13 Reasons Why Watching The Series Will Make of You a Better Person

13 Reasons Why is a series from the United States of America adapted from the book 13 Reasons, by Jay Asher. It was launched on Netflix in 2017 and since then one season came every year. This past June 2020 came to Netflix forth — and

June 5th. The final season. ❤️ pic.twitter.com/bBuDkSpwCe

I had watched every season in the first week they all came out. I started watching because everybody around me was talking about it. I listened to different opinions from people saying it was a gem on Netflix. Others said it was about a random story of a depressed kid. I had to check it myself.

I will not give details about the story and not be spammy so you can enjoy it yourself. I will tell you why you should give it a try and what are you supposed to learn from the plot.

1. You will understand every character aim and not be able to judge them

The most important thing about a series is the development of characters. In this case, you will see how the characters have desires that sometimes are opposite to their moral values. This is mostly a thriller series. You will have your doubts about the bad intentions the characters seem to have. What I like about the series is that sometimes it offers the benefit of the doubt and let you make your guess.

2. You understand that you were facing not an easy stage

If you have passed through high school, you know how hard can it be. For the most part when the future seems uncertain and you feel facing it alone. In this series, you will see how the characters are going through different issues and how this can relapse in their mental health. You will understand why some of your classmates acted the way they did during high school. Why some of them stocked in this tape and why others could succeed besides not having an easy path. Also, you can see why you were the way you were. Some of these issues are:

• lack of self-confidence
• carrying your family’s problems
• looking for your own identity
• self-acceptance
• crisis post-stress
• anxiety
• culpability for someone’s problems
• you know the rest

3. You will develop your perception of the edge

13 Reasons why the series, show how a problem can be seen from different edges. Considering the character’s background, even the most goodness act could be suspicious. You can’t trust the bad guy family to pay for the education of one of the victims. Would they be trying to buy their silence or a confession?

This is an example. Pavlov conditioned response says that we will act according to our prior experiences. That’s why we shouldn’t trust a person who tried to make harm others. They could harm us, as well. But, how about redemption. Is it possible? This is one of the premises of the series.

4. You will have an internal dilemma. Everybody has human rights. Even the bad guy?

Talking about the bad guy… Everybody has human rights, that’s for sure. But, are they respected? Would it matter less the pain of a person just because they had harmed others? This is one topic to be reflected about, even more, these days.

5. You will realize that you can’t play God’s role and can’t save people from themselves

I’m sure we all have had a friend or a family who you can see how their habits are slowly killing them. Not only you, everybody knows about it but none does anything because they don’t love them more than you do. You may feel it is your responsibility to do something to fix it. You can do whatever is possible for you but if the other person doesn’t want to change their life then your eagerness is effortless. And for sure is not your fault your family or friend’s misfortune fate. You can be calm because you did what you could.

6. Violence begets violence, you will reaffirm this

It is difficult to notice when you are living a culture of violence when you don’t know any other environment. “Violence begets violence” is a common phrase during the last seasons of 13 Reasons Why the series. Sometimes people don’t think clearly and they want the other people to suffer pain the same as them. How have you been through this anger feeling?

7. You will like to be the one who stops the pattern

A child learns what their family teaches. The child who grew in a toxic family will be spreading this way of life all around. Unless this child experiment with other feelings such as love, company, and solidarity. Sometimes is difficult to brake with a pattern because that’s the way it has always been. Why should we change that? We are not going to recognize a toxic pattern once we are aware of other styles of life. We should stop hiding behind the phrase: “This is how I am, you better love me or leave.” Of course, we can always change; if we want to.

8. You will like to always enjoy domino show from the outside

I do love the domino show, is so pleasant to see how every piece falls. But the domino effect translated into real life is not a game. This is about lies. If you say ONE lie, you will have to figure out another one to cover it, and another one to cover the previous one. And so on. Lies will never stop until the truth comes to the light. The worst part is when your lie drags innocent people into this web of lies.

9. You will learn something new: Have you heard about The Chaos Theory?

The Chaos Theory, comes with Edward Lorenz posing a question: “Does the flap of a butterfly’s wings in Brazil set off a tornado in Texas?” Also known as the butterfly effect, this theory affirms that nothing is a coincidence but the consequence of an action.

In the last season of 13 Reasons Why the series, a constant premise is about what if. What if one person hadn’t been in the same school as their group of friends? Then, nothing bad had happened. It is amazing how one person’s actions can affect in an indirect way to several people. Lets always try to be generous and kind to others.

10. You will like to be kind to others always

You can never know how receptive and sensitive people can be or what are they going through. In the series 13 Reasons Why all the characters have been through rough moments. As spectators sometimes we know more than the other’s characters. So when in the series, there’s a confession from one to the other. There’s always one part who says: OMG, I didn’t know. I would have known I wouldn’t be acting like an idiot with you; for example.

Other times, as spectators we get mad with the characters because they are bothering a guy who recently passed through a hard issue, for example. We feel this way because we know what happened inside this guy’s house. But real people are not series character’s and we can never get inside their intimacy life to understand their situation. We better be kind, we don’t know what are they going on.

11. You will see how dramatic we all could be as storm in a teacup

As a high school teacher, I remembered how difficult those years could be. Some of my students were mad that their parents didn’t allow them to go to a party. These seemed like the end of the world for them. And back in my high school years, it was also for me. Now that I can look it from the outside I can realize that those weren’t big problems to worry about and that life goes on. But this is not a thing that everybody can do: just to let go. As teenagers, we tend to be dramatic and living to the limit, which can bring us terrible consequences. You can see in 13 Reasons Why from the very beginning.

12. You can recognize your trusted gang

I’m sure that when anything embarrassing happens to you, you think about someone to tell about and laugh. At the same time, you think of someone who mustn’t know about it. When you are going through hard times, the person you rely on, might not be the one who you trusted your embarrassing story. It doesn’t matter if you don’t talk enough these days, you know you always have that one behind your backs. This doesn’t have to do with how much you appreciate one person but how strong they are to put up with the awful truth you have. At least this is exactly what happens in 13 Reasons Why in the first season.

13. You will figure out that betrayal could be an option

In 13 Reasons Why, you will notice that the kids have secrets that are killing them. Some of them have post-traumatic mental issues, such as anxiety, stress and depression. Some of these could have been avoided by talking, saying the truth and betrayal the others. The others may also have a more peaceful mindset and not be carrying with the stress of hiding the truth and everybody’s secrets. When a lie is killing you and your beloved ones, you must talk out loud.

During the last season of 13 Reasons Why, the conclusion has to come, right? Even though people that used to be friends are not getting along anymore, they remain friendly. This is convenient for everyone. They finally had learned that resentments don’t bring any positive feelings. Also, they learned that violence begets violence, so they remain friendly. They knew about the consequences of their actions. Always take into consideration that your worst enemy could be the close friend of your partner. You never know how in which scale your actions may have an echo in your life.