We Are Choosing What We Are Not Changing

In her book “The Choice”, Dr. Edith Eva Eger, 90 years old holocaust survivor splendidly summarises CHOICE as follow:

Compassion — Humor — Optimism — Intuition — Curiosity — Self-Expression

Compassion — here I understood self-compassion. It is about being kind to ourselves well enough to make choices that are healthy and sane for our own well being. No one else out there will ever know what is best for you except yourself. Because anyone else (even as close as siblings, parents and other family members) will support and help you with what they consider best from their perspective.

Humor — In life there is no need to take things too serioulsly (says a recovering control freak, slightly nevrotic :-) )… Personally still working on this one. There is an African proverb that goes “don’t take life too serioulsy because you won’t get out of it alive”. I mean when you think about it…: If you knew you had your last day to live today, would you do precisely 90% of things you usually do? If yes, you are already living the dream, congrats. Most of people would not. So why do we make a big deal out of things/situations that are in essence meaningless? On this part I retained that keeping humor in life is joyful and it truly makes sense.

Optimism — This one is definitely a matter of choice. You can choose where you want to set your focus: seeing the brighter side (and happens what happens) or seeing the less brighter side in order not to be disappointed (it will still happen what needs to happen, plus the worry or negative energies). It is up to each of us. The world needs both anyway, but definitely more of the optimists because I feel like pessimism is taking over?. While making a choice it does for sure help to keep a certain level of optimism in order to take action. Otherwise drawning in the worst case scenario will not help you to move forwards, it only keeps you stuck.

Intuition — We all human beings have been endowed by this magical gift of “gut feeling”, “inner voice”, etc.. This can be a real support in the decision process.

Curiosity — Making a choice is about being curious enough to want to know what’s next? Sometimes you make choices knowing what to expect but some other times you have no clear view on what you are getting into, but still you go for it.

Self-Expression — Choosing is expressing one’s own free will. Not choosing is also a choice, but it is a choice of not expressing one self and let others/society express it for you.

Okay, let’s be realistic: some elements and situations in life cannot be changed only by our own will and decision power. But those cases are few: health issues and disabilities are the ones I can visualise. In my perspective the rest is changeable by one’s will, deep desire to evolve, to live a healthy and meaningful life. By the rest I am referring to work, relationships and family situations.

It is tempting to complain and easily blame when we find ourselves in challenging situations. But at the end of the day, we “always” have a choice. We can choose to accept what we are going through: change what is in our control and let go of what is out of our control. Or we can choose not to choose: then we are accepting whatever it is that we often complain about. Next time you feel like complaining ask yourself: is this something I can change? If yes then no need to complain because you are choosing it, If not then acceptance is the healthy and constructive way.

At some point or another in our life’s journey we will face some unpleasant experiences. This is a certainty. Did you ever heard of anyone who had a straight forward life journey and said so in their death bed? I know no one. We all get some shitty periods but what is even more important is how we act upon that. What choices do we make (or not) in order to guarantee that we grow from that/those challenge/s?

One of the most important decisions you’ll ever make is choosing the kind of universe you exist in: is it helpful and supportive or hostile and unsupportive? Your answer to this question will make all the difference in terms of how you live your life and what kind of Divine assistance you attract — Wayne Dyer

Until next time take good care of yourself. Stay hydrated and safe.

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