The Truth About Forgiveness
They say you need to forgive to forget but everyone knows that’s not true
They say you need to forgive to forget but everyone knows that’s not true.
A person forgives but never forgets, that’s how it happens, whether in any situation.
I had to meditate on this subject and sometimes we think “It’s all forgiven and everything will go back to what was previously “ WRONG!
Using forgiveness can avoid the processing of anger that naturally comes up when hurt.
Forcing yourself to forgive or even pretending to forgive can be hurtful to your healing.
You are allowed to forgive someone and still choose not to be in their life and no one should counsel you on forgiveness unless it is someone you trust and know has your best interest, but even then.
Forgiveness is not the first strep in your healing process and forgiveness is never about them but about acknowledging that your pain is valid and worthy of peace.
As you can see, this subject is very delicate and each process varies from person to person.
Some people tend to forgive faster and get over it, others don’t. I have to say that in my personal situation, I am very difficult to forgive people, and sometimes when something serious goes wrong, even exclude them from my life.
It’s my way of being and honestly, I don’t care about that.
