The Tools You Need Are Inside of You

Take the time to uncover them, release them, and use them to grow

Is your best self locked inside of you?

Pain or Pleasure

Pain or pleasure? Which do you prefer? Well, I would say I like pleasure best. Most people would say the same. I have recently found that my thoughts and actions are not aligned. I want pleasure but I do things that will ultimately bring me pain. I know, that doesn’t make sense to me either. But, I am determined to persevere in finding the answer.

I have worked with a health coach and nutritionist for about two years. This is costly. I feel very fortunate to have access to this level of support. I feel very wasteful over the past few months as I have stopped implementing what was working to improve my health. Why!? This led me to many measures of self-discovery to figure out what was keeping me from doing what I knew was working to move me toward the results I wanted. I am determined to persevere in finding the answers.

Beliefs and Internal Dialogue

Often there are underlying beliefs and internal dialog that hold our best self hostage. These are the beliefs such as: No matter what I do, my body still won’t look like it “should” look. The “should” could be anything in the world we make up. Generally, not realistic. These beliefs can be about any aspect of our life, the same principles apply. We are the only ones in charge of what we believe and this is how we set ourselves up—how unfortunate. I am determined to persevere in finding the answers.

Our internal dialog is often negative, which is also unfortunate. This voice can swirl in our minds reminding us constantly how hard the journey will be or how many times we have failed in the past. Sometimes we are not even aware that this whole conversation is taking place. Thanks a lot to our inner self-critic. I am determined to persevere in finding the answers.

We can change our beliefs and our inner dialogue if we uncover it and work on it. Thank you to Louise Hay for offering some great resources to do so. This is not easy work. There is a lot of discovery and digging needed to get to the bottom of these beliefs that drive our inner dialogue. I am determined to persevere in finding the answers.

Revisiting Pain and Pleasure

I have found that pain and pleasure are a bit trickier than they appear. I am chasing the pleasure I can get in the moment, like a bowl of ice cream. The pleasure of the quick win actually turns into a loss as soon as the current moment passes. It leads straight to pain and regret. How can I be so easily fooled? I am determined to persevere in finding the answers.

Thank you to Tony Robbins and the Ultimate Edge for offering ideas on understanding how to readjust our minds including our pain and pleasure settings. Figuring out how we are assigning and experiencing pain and pleasure is a great key to redefining our focus and internal motivation that can push us to the real results we want. There are a lot of thoughts and experiences to sift through in making this happen. I am determined to persevere in finding the answers.

Uncovering the Tools and Power Within

In my last conversation with my health coach, we were exploring the why behind my self-sabotaging behavior. We were digging into the beliefs that were guiding me. I finally realized that I had a belief that each day (diet and exercise) wasn’t enough to make a difference and that I believe that I won't be consistent long enough to reach my goal. I had a belief that I lacked perseverance. I am determined to persevere in finding the answers.

Have I experienced times in the past when I didn't stick with something? Yes. Have I shown up for all of my doctor appointments, nutritionist appointments, health coach appointments for the past two years? Yes. Did I join a book group around the topic and show up to every session? Yes. Have I sought other opportunities to learn? Yes. Do I have the perseverance it would take to reach my goal? Yes. Am I utilizing it fully toward my health goals? No. Could I? Yes. I am determined to persevere in finding the answers.

This perseverance has been locked up inside of me all along. One of the tools I thought I was lacking has been with me all along. I didn’t recognize it. It took some digging to uncover it but now I can unlock it and learn to apply it more effectively to my goals. I can uncover more tools and learn more strategies to fully access all of the power within me to live my life fully. I will persevere in changing my life and releasing my best self, one step at a time.

Thanks for reading. I hope that by sharing my experiences and resources that have helped me, others will find inspiration to take their next steps too.

Thank you to Diana C. for the Friday prompt: How many of the ways of being that I fantasize about already exist in some form in my present reality?