The Harshness of Stillness

Summary

The article discusses the author's realization that self-gentleness is not about stillness but about embracing movement and storytelling through dance and writing, especially in the context of postpartum recovery and empathic challenges.

Abstract

The author, an empath and new mother, initially believed that stillness was a form of self-care, conserving energy during a period of physical exhaustion and emotional overwhelm. However, she discovered that true gentleness lies in the joy of movement and the cathartic expression of thoughts through dance and words. The article emphasizes the healing power of storytelling and the rejuvenation found in physical activity, contrasting the previously sought-after stillness with the vibrancy of life experienced through active expression.

Opinions

The author values the importance of physical activity and mental engagement as essential components of self-care, contrary to the initial belief in the benefits of stillness.
Storytelling through dance and writing is presented as a therapeutic practice, offering a sense of aliveness and connection with others.
The article suggests that the journey of healing and self-discovery is ongoing, with the author inviting readers to explore their own adventures and stories.
The author expresses gratitude for being part of a community that supports and amplifies diverse voices and experiences, as seen in the mention of the TBIN publication.

And the healing relief of storytelling through dance and words

I used to think that I was being gentle with myself when I tried to be as still as possible, both in my mind and body. I was physically exhausted and energetically overwhelmed as an Empath new mom. The moment I opened my eyes each morning, I’d wish that I’d fast-forward to my kids’ nap times, and their bedtimes. I tried to move as little as possible to conserve my energies. I didn’t have the capacity to think about anything else other than to keep trudging forward with each essential task in looking after my kids.

But I was wrong. It’s much gentler for me to lubricate my joints and warm up my muscles. It feels much more joyful for me to share my thoughts more freely with kindred souls.

Being in stillness feels overrated. I appreciative the aliveness through telling stories with my dance and words instead.

What’s your next adventure? 🌌🐰

Thank you, Lucy Dan 蛋小姐 (she/her/她), for adding me as a writer for TBIN! So glad to finally apply to be part of this fun and quirky publication!