The Greatest Regrets of Dying People- What Really Matters
…and how to avoid them
What matters most in our lives? What is really important and what is not? What will we regret later? What does remain in the end?
Unfortunately, these incredibly important questions often play too small of a role in our busy everyday lives. Most people are so busy with their jobs and everyday problems that too little attention is paid to the most important questions.
Who is best suited to answer this question? The dying. People who look back on their lives and draw a balance.
In 2012, Bronnie Warren published a book on the five biggest regrets of dying people inspired by her time as a palliative carer. I find the regrets incredibly instructive. They tell us what we can do better in our lives to have fewer regrets at the end of our days.
The Top 5 Regrets
- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
- I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
- I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
- I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Going Your Own Way
Personally, I can relate to the first point in particular. I am going to university right now. So I’m following the traditional path that society and my parents expect. But I keep having thoughts like: “ school, college, working until 67, retirement, a few years of freedom, and dying. Life should have more to offer. I have no desire for this traditional path.” That’s why, inspired by the book “The Millionaire Fastlane,” I’m trying to take a different path. You can find the main ideas of the book in this article.
The second regret is also related to this. If you follow the traditional way and work in a 9–5 job, you exchange your time for money all your life. 5 days of work for 2 days of freedom. So you work long and hard, which you might regret at the end of your life like so many dying ones.
I’m sure there are plenty of people who are happy in their 9–5 job. The jobs themselves are not the problem. The problem, in my opinion, is that many people want to fulfill the expectations of others and don’t dare to do what they actually want. Studying and later doing a job you are not passionate about is certainly something you will regret at the end of your days. As the first two regrets show.
Keep Your Friends and Family Close
That is the second lesson I draw from the regrets of the dying.
- I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
That is the second lesson I draw from the regrets of the dying. These were certainly things I needed to read again. That’s why I’m making a resolution to do something with old friends again and to tell my loved ones what they mean to me. We never know how often we will have the opportunity to do so.
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