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</p><p id="6a68">The answer is simple: not by searching for happiness, but by becoming happiness itself. Happiness is a state of mind and heart, not a condition or a goal. It is being at peace with ourselves and the present moment. Dwelling on the past can only bring regret, and worrying about the future can only bring fear. To be happy, we need to be present and grateful for what we have.</p><p id="7ce4">Therefore, the key to avoiding the happiness trap is to realise that happiness comes from within, not from without. We can’t expect others to make us happy, nor can we make others happy if we are not happy ourselves.</p><p id="14b2">We need to cultivate our own happiness and then share it with others. Relationships that are based on mutual happiness are more lasting and fulfilling than those that are based on dependency and neediness.</p><p id="3b25">Happy inside, fresh outside.</p><p id="0120">RW</p><div id="e092" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/stuck-in-life-1a469e858a96"> <div> <div>

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The Happiness Trap

How to Avoid It and Build Meaningful Relationships?

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Many people seek happiness through their relationships with others, whether it is marriage, friendship, or work. They think that by bonding with someone else, they will find joy and fulfilment.

But this is a trap.

Happiness should not depend on external factors. If it does, we rely on someone else to make us happy. This is not fair to ourselves or to the other person. We should be happy first before bonding with others, especially in marriage. Only then can we share our happiness and enjoy the journey together.

But how can we be happy by ourselves?

The answer is simple: not by searching for happiness, but by becoming happiness itself. Happiness is a state of mind and heart, not a condition or a goal. It is being at peace with ourselves and the present moment. Dwelling on the past can only bring regret, and worrying about the future can only bring fear. To be happy, we need to be present and grateful for what we have.

Therefore, the key to avoiding the happiness trap is to realise that happiness comes from within, not from without. We can’t expect others to make us happy, nor can we make others happy if we are not happy ourselves.

We need to cultivate our own happiness and then share it with others. Relationships that are based on mutual happiness are more lasting and fulfilling than those that are based on dependency and neediness.

Happy inside, fresh outside.

RW

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