These Are the Men Women Hate

Be too nice or a stupid asshole, we hate both extremes

If you want to win over a girl, then you need to change that urgently: stop being a nice guy all the time or stop being a complete asshole.

We, women, don’t like the attachment (only on rare occasions), we don’t like guys who seem too nice (this seems typical of movie villains), we don’t like indecisive guys, we don’t like guys who are afraid of us — In fact, we prefer those who make conversation and who know how to shorten the distance in a cool and fun way.

It’s not like this is a rule, but most nice guys get the girls they want while guys who are afraid to express their feelings can’t get anywhere. On the contrary, you might even end up in the Friendzone, which would be much more terrible than just getting dumped.

A woman likes attitude, someone who is confident that he will protect her. If you are someone who doesn’t have good posture, your shoulders are slouched, you seem fragile and you’re constantly making excuses for silly things, I’m sorry to be honest, but the most you’ll get this way is friendship with a woman.

It’s not that we’re against nice people, we like you too. The point is that most of the time it is the man who conquers the woman, and not the other way around. This is already rooted in society. If you don’t get to the woman you want to be with, most likely she won’t come to you — That’s why the good guys end up with nothing in the end.

I’m also not saying that we love macho, tough-as-nails men who pick fights anywhere — on the contrary, we hate them more than anything. But why are so many of these guys, even though they’re jerks, able to find cool partners? Because even though they are jerks, they take the attitude of approaching women, they show that they can protect them, they show that they are someone formidable (even though they are not)

So yes, the world depends on appearances. And no, I’m not talking about physical appearance, I’m talking about appearance in the way someone behaves towards others. For example, a well-groomed man with good posture will be much more respected than a guy who walks with slumped shoulders and is poorly groomed.

Like it or not, people decide whether to date or trust someone based on their own criteria, and many of those criteria are based on the way someone conducts themselves. There is a phrase that explains well what I am trying to say: The first impression is what lasts.

In other words, we women see nice guys as “passive” and tough guys as “aggressive”, and both extremes make us keep our distance.

If I were to give advice to good guys who are tired of losing their desired girls to some jerk, I would say something like this: “You don’t need to change. Don’t stop being a good guy. But take action, because if you never get to the girl you love, you will never know if she also has feelings for you.

It’s like I say to my closest friends: “You already have the no, what you’re looking for is the yes. So go for it, take action, and in the worst case, move on.”

Final Thoughts

Of course, not all women share the same thoughts as me. However, most of them do — This is something we can clearly see daily, the less sociable men are almost always alone, while the more “extroverted” guys are always accompanied. And we can also realize that it has nothing to do with the person’s physical appearance. After all, beauty standards are not something that can be determined.

In other words, if you want to change your situation, you definitely need to assert yourself more.

Thanks for reading. Have a great day!