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What Do You Consider ‘Kinky’ Sex?

Kink can be relative.

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I wouldn’t consider myself to be a prude in the sex department but I also wouldn’t consider myself to be uber-experienced either.

I’ve had some hot and untamed sexual experiences — sure. And I’ve had a number of partners who have all been into different things sexually. I’ve had my fair share of compelling sexcapades as I’m sure the average reader reading this has had as well.

But how far have you or I traveled into the ‘kinky sex’ universe — really?

Compared to other people’s sexual stories and experiences I think I’m probably about average in the sexual kink realm.

That said, I have often wondered where the line is between being just an ‘ordinary lover’ and a ‘kinky lover.’

What makes a person particularly sexually kinky? Where do you cross over that threshold from plain sex to kinky sex?

What kind of sex acts does one need to accomplish in order to be considered a lover who is on the wild side, the strange side, or the bizarre side?

Additionally, has what we think of as kinky changed over the decades? Is what would have been considered kinky 30 years ago totally standard now?

30 years ago spanking during sex would probably have been considered fairly kinky. However, I wrote an article about spanking, and loads of people commented and shared their stories about how much they either love spanking or hate it. Go figure.

Anal sex? Eeek, well that’s still a bit taboo and most likely still on the kinky side of things for many people, although I’ve also written and published other people’s articles about anal sex that unsurfaced an abundant interest from readers.

Anal sex has definitely moved up in the world as far as becoming closer to being included in that club of commonplace sex acts. However, I’ll admit that the majority of women I know are still totally against doing it.

Generally speaking, sexual dalliances in bondage, dominant/submissive role play, masochism, fetishes like a foot or shoe fetish, voyeurism, exhibitionism, threesomes, or group sex have always been referred to as ‘kinky’.

Kinky sex is still very relative to the general population. One person’s ‘deviant sex’ could be another person’s ‘apple pie sex’.

One of the biggest changes in the last few decades is our willingness to acknowledge that some people are into what we consider to be more ‘alternative sex’, meaning sex that involves sex acts or sexual paraphernalia we may have never heard of before.

Though many people are still hesitant to try new things in the bedroom themselves, they are more willing to accept that other people engage in kinkier sex and are also more open about discussing these topics — after a few drinks of course.

In this day and age, what’s considered kinky sex is becoming more intriguing than it is staying shameful.

As long as kinky sex is had between two consenting adults who want to take part in whatever acts they’re doing, that’s their business. They shouldn’t be ashamed of anything they choose to engage in.

The idea of kinky sex still carries an air of taboo and the lure of the unknown. No matter what you label the kind of sex you’re having there’s nothing wrong with experimenting. Especially if it feels good.

What do you consider ‘kinky sex’? Let me know in the comments.

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