What The Hell Is Going On In My Mind
Be careful about your thoughts!
Observe the narrative of your thinking.
Keep asking yourself: “Is this what I really want?”
If the answer is NO, then you should change it.
And adopt a new belief.
Strange things can happen when you’re not in control of your thinking.
“Your mind will take on the character of your most frequent thoughts”
Marcus Aurelius: Meditations
You might:
- Make decisions you don’t want
- Hang out with people you don’t like
- Do boring things
All of that is just because you have a belief that this is how it’s supposed to be.
Yesterday, I realized that I had a huge problem
Even though I would like to:
- Build an incredible online business
- Live a millionaire’s lifestyle
- Create outstanding content
I discovered that this scares me.
My subconscious mind believes that college would be a safer choice.
(*In Slovenia college is free. Students get a scholarship and don’t need to work)
So it deflected me from my desired life. In college:
- Nothing could go wrong
- No chance of bankruptcy
- Mum would be there for me
I just need to show up and pass the exams.
That’s what I was thinking.
Realizing that shocked me. This way of thinking probably sabotaged my success. I was afraid of success!
I saw business success in the following way:
- Can run out of money
- Parents wouldn’t be there for me
- I can get to a place with bad food (wink wink)
I saw my success as a danger!
Pay attention to your thoughts, it creates both miracles and disasters.
Nitin Namdeo
I made an urgent intervention!
- I wrote down my beliefs
- Found a root cause — I asked myself: “Why do I believe this?”
- Evaluated the response
- Transformed my beliefs into empowering ones
- Talked about it with my fiancée (the best mental health coach I know)
I felt a surge of happiness, love, and liberation in my heart.
I knew that was my biggest problem. The reason why my business isn’t making money. The reason why I often feel stuck.
The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen.”
Frank Lloyd Wright
This quote beautifully captures the essence of my problem.
Beliefs can go in both ways:
- Lead you to success
- Lead you to failure
It only depends on the type of beliefs you have.
You always need to have beliefs that lead to success.
I discovered that I wanted to work on my business. That college is just a “job” that pays the bills till I start making money. That I dream of becoming a successful entrepreneur.
So why would I postpone that for 3 more years?
What would change?
Why would it be easier?
Why would it be safer?
Why would I work on my business if I am actually afraid of success?
Why would I push myself hard, create content, and study my craft so diligently if I don’t want to live a millionaire’s lifestyle?
Why would I be afraid of my dreams?
Why would I strive for something dangerous?
Why do I really want my parents’ support?
Why don’t I just settle for less?
Would they sue me because I plan to work on my business while just passing the college with a minimal effort?
THAT WAS A RED FLAG!
Who the hell would sue me? Who would even be offended? This was a clear sign of overthinking.
Overthinking combined with limiting beliefs. That was a destruction plan!
I needed to make a complete shift!
So I wrote:
- I want to be an entrepreneur, I won’t settle for less
- Success now is equally safe than success in 3 years
- Nobody would be offended, so nobody would sue me
- I will keep working hard and won’t force results
- I want it, so I will work for it, and have it
I reframed my negative beliefs into empowering statements.
I felt an immediate difference. Today I work harder and have better ideas. My creativity skyrocketed!
This mindset shift alone can make a huge difference.
It’s time for you to do the same
I invite you to evaluate the quality of your thoughts and examine
- Which of them serve you
- And which don’t
So do the following:
- Write down your thoughts for 10 minutes (don’t filter)
- Identify thoughts that don’t serve you
- Ask yourself: “Why do I believe this to be true?”
- Evaluate the response
- Now you know that you don’t need to be afraid
- Reframe your belief into empowering one
Share your discoveries in the comments on this post
I am curious to see what transformation you will have!
Thank you so much for reading the entire post and changing your life for the better!
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