Summary

The article discusses the increasing trend of sexlessness among younger men, attributed to factors like the advent of smartphones and social media, changing gender dynamics, and declining masculinity.

Abstract

The article titled "The Number Of Sexless Men Has Tripled In 10 Years. Why?" delves into the alarming rise in the number of men, particularly those aged 18-30, who are not having sex. It highlights that while the rates were stable from 1989 to 2008, they have since surged for men, with a notable increase in young male virgins. The piece suggests that the introduction of smartphones and social media has reshaped how young adults connect, with dating apps like Tinder favoring a small percentage of highly attractive men while leaving most others with fewer opportunities to meet women. Additionally, societal shifts towards less masculine behavior, lower testosterone levels, and the absence of father figures are contributing to the decline in traditional male-female pairings. The article also points out that women's increasing independence and higher educational attainment, coupled with unrealistic expectations perpetuated by third-wave feminism, have made them less willing to settle for less attractive or less successful male partners. The potential societal implications of this trend include a possible demotivation of men to contribute positively to society. However, the article offers hope, suggesting that men can improve their attractiveness to women by focusing on physical fitness, professional photography for dating profiles, and developing a charismatic personality.

Opinions

The rise of the 'smartphone generation' and dating apps has disproportionately benefited the most attractive men, leaving many average men struggling to find sexual partners.
Women are increasingly selective, often pursuing only the top tier of men as romantic partners, which is supported by studies showing their swiping preferences on dating apps.
The decline in masculinity, evidenced by dropping testosterone levels, lack of father figures, and societal discouragement of 'toxic masculinity,' is seen as a contributing factor to men's romantic struggles.
The professional and educational advancements of women have not translated into a willingness to date men who are less successful or attractive than they are.
The prevalence of pornography may be reducing men's motivation to pursue real-life romantic relationships.
There is a concern that the growing number of sexless men could lead to broader societal issues, including a lack of male motivation and potential unrest.
The article advocates for personal improvement strategies, such as weightlifting, professional photography for dating profiles, and cultivating a charming personality, as viable solutions for men to increase their romantic success.

The Number Of Sexless Men Has Tripled In 10 Years. Why?

Fewer men are getting laid than ever before — and data shows that younger guys are struggling the most.

In this guide, we’ll explore why this trend is occurring — and what you can do about it.

Why Are Fewer Men Having Sex?

The graph below shows the percentage of 18-to-30-year-olds not having sex for the past year.

From 1989 to 2008, it was about the same proportion for men and women.

Since then, it has skyrocketed for men up to 28%. But, for women it has stayed about the same.

What’s more, this chart shows that the number of young male virgins has more than tripled over that same time period.

The obvious question is: why?

The Smartphone Generation

Facebook became available to adults outside of U.S colleges in September 2006. The first iPhone was released in June 2007. These milestone events are widely regarded to have created the ‘smartphone generation’ of young adults.

Since then, smartphones and social media have become the main medium of communication — and it has become easier than ever to connect with strangers outside our immediate social circles.

Along with smartphones came dating apps. The release of Tinder in 2012 made online dating popular for the masses. Hundreds of copycat apps soon followed. Now, dating apps are among the most common way for young adults to meet a romantic partner.

Dating apps and social media have undoubtedly made it easier to connect with an attractive stranger. So, why is it that guys are hooking up less?

The reason is: women have only been interested in hooking up with the top-tier men. There are plenty of studies which prove this, including one which shows that the top 78% of attractive women are only ‘swiping right’ on the top 20% of attractive men.

So, while top-tier men have been cleaning up on dating apps, most average men are struggling to attract one match per month.

This has been harming the average dude’s attempts to meet women in the real world too. Even if a man was brave enough to woo a woman at a party and swap contact details, he’ll still be competing with all her Tinder matches and Instagram followers after they part ways.

Indeed, the insane growth of Instagram has helped to cement our new globalised sexual market place. Elite men are now sliding in the DMs of women outside their city and paying for these women to fly over and visit them. These are the types of men that average Joe now has to compete with.

Men Are Becoming Less Masculine

It’s still possible for an average-looking man to beat the odds and woo a woman with a winning personality.

The problem is: Millennial and Gen-Z men are becoming less masculine and less able to attract feminine women.

Average testosterone levels are dropping at a rate of 1% per year.
More young boys are being raised without father figures at home or school.
Society is shaming ‘toxic masculinity’ and encouraging men to embrace their feminine side.
Young men are less likely to have developed social skills, because most of their communication with peers is now digital.
Young men are becoming more sedentary, thanks to the digital world we now live in.

Also, there’s the increased ease of access to porn, which could arguably weaken a man’s desire to go out and meet women in real life.

Women Are Becoming More Independent

Women are now outnumbering men in college. More women are thriving professionally.

In spite of this, most remain unwilling to settle for a man who earns less than them.

Then, there’s the third-wave feminism movement teaching average women that they deserve nothing less than a rich and handsome Prince Charming.

With all these ingredients creating the modern dating market, you might start to wonder how there’s not more men who can’t get any action.

The Sexless Underclass Of Men Could Become A Real Societal Problem

The graphs above on male sexlessness were from 2018. So, there probably are even more guys struggling to get laid now.

This can grow into a real societal problem.

Throughout history, the main motive for men to achieve great things in life has been to attract women, start a family and ensure their genes carry on into the next generation. If enough men deem this to be impossible for them, it could become problematic for the world-at-large.

We could see a future where men have no motivation to contribute to society, because they believe there’s nothing in it for them. There has even been talk of a potential ‘incel uprising’ in the future.

How To Propel Yourself Into The Top 20% Of Men

Growing numbers of men are giving up on dating and becoming part of online communities like ‘Men Going Their Own Way’, but there’s no reason for you to do that.

You are not doomed to be alone for the rest of your life.

Even if you’re currently unattractive, you can improve and propel yourself into that top 20% of men who all women want.

Here are three steps I recommend.

Improve Your Image

Start by lifting weights and building a strong muscular body. That alone can transform your image and help you to stand out as one of the more attractive guys. Only 8.9% of Americans lift weights, by the way.

If you can become part of that 8.9%, plus work to improve your fashion, nutrition and grooming, you’ll soon grow into a super-handsome version of yourself.

Invest In Professional Photos

Even if they’re better-looking than you, most guys use god-awful photos on their dating profiles. Check out the sub-reddit r/ratemytinder and see for yourself.

That’s why you’ll attract so much attention on dating apps just by investing in professional photos.

Professional photos make your online dating POP! They’ll have perfect lighting and framing. These hi-res images will create an aura of status in the eyes of others. Plus, pro photographers will know how to make you look your best in their snaps.

Here’s a short e-book on the best types of photos to add to your online dating profile.

Cultivate A Winning Personality

Women swipe on dating apps logically, but they make real-life dating decisions emotionally.

If you can learn how to win a woman over with masculine charm and charisma, you can live the dating life of your dreams, especially in this era where men are less manly than ever.

My book Big Dick Energy features 12 powerful exercises to help young men unleash their natural masculinity and attract amazing feminine women. You can learn more about the book in the video below or click here to purchase it >>.