What Stuck Porn Taught Me About Dubious Consent

It’s not as sketchy as it seems

There’s a small trend in porn videos. If you’re a somewhat wholesome person, you probably haven’t heard of it.

But if you spend a shameful amount of time on Pornhub (guilty as charged), you’ve definitely come across stuck porn.

Stuck porn is exactly what it sounds like. It features a woman (or sometimes two) who is stuck in some kind of compromising position — pinned under a bed, caught in a window, or in one memorable instance trapped in a cat condo.

Because this is porn, the stuck woman is then found by a man (or sometimes two) who decides to take advantage of the situation and fuck her.

I’ve been aware of this subgenre for a long time. I kept coming across the videos but even though I was amused by the thumbnails, I never actually watched one.

This week, curiosity got the better of me and I spent an evening with a ton of these videos.

The reason I stayed away from these is because I was sure they’d make me uncomfortable because of the consent issue. Let’s be clear, almost all of these videos depict a woman who is found and taken advantage of, not a lady who deliberately gets trapped somewhere hoping to lure some horny dude.

But I was pleasantly surprised. None of the videos actually bothered me. In fact, most of them turned me on.

Dubious Consent Fantasies

None of the videos felt sketchy because they all have an extremely playful tone.

There’s a very popular one that features a MILF getting her hand stuck in the drain of her kitchen sink. She enlists her stepson to rescue her and asks him to get the baby oil to free her. But his bumbling attempts to lubricate her hand ends up lubricating her entire body.

He can barely hold on to her, and he keeps slipping, groping her body and taking some of her clothes off as he falls.

Before long it turns into full-blown fucking, because why not?

In another one, a woman locks herself out of her house and gets stuck trying to climb back in through the window. Her stepbrother jokingly chastises her for it, but once he gets a look at her ass hanging out of her miniskirt, decides to fuck her before freeing her.

And in one of my personal favorites, a woman sticks herself in her cat condo and pretends to be stuck. She waits for her stepbrother to show up (yep, another stepbrother).

When he does, we get some great subtitled dialogue, including: “Oh, sis. Are you stuck again? First washing machine, now the house.” She looks up at him coyly and explains “I’m very clumsy.”

He rescues her, but not before fucking and face fucking her (these are cynical videos — no one does shit for free).

The scenes are very artificial. The point isn’t to make you think that the performer hasn’t consented. In fact, in a lot of cases, she’s the one who produced the video and uploaded it to her channel.

It even feels like a stretch to call it a rape fantasy. There’s just not enough aggression for that label to fit easily. These videos aren’t dark — they’re silly.

The more I watched, the more I realized that the lack of consent isn’t the point. That’s not the main appeal of stuck porn. It tends to be downplayed.

That’s why I think of stuck porn as dubious consent roleplay.

Dubious consent is a term that comes from the world of erotica and fanfiction. It describes fiction that depicts situations that aren’t quite non-consensual but also aren’t explicitly consensual.

Getting stuck in a tree and going along with the two guys who show up and decide to spitroast you fits that bill. Not super consensual, no, but right in that dubious grey area.

What Dubious Consent Porn Is Really About

So, if the appeal of dubious consent porn isn’t the lack of consent, what is it?

As far as I see it, it’s a few different things.

First, I love how it feels like the product of someone’s horny imagination. It feels like the kind of random shit that pops into your head when you’re not busy with productive thoughts. Like when you’re sunbathing and think, “Wouldn’t it be hot if two studs just found me here and started fucking me?”

Having those thoughts doesn’t mean you actually want them to happen. In fact, there’s a very, very good chance you wouldn’t be okay with that fantasy coming true. But the fantasy can still be extremely arousing.

Seeing those fantasies playing out on screen has that same innocence to them. They feel like dreamed up scenarios, not realistic ones.

Another aspect I like is the idea of giving up control (for the more dominant viewers, the appeal is probably more about taking control). There’s a strong submissive element to being stuck and fucked. When it’s played out in a way that indicates or implies some form of consent (even if it’s a touch dubious), it hits the same buttons as watching someone being tied up, handcuffed, or just commanded to do something.

There’s also something to be said about saying yes without having to say yes.

Explicit and enthusiastic consent matter in real life, but in my imagination it’s okay for me to just let go a little bit. When it’s my fantasy, my consent is always a given, even if I’m getting off to the thought of being taken by someone.

And yeah, it’d be great if we could just all open up and ask for what we want explicitly, but that’s not always an easy thing to do. I know I’ve been in lots of situations where I worried about being too explicit about my desires. I was often too shy or embarrassed to admit to the things I wanted. For more than ten years, I even avoided telling my husband I wanted him to talk dirty to me.

Because I was sitting on so many silent desires, I often found myself wishing someone would just give me what I wanted so I could enjoy it without having to out myself. Stuck porn speaks to that demure and frustrated side of me.

And maybe this is just a part of being submissive, but I don’t like to do the chasing. I like to be flirty and coy, but I don’t want to be the one who takes the lead. I want to be seduced.

Stuck porn has that kind of flavor. The women always get into the action, even if it takes some convincing. If the consent is dubious at first, it’s clear by the end.

It’s All About the Symbolism, Baby

Back when I read more erotica, I always avoided the dubious consent stuff. I assumed it would basically be rape smut. And because I don’t have any rape fantasies, I knew it wouldn’t be up my alley.

But watching these videos taught me that dubious consent smut has a very different vibe. It’s more silly than disturbing. It’s about roleplaying a fantasy, not simulating sexual assault.

I get that it might not be for everyone. Making the consent dubious might rub your the wrong way. But there’s nothing wrong with enjoying it.

You don’t need to actually wish you were stuck somewhere and fucked by a stranger (or your stepbrother) to get off to this stuff. It’s not really the scenarios themselves that are arousing — it’s more about what they represent. They play out a power dynamic in a way that feels safe, sexy, and playful.

So, you can be into this kind of fantasy while still insisting on clear and enthusiastic consent. Jilling off to these scenarios doesn’t mean you actually want them to play out in real life. Then again, if I ever get my hand stuck in the sink, I can’t think of a better way to get free.

My favorite site for consensual non-consent porn is Pure Taboo. It’s dark, gorgeously shot, and sexy as hell — and even took a unique twist on stuck porn. That’s an affiliate link, by the way. If you click on it and treat yourself to a subscription, I earn a small commission and you’ll be supporting my work! ❤

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