Three Signs of Secretly Unhappy People
Take good note of these three signs and act accordingly.
“How much money can a man spend in a lifetime?”
My friend asked me the other day while we were enjoying a lovely afternoon sitting on the bank of a beautiful lake. Just a few minutes earlier, he read the news that last year some of our countrymen secretly deposited 871.1 million Swiss Francs in Swiss banks.
“I know one thing for sure,” I replied to my friend. “The people who have more actually want more. And they never get satisfied. Give them the entire world, they will still be unhappy and demand more.”
Unhappy people are their own enemies. They ruin their lives and the lives of others around them. They fail to realize that they are chronically sick and need help.
But how do you know that you are secretly unhappy? Here are a few signs that might help you figure out.
Oh, honey! Nothing is sweeter than money.
Nobody would disagree that money gives you more agency over your life. In fact, it gives you the confidence you need to live a decent life and helps you easily tackle pressing situations.
A new study done in 2021 by Matthew Killingsworth suggests that money improves well-being, even after you hit $80,000/year.
So, there is no problem with working hard to earn more money. But if you think money is the only thing to make you happy and secure, I must warn you that you are going to regret it for sure.
Dorothy Parker says, “If you want to know what God thinks of money, just look at the people he gave it to.”
Of course, you need money, but you certainly become unhappy when you blindly run after money forgetting everything else (family, friends, leisure, fun, love, etc.).
I like it. So, I will buy it.
Unhappy people are capitalism’s best friend. Why? Because they spend a tremendous amount of money on things they don’t really need. They fall prey to the newest everything available in the market and spend money without a second thought.
What they fail to realize is that no newest or coolest gadget can make a man happier. They can give you the momentary pleasure of exercising your incredible purchasing power. But in the long run, it doesn’t add any value to your life. It only makes you more like a robot and less like a human.
So, this is what you can do instead.
Next time when you go to the market and feel like buying something expensive just because you have the money — remember the below quote from Seneca.
“It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor.”
I want more followers than Khaby Lame.
A study finds that unhappy people are the ones who actually make spontaneous frequent social comparisons and get affected negatively by this. They feel sad when others perform or achieve better than themselves and vice versa. They also experience low self-esteem, depression, and neuroticism.
Comparing yourself to others is always an unhealthy practice that eventually makes you chronically unhappy about your own life. It makes you jealous of others who are better than you and also destroys your potential to do good work.
It’s true that in this age of social media, not comparing yourself to others is almost an impossible task to do — because, at every moment, you are being forced (by social platforms like LinkedIn, Facebook, or Instagram) to do so.
How can you stop this madness?
I strongly suggest you limit your social media presence. If you can’t do that, unfollow the people who frequently showcase their success by uploading photos or sharing status every five minutes.
Remember, you mustn’t compare yourself to others. Your life is yours. If you want to compare it anyway — compare your past self to your present self. And take action to become a better human being than you were yesterday.
Takeaway
You deserve to be happy. So always keep the three signs we’ve discussed in mind and act accordingly.
- Don’t blindly run after money.
- Never buy things just because you like them.
- Do not compare yourself to others.
Have a happy and meaningful life!
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