has a decent body, although I don’t recall seeing him much with his shirt off. He is presumably good looking (I don’t really judge men in that way, but I do remember on the movie Bad Boys he played the heart throb, playboy kind of guy) and, until the unfortunate incident between him and Chris rock, he was pretty much a Hollywood favorite.
Yet, in spite of all that, it seems that him and Jada Pinkett still have… problems (to put it mildly). Not only has it been exposed that they apparently separated in 2016, but in a lot of ways, people feel that Jada Pinkett has been disrespectful to Will Smith and has emasculated him in the eyes of the world. Indeed, there was another rapper (who was my favorite rapper, actually) known as Tupac Shakur, who people say that she really loved or had a thing for, even to a point that her daughter allegedly wrote a letter too late Tupac wanting him to come back so that her mom Jada can be happy.
If you still don’t get the point of what I’m trying to say, the point is that a man can be a so-called high-status man in the material sense and in the physical sense, but if he doesn’t have that something that commands the respect of his woman, or even from women in general, then he may not be high-status in the way that is necessary. In other words, like the guy Casey Zander was saying, certain men can carry themselves in a certain way, have a certain demeanor, and have a masculine energy. I don’t mean the toxic masculinity that we hear so much about and the so-called alpha male stuff of men beating their chests or whatever. But just some kind of attractive, masculine energy (even if it’s subtle), that makes them high value, so to speak, regardless of how much money they have, how tall they are, or how good they look.
As mentioned, superficial things may help, but they aren’t the full picture. In fact, I wrote another article telling men to stop focusing on their looks so much and made mention of certain celebrities in the article, who may not have been head turners for women if they looked the way they looked, but were just regular guys. Rather, I explained that their perceived hotness was largely because of who they are or at least who they were perceived to be by women.
Now, hey, I don’t know what the true dynamic of Jada Pinkett’s and Will Smith’s relationship is. A lot of people are just going by what they have been shown and it appears to a lot of people that Jada doesn’t respect him or that she has simply done things that made him look bad or whatever. I personally don’t like to get into that kind of talk because I think it’s messed up for anyone to be said to look bad just because they have been mistreated or disrespected by someone else, but whatever. The point is, in some people’s eyes, that’s how it seems.
In conclusion, I hope that men don’t end up being destroyed mentally and emotionally, especially considering the high rate of loneliness and suicide going on with men for various reasons, due to thinking that they have to reach a certain level financially, be tall, hot, etc. just to get love and respect from women. I imagine that it can be as discouraging for men to think that they have to be tall, hot, rich, confident, etc. to get love as discouraging as it would be to tell all women that they have to look like Halle Berry or somebody to get some play.
It’s ridiculous. Rather, I want men to understand that, regardless of their station in life, they can still cultivate the qualities that are not only attractive, but that command respect, and that those things are largely internal. That should be good news, because even though it takes an honest look at oneself and takes doing the work mentally and emotionally speaking, if it’s done right, it’s not something that can really be taken away the same as material things and fame can, yet it can be something that gains attraction and respect from women, even if their amount of money and their looks alone fail to do so.
