The Nauseating Truth About An Empath Attraction Towards Narcissists
They are often attracted to one another.
Empaths and narcissists are easily attracted to one another. This is likely because empaths are compassionate “givers” while narcissists thrive on being admired.
Empaths are capable of soaking up other people’s emotions and this makes them particularly attractive to narcissists. This is because narcissists prefer someone who will selflessly provide for their continuous demands.
It’s an Unhealthy & Toxic Dynamic
When a narcissist attracts someone, they will initially appear nice and devoted. However, they will show their true colours — especially when things don’t go their way.
Sometimes, they only pursue relationships to portray themselves as if they are the “good one” (or somehow the victim).
Narcissists may consider some people beneath them. When they start to see their partner’s so-called “shortcomings”, they will stop idealizing them. They will start blaming them for their “imperfections” instead.
Thus, if an empath falls in love with a narcissist, they will attempt to “heal” the narcissist and become a victim of narcissistic abuse instead.
Empaths Develop Traumatic Attachments
The push-pull dynamic of a narcissistic relationship can cause empaths to develop a trauma-bonding dynamic with a narcissist. Thus, this makes it nearly hard to exit the relationship, no matter how toxic it is.
Instead, these empaths change themselves for the sake of the narcissist. They also compromise more and more to make the relationship last longer.
Narcissists Purposely Cause Conflict
Locked up in a web of future fantasies, empaths are generally more prone to being manipulated by narcissists. Narcissists will mix flattery and compassion into personal action, giving the illusion of acting responsibly.
Empathetic individuals generally believe that most people have flaws and will gradually accept the flaws of the narcissist. Thus, they are willing to help in the personal progress of the narcissist.
Meanwhile, narcissists will take advantage of this kind of situation and lure empaths further inside. In the end, empaths end up being abused and emotionally manipulated.
Final Takeaways
As mentioned earlier, empaths like to fix relationships, while narcissists feed on this emotional labour. Setting boundaries might feel unpleasant for empaths. However, if they stand up for themselves and limit people-pleasing behaviour, they will be able to protect themselves from narcissists and others with bad intentions.
All relationships are unique. This means that all healthy relationships require appropriate and healthy boundaries. Empaths do not need to become tough or cold-hearted to have a healthy relationship. They just have to realize that they will run into individuals who won’t be good for them, and they will have to learn to let go.
As Ann Landers once suggested,
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
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