The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle In Quotes
100 Quotes from Narcissists
The relationship cycle typical of extreme narcissistic abuse generally follows a pattern. Individuals in emotionally abusive relationships experience a dizzying whirlwind that includes three stages: idealization, devaluing, and discarding.(Andrea Schneider)
Here are 100 quotes from Narcissists, collected from narcissistic abuse survivors around the world:
Idealization
1. “You are the best thing that has ever happened to me”
2. “I love you with all my heart”
3. “You are my soulmate”
4. “You are perfect”
5. “I have never loved anyone as much as I love you”
6. “I would marry you in an instance”
7. “I have never felt this way before”
8. “I will love you forever”
9. “I love every tiny thing about you”
10. “It’s just you and me against the world”
11. “How did I get so lucky to have you?”
12. “I love you more than myself”
13. “I’d die for you”
14. “If we didn’t have kids, we’d have run away together already”
15. “Since I met you, I’ve had the best time of my life”
16. “We are twin flames”
17. “You complete me”
18. “No one will ever love you like I do”
Devalue
19. “You must know this”
20. “Shouldn’t you ….”
21. “You can’t just…”
22. “Wouldn’t you be better…”
23. “Maybe it’s you that’s wrong”
24. “You are so lazy”
25. “Congratulations! This seems to have been a real challenge”
26. “Have you ever considered losing weight?”
27. “You only achieved this because …”
28. “You are like a child”
29. “You are so full of yourself”
30. “Hey, nobody is perfect”
31. “Will you stop…”
32. “I don’t want you to take this personally but…”
33. “She is a better person than you are”
34. “It’s not my fault that all my exes are prettier than you”
35. “You should have done …”
36. “Stop seeing feedback as criticism”
37. “Oh, that’s a great idea … why don’t I do something better”
38. “You really think you’re something special”
39. “Did you go behind my back?”
40. “I never include my standards, that wouldn’t be fair on anyone else”
41. “I knew you would think that way”
42. “You are all over the place”
43. “That’s your job”
44. “My previous partners were never as bad as this”
45. “You’re wearing that dress so everyone can see your underwear”
46. “You clearly weren’t paying attention”
47. “Not sure why you can’t just listen to me”
48. “You’re obsessed”
49. “I would never do this, I need you to know that”
50. “It was just a joke, lighten up”
51. “You are overreacting”
52. “Think yourself lucky you have me”
53. “Living with someone who likes to argue makes (issue) difficult”
54. “You are too sensitive”
55. “You are reading into things, I am not like that”
56. “You wouldn’t cope without me”
57. “I didn’t kick you, I pushed you with my foot”
58. “You make me angry.”
59. “You of all people can not expect perfect behaviour from others”
60. “I’m not flirting, why are you so paranoid about nothing”
61. “You force me to lie because you pressure me into answering your questions”
62. “You are misremembering things”
63. “Who do you think you are talking to?”
64. “You just need to learn to understand my priorities”
65. “Why don’t you believe me?’
66. “You let me down”
67. “I only wanted to teach you a lesson”
68. “You need to just step back”
69. “If only you had listened”
70. “You make me this way”
71. “No one else will have you”
72. “Why are you crying that didn’t hurt”
73. “You did that to yourself”
74. “I’m going to kill myself if you leave me”
75. “Why don’t you trust me?”
76. “Don’t ask me that again or I’m leaving”
77. “I’m sorry I hurt you I didn’t mean to do it”
Discard
78. “You are mad, look at you, you need help”
79. “I hate people that lie, as I’m a very honest truthful person”
80. “I can’t help it”
81. “You are mental, just look at you”
82. “I have done nothing wrong”
83. “I can’t deal with your anger issues”
84. “You don’t love me, you never have”
85. “It’s in your head”
86. “Your mental health is playing up, you need to sort yourself out”
87. “I have always been honest with you”
88. “You deserve to be happy I’ll leave you alone.”
89. “I wasn’t like this before I met you.”
90. “My feelings haven’t changed, but I just can’t deal with your issues anymore”
91. “I knew you wouldn’t leave that’s why I do it”
92. “I just used you when we first met so I could leave where I was.”
93. “I’ve always been loyal”
94. “I can lose feelings as quick as I get them”
95. “No one else will have you”
96. “You pushed me away”
97. “No one will believe you”
98. “It’s all in your head”
99. “Nobody cares”
100. “It’s not my fault”
