Summary

The article discusses the concept of division in relationships, emphasizing that it stems from personal decisions and can be strategically avoided through unity and understanding.

Abstract

The author reflects on the nature of division, drawing parallels between interpersonal relationships and military strategy, particularly that of Navy SEALs. The article posits that division in relationships is not a random occurrence but a result of deliberate choices made by individuals. It underscores the importance of unity, comparing it to the effectiveness of special forces, and suggests that division can be prevented by making informed, committed decisions in relationships. The author also touches on the spiritual aspect of unity, referencing biblical principles, and advises on the importance of being equally yoked in a relationship. The text emphasizes that division can be identified by subtle signs and that true relationship exclusivity is crucial to maintaining unity. The author encourages readers to make calculated decisions about their relationships and to understand the heart of their partner through their consistent decisions over time.

Opinions

Division in relationships is often the result of personal choices rather than external forces.
Unity in relationships is likened to the cohesion of military special forces units, where division leads to failure.
The author believes that prevention of division is more effective than trying to mend a relationship after division has occurred.
Spiritual unity, as described in the Bible, is seen as a key component in maintaining a strong relationship.
The article suggests that individuals should be aware of the signs of division early on and address them proactively.
The author criticizes the idea of having a "plan B" in relationships, advocating for commitment without an exit strategy.
The concept of being "evenly yoked" with one's partner is highlighted as essential for a harmonious and enduring relationship.
The author asserts that understanding the male brain and effective communication are important for women to avoid past relationship mistakes.
The power of unity is emphasized, with the author offering to guide those who struggle to understand its importance in relationships.
The text implies that true unity in a relationship is when both partners are fully committed to each other, regardless of circumstances.

The Root of Division is Our Decision

How division enters our lives

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The other day I thought about division and realized that I never wrote about division yet. We all have heard about division in family, in marriage, and in politics and schools. But how do we take what we know and find a pattern or the science behind it?

I did what I do with everything, I compared it to combat principles. This time I am comparing it to something I heard about Navy SEALs. I heard that Special Operation Forces are trained to divide the enemy versus fighting the whole fleet, company, or air unit. No small group of anyone wants to come head on with Special Forces or Navy SEALs.

I guess I’ll add it here, because we’re talking about Special Forces and other special operation units. If you do end up divided, don’t expect to win. They made the choice and now that’s what happened. In the event that you believe you can alleviate the division, that’s probably going to take a team of people to help you. Navy SEALs don’t get divided in the first place. If they do, as you can see in the movies and the true stories, disaster always happens in their team and the operation never goes as planned. Unless you are a juggernaut in relationships (like you are better at relationships than Special Forces at combat), you’re probably not going to make it. (If You Think You are a community, let me assess the most introverted member and that is your grade as a whole community or unit. Unity means everyone, not just the top 5)

Which is why prevention is always healthier, cheaper, easier to maintain, and more biblical than treatment brought on by ignorance. Too blunt? Or was that good? Ha-ha!

“Preparing a field and planting is harder than merely showing up and planting an already good and prepared field” — Joshua J. Lyon, Child of a King 4: War Unhinged (coming soon).

Adding in the spiritual quote “there’s power in unity” and adding in the principles of spiritual warfare. In spiritual warfare we use the words of the Bible that speaks on unity. Unity is whenever two people agree on something. That can be you and your spouse or your spouse and someone else. Anyone other than your spouse is the beginning of division — which is why the Bible teaches “evenly yoked” couples. Meaning, couples who are a matched in mind and spirit and connected in mind, body, and spirit and not connected to anyone else and receiving information from them in mind, body, or spirit.

This takes us to the root, when it comes to relationship. The root of division is our decision. True relationship has an exclusivity that a military force would not have. If relationship does not have that exclusivity or that respect for the other, then it is by their choice to engage in a force that would divide them. If I had a dollar for every time I have seen a “guy friend" take a woman from her husband or man, I would be rich, or a guy getting to comfortable with meeting new people and the guy getting that manly exertion of power, he forgets to fight for placement — since he’s married his placement is with a spouse. Many guy friends have waited for 10+ years to pounce, so if you are a female with guy friends, just give it time, they’ll become a man one day.

We are in a time when people do not make decisions. People want to float into things, and they want to be able to have a plan B or way out. When we get into a marriage, if it was a good marriage in the beginning and we didn’t jump into it with knowing nothing, there is always a way to make it work pleasurably for a lifetime. Two people do not divide for no reason.

Something about them started dividing them. We are all fully aware about our hearts. We might lie to our significant other to let them down easy. But we knew that we were dividing ourselves from them before the divorce happened — long before. Even therapists might side with letting them down easy, but that just means they’re here for money, not truth. I know everyone feels when they are pulling away and they let it happen. They didn’t make the decision to stay and work it. Sometimes it wasn’t on your end, it was on your significant other’s end. You might not even have seen it coming at all. Nonetheless, I believe there is always a tell no matter the situation.

The root of division is decision.

Put the ring on if you’ve made a calculated and thoroughly assessed option that you can live your whole life with. If you’re marrying a man, are you marrying a boy or a man? It’s pretty simple. No need to make it a science, but men are still human. I know it happens all the time, but men (or women) should not be able to fool you. I have not met any woman, who when I talked to her about her man, was I surprised that it did not work out. If you are making a life decision you will ask yourself, “can I die with this person?”

There is only one way to make a man. To know the 4 types of men read this article.

There are millions of situations out there in the world and we each have to find out our situations that we allow divide us in mind, body, or spirit with our significant other.

We always allow division. Division begins with us.

I would like to encourage all of you who’s had a spouse, fiancé, or boyfriend or girlfriend obliterate their relationship because they allowed division. By giving someone freedom, as you will read in my next article, you learn someone’s heart. If you give them space and they come back to you every time, that is decision. The trick is to continue making that decision for the rest of your life. It’s going to be hard, but combat always is. That’s why training is supposed to be harder. So consider yourself blessed that you now know their hearts. Don’t micromanage your relationship, it will organically flourish or you haven’t met the right person yet.

If you are having an issue in your relationship, I’m sorry about that. That is a different topic, technically. This topic was about division if the person has previously made that decision for a lifetime and division has very strategically gotten into their heart or your heart. Division could also be that you just don’t know enough. Take me for example, if she does not know the male brain, I don’t think I would even get in a relationship with her, because she’s going to make all of the mistakes when it comes to the men she meets and also with her exes. Those mistakes are going to frustrate me because the facts have been around forever. To me and life in general, her ex is just a stranger now. They have no business with each other unless she wants to marry him again, which I’m fine with. But she needs to make that decision. That’s why she has to learn to communicate and learn about me. What you previously have known is going to change as you move forward in relationship. Unless you already know the science behind it, then you will find it easier — unless the other party is fighting with gravity. To each their own.

Division, it begins with you. Division creates space and that space reverts us to something else or someone else. That means division wins and you or your significant other sucks. If they are allowing division and you just go with it, you need to get with me so I can explain to you the power and perfection of unity. Unity is when you and the other person feel that you’re going to die beside each other like Bonnie and Clyde, rich or poor, healthy or sick, coma or present in family affairs, etc. If you find yourself not being able to get past someone, that means you are probably obsessed with them. And that’s the reason why they don’t like you — that’s not division (because it never started). Trust me, there’s no better feeling than someone who really chooses you and you know that if you’re deployed for a year, when you return they’re going to be there waiting for you with a big smile on their face — and they are, in actuality, there waiting for you, which reinforces unity and trust.