Transcending Negative Attachments [2]
Attachments are My Teachers | A Reincarnation Series
What is an Attachment?
The Merriam Webster‘s Dictionary defines attachment as in “psychology: a strong emotional bond…” or “the physical connection by which on thing is attached to another”.
I love positive attachments like falling in-love, writing, sleeping, eating my favorite foods, etc. Loathing the things I have to do like paperwork for taxes, because I have to do it I consider it a negative attachment procrastination sets in. Once I get started, it’s not so bad. This kind of attachment could be considered a “light” one without heavy negativity. I once met a woman that I instantly disliked because she seemed full of herself, bossy and entitled. Our paths crossed a few months later, and I saw that what I had disliked about her were qualities I disliked about myself. After that second encounter, we became good friends. While some attachments related to dislike seem to be about, other people could be blind spots (to my shadow elements) about me I dislike).
Are all my dislikes about other attachments? No. Why? Because the dislikes appear and disappear. I don’t have any stuck energy on them that continues into the present. But if I become obsessed about some quirk that another person has that drives me batty, I’d say there is the basis of a strong negative attachment. I have obsessed about it. Or there are psychological hooks that hook me into feelings of irritation.
In How Attachments affect the Lightbody, I wrote about attachments returning and the layers. I used to think with irritation: “I thought I dealt with this attachment, and healed it? Why is it back?”
I learned to cultivate a matured witness in a compassionate, neutral place.
“How curious. This attachment has returned.”
Attachments as Teachers
I held myself hostage because I wasn’t perfect. Irritation and infuriation followed my perfect inner dog jumping on me when I screwed up. I thought I had to stop all the imperfections within, so I could move forward with starting my business. I had to assume responsibility for everything in the business. It was exhausting. But others’ had started businesses and didn’t hold themselves to such a high perfectionistic ideal. When I saw that, I realized I had to be accountable and not totally 100% responsible. It was a relief.
The attachment of perfection was and still is my teacher. In short, the role of attachments are to help us, as they helped me by making them my friend and learning from them. My burdens are transformed into gifts when I have surrendered my singular point of view and forgiven myself. Surrender and forgiveness that have revealed so many blessings.
When I was sexually abused by many relatives as a child, I dissociated and was pulled into spiritual realms. While it’s true that as I recovered from memories of the incest, I felt victimized. I overcame it*. The gift of seeing and healing in interdimensional realms is the silver-lining. That may not have happened if I was not abused. (I’m not recommending under any circumstances that you open yourself up to being abused, nor am I condoning abuse.)
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*I have recovered from having felt victimized. It was the stuck body grief that I did not feel while being abused because of the Dissociative Identity Disorder. I feel it now and have been diligently working on healing it for 2-plus years.
Physical Weight of Attachments
While attachments are emotional and psychological, they have a physical component. The emotional nature of the attachment may be associated or coupled with something happening in our physical bodies. When we are young, the physical attachment may drift in and out of our body. The reason for this is from a very early age until the early to mid-40s, our bodies are more flexible and resilient. The physical body can adapt to injuries and body memories. Associated with dysfunction and trauma, bodily adaptation makes attachments may difficult to identify.
The second law of thermodynamics is about entropy. Entropy is disorder, uncertainty, or randomness in a system. The human body at 50 plus falls under the second law of thermodynamics as it ages.
My body was in entropy’s jaws. All that my body avoided or adapted during my youth manifested at fifty. (Of course it did.) Work was required on all levels; paying close attention to how attachments affected my body. I didn’t have enough awareness in my 30s or early 40s to recognize the effect my body until I correlated it with the emotional and sexual abuse. Now I am all in on the work, as much as I am able.
Emotional/Spiritual Connection with the Body
Microscopic parasites live on dead skin in our eyebrows that we are unaware, and there are interdimensional parasites that eat our light sometimes. When we are physically injured, emotionally, physically abused or traumatized, or have a dysfunctional past, the results manifest in the auric/EMF (electromagnetic field). Rents, rips, or holes in the EMF/aura don’t have to be major. They can come at anytime because we are beings of light.
Just as moths are attracted to a lamp at night, other entities, interdimensional parasites, ancestral beings, and ghosts are attracted to our light. Minor holes in our aura are easier to heal than the ones where there is a strong attachment.
The Givens of 3D Life and Attachments
Attachments are teachers and blessings. When I shifted my thinking from attachments as curses and impediments to progress, I saw all of them either neutrally or more favorably. There will always be attachments in planet Earth lives. Negative attachments arise out of judgements we make about them. While true, if they ultimately assist us to transcend our negativity where we remain in a compassionate neutral space, then they are no longer negative.
Releasing Attachments/Healing Your Lightbody…
is next-part 3. Part 4 is Completing the Soul’s Body part five about the Purpose of Humanity and how Reincarnation benefits everyone.
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