What I Can’t Stand About Some “Strong Personality” Types

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ther traits too so as to correct or at least, moderate those perceptions. For instance, they should inculcate:</p><ul><li><b>Praise:</b> sincere expression of appreciation, gratitude, and commendations for good behavior or a job well done keeps people motivated to always go the extra mile. People strive to do more of what brings them praise.</li><li><b>Listen</b>: people appreciate being given the opportunity to express themselves because, among other things, it tells them they are valued. Listening to people gives insight into what they are dealing with and you can understand their actions better and make any adjustment necessary. Simply listening is said to be one of the easiest ways to build relationships.</li><li><b>Respect other people's boundaries: </b>boundaries are a vital part of healthy relationships. People have them in place to <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-surprising-effects-of-boundaries-in-relationships-2829adbf9132">reduce the discomfort and that mind-numbing stress</a> that can come with the lack of limits. <a href="https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/14208/how-to-respect-boundaries-of-others/">Respecting them</a> makes people feel respected and more comfortable in your presence.</li><li><b>Be more tolerant of shortcomings:</b> we all have them. Perhaps not in the same areas or the same degrees but they are there. To this end, practicing compassion, empathizing, and taking in different perspectives can really enhance tolerance levels. Another unique way to be tolerant of others, though a negative kind of tolerance is to ignore differences. As explained by a professional counselor, <a href="https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Trudi-Griffin-LPC-MS">Trudi Griffin LPC</a> Doing this requires avoiding certain sensitive areas of conversation and changing the topic when necessary.</li></ul><figure id="f025"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*ZVcH_V-n4e4jAj2b"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@wildlittlethingsphoto?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Helena Lopes</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><h2 id="ded8">Takeaways</h2><ol><li>Being tolerant, respecting boundaries, listening, praising others, or expressing gratitude doesn’t

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make you weak.</li><li>Giving consideration and respect actually emphasizes your strong personality because it shows you are alert to the need for different responses in different circumstances and have the capacity to act appropriately.</li><li>Being driven and focused should not blind you to the different circumstances of the people around you.</li><li>Sometimes things can go wrong simply because they can.</li><li>Misperceptions are sometimes a major part of the problem and people with strong personalities can change this by adopting a few traits.</li></ol><p id="11c2" type="7">“ …it shows you are alert to the need for different responses in different circumstances and have the capacity to act appropriately.”</p><div id="06e0" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-surprising-effects-of-boundaries-in-relationships-2829adbf9132"> <div> <div> <h2>The Surprising Effects Of Boundaries in Relationships</h2> <div><h3>Boundaries sound like they should make you unapproachable and distant but they tend to have the opposite effect</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*YXnnFhpeHr-_LHajOcpvUA.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="38f4" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/im-not-cocky-i-m-confident-e304dd317ece"> <div> <div> <h2>I’m Not Cocky, I’m Confident</h2> <div><h3>So when you tell me I’m the best it’s a compliment.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*xokQOXRS8qWz6olj-h-xVg.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="c18f">To enjoy unlimited access to my stories and others consider signing up to join Medium <a href="https://medium.com/@timdahi60/membership"><b>using my referral link</b></a>. It’s $5/month and you support me and all the other writers you read at no extra cost to you.</p></article></body>

Personality should never be an excuse for bad behavior

Some people view being intolerant of excuses as a trait indicative of a “strong personality,” and also when these personalities have a task at hand or a goal in mind, they tend to be extremely driven and focused. Nothing short of success will do.

I once knew a boss lady whose favorite saying (she used it a lot) when things didn’t go as planned was: “I’m not interested in excuses, you failed to get it done!”

True to her word, she rarely entertained excuses or accepted that sometimes things can just refuse to work out simply because they could. This attitude may be fine if you are the only one concerned. I mean, you can refuse to accept any excuses from yourself why you still haven’t started hitting the gym. That’s between you and you.

However, when dealing or collaborating with mere mortals something the strong types should always keep in mind is, people can have certain limitations, and what may seem an insignificant and surmountable obstacle to some may really be a mountain and not a molehill to someone else.

Even when within the same group of people sharing a common goal, the goal might not hold the same value for everyone involved.

A strong personality can mean other things

As a mediator, I come across a lot of cases where I would say, misperceptions are 70% of the problem. In those cases, you fix it and the remaining points of contention gradually dissolve to nothingness.

Strong personalities have this problem of being misperceived. Well, some of them at least. They tend to be seen as just being pushy, rude, domineering, inconsiderate, and a few other unflattering descriptions. My advice would be, it’s up to them to begin exhibiting other traits too so as to correct or at least, moderate those perceptions. For instance, they should inculcate:

Praise: sincere expression of appreciation, gratitude, and commendations for good behavior or a job well done keeps people motivated to always go the extra mile. People strive to do more of what brings them praise.

Listen: people appreciate being given the opportunity to express themselves because, among other things, it tells them they are valued. Listening to people gives insight into what they are dealing with and you can understand their actions better and make any adjustment necessary. Simply listening is said to be one of the easiest ways to build relationships.

Respect other people's boundaries: boundaries are a vital part of healthy relationships. People have them in place to reduce the discomfort and that mind-numbing stress that can come with the lack of limits. Respecting them makes people feel respected and more comfortable in your presence.

Be more tolerant of shortcomings: we all have them. Perhaps not in the same areas or the same degrees but they are there. To this end, practicing compassion, empathizing, and taking in different perspectives can really enhance tolerance levels. Another unique way to be tolerant of others, though a negative kind of tolerance is to ignore differences. As explained by a professional counselor, Trudi Griffin LPC Doing this requires avoiding certain sensitive areas of conversation and changing the topic when necessary.

Takeaways

Being tolerant, respecting boundaries, listening, praising others, or expressing gratitude doesn’t make you weak.

Giving consideration and respect actually emphasizes your strong personality because it shows you are alert to the need for different responses in different circumstances and have the capacity to act appropriately.

Being driven and focused should not blind you to the different circumstances of the people around you.

Sometimes things can go wrong simply because they can.

Misperceptions are sometimes a major part of the problem and people with strong personalities can change this by adopting a few traits.

“ …it shows you are alert to the need for different responses in different circumstances and have the capacity to act appropriately.”

To enjoy unlimited access to my stories and others consider signing up to join Medium using my referral link. It’s $5/month and you support me and all the other writers you read at no extra cost to you.