To The Father Who Rejected Me
It hurt me to see him loving my elder brother…
Let me begin the post by saying thanks to my mother who chose me all the time; however, my father did not like me at all. When I was a child, I could not understand why he was behaving like that. He used to shout at me and did not love me as much as he loved my brother.
I have the utmost respect or value in my heart for women who manage to love and protect their daughters, as much as they actually deserve. In this male-dominating society, the survival of girls like me is really very difficult. It takes an independent and strong woman to raise her daughter well and to give her the same type of education and facilities as are given to the son.
In the case of my father, he did not like to speak to me. When he went to the office, I used to miss him; every child misses his or her father and wants him to come home with some toys in his hands. Alas! My father used to bring toys for my brother only and nothing for me.
I am not the only girl who has been raised in distress or a stressful environment. All over the world, many young girls have been through the same situation and the worst part is that some people do not even bother to change their mindsets, especially our men. In my childhood, I felt like my father did not choose me; it was only my mother who made me her priority and tried to give all the comforts and facilities of life.
How To Be A Good Father?
I would like to ask one simple question to my father.
Do you even know how to be a good father?
Well, I think that he would never be able to reply to this because he does not have that much sense. For me, a good father is someone who is protective of all of his kids. He should draw clear boundaries for them, consider their interests, speak to them about the things they are not aware of and bring them to the place they love the most. My father used to do all of these things for my brother, but nothing for me and this gave me a lot of pain.
Another quality is that a father should be affectionate to his children without any discrimination. It is okay if my dad did not hug and kiss me, but he was supposed to at least show some love and affection. He made my brother feel comfortable in his company, but this type of affection and security was not provided to me at any stage of life.
What Should Today’s Parents Do?
If you think that having a baby girl is wrong or a sin, you are going to make your own life terrible. Why do we all forget that we were born from a girl or woman! I have come to know that my father was an ill-minded person; he was someone who never knew the real worth or value of a daughter. For him, a son was the only source of happiness.
I would like to request every parent (mother and father) to stop behaving like this. If you have a girl, you should provide her with the utmost comfort, love, affection, care, and attention. It makes no sense to provide all these things to a son and to keep a daughter from living a normal or healthy life.
If you are reading this dad, thank you for being the person who made me realize that choosing a daughter is as important as choosing a son.