The One Thing Women Look for in a Long Term Partner

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ese have been likened to ‘a death by a thousand cuts’. I’m talking about mansplaining, casual sexual assault, pink tax etc.</p><p id="3a52">We may live in the west; however, things are far from equal, and women everywhere feel invisible. We are fighting to get our voices heard and to be taken seriously. It is possible to thrive, but the climate is harsh. Even while writing about my own lived experience, I get met with some of the most troubling of comments. I don’t feel seen, women as a whole don’t feel understood. We are told that we shall hit our peak when married and with children but the loneliness and identity loss only gets worse.</p><p id="a805">Which is why it is crucial we find a partner or mate with the ability to listen. We want to be able to share both our woes and triumphs. We so desperately want to be seen. Not as the labels society lambasts on us (mother, daughter, sister, whore, spinster) but as us, a multifaceted warrior.</p><p id="3c45">We crave someone who listens for the sake of hearing our thoughts vs someone who listens just to give a retort. We want someone who will be able to recall previous conversations without continuous prompts. We want someone who doesn’t wait to be told what to do every day because they know what needs to be done. We want active listeners, not a brick wall.</p><p id="6670">There are thousands of posts, comments and even tweets that ask “what do women want?” But I think the answer is so apparent. Yes, we all have our own specific types or preferred attributes, but I think you would be hard-pressed to find a woman who doesn’t rank ‘good listener’ in their top three.</p><p id="29a3">So my advice is if you want her, listen to what she tells you. I’m certain somewhere along the line she has spilled the beans on how to get the key to her heart.</p><div id="f9b8" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmed

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I think many women will agree that without this attribute, there can be no attraction or coupling — all women want, is someone who listens

The ideal partner has many different attributes and qualities that make them a contender. The combination of these is what makes them seem like a fairy godmother has taken a wand and constructed you your ideal mate. You find love in every imperfection. Though they are flawed, you love them fully because it is also the cracks that make them the one for you.

I don’t think it’s possible to decompress human experience and existence into just one quality; however, for the purpose of this essay, I shall. Because I think many women will agree that without this attribute, there can be no attraction or coupling. All women want, is someone who listens.

Though people would like to claim sexism and misogyny has been eradicated from the west, we know it hasn’t. Just today journalist Samira Ahmed won against the BBC in an equal pay tribunal. Least we forget the wave of accusations that unfolded following both the #TimesUp and #MeToo movement. On a smaller, more personal scale, sexism is still very much with us. They may not be as earthshattering, but microaggressions such as these have been likened to ‘a death by a thousand cuts’. I’m talking about mansplaining, casual sexual assault, pink tax etc.

We may live in the west; however, things are far from equal, and women everywhere feel invisible. We are fighting to get our voices heard and to be taken seriously. It is possible to thrive, but the climate is harsh. Even while writing about my own lived experience, I get met with some of the most troubling of comments. I don’t feel seen, women as a whole don’t feel understood. We are told that we shall hit our peak when married and with children but the loneliness and identity loss only gets worse.

Which is why it is crucial we find a partner or mate with the ability to listen. We want to be able to share both our woes and triumphs. We so desperately want to be seen. Not as the labels society lambasts on us (mother, daughter, sister, whore, spinster) but as us, a multifaceted warrior.

We crave someone who listens for the sake of hearing our thoughts vs someone who listens just to give a retort. We want someone who will be able to recall previous conversations without continuous prompts. We want someone who doesn’t wait to be told what to do every day because they know what needs to be done. We want active listeners, not a brick wall.

There are thousands of posts, comments and even tweets that ask “what do women want?” But I think the answer is so apparent. Yes, we all have our own specific types or preferred attributes, but I think you would be hard-pressed to find a woman who doesn’t rank ‘good listener’ in their top three.

So my advice is if you want her, listen to what she tells you. I’m certain somewhere along the line she has spilled the beans on how to get the key to her heart.